What did 3 Minutes of Lust Cost You? || Acharya Prashant (2026)

What did 3 Minutes of Lust Cost You? || Acharya Prashant (2026)

Author Name:Acharya Prashant

Youtube Channel Url:https://www.youtube.com/@AcharyaPrashant

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Transcript:
(00:00) Uh for me what love generally translates into is that when I try to feel it or try to go deeper into it, it generally takes the direction of sexual instinct. I find myself in a mess. I have nothing to say about sex at all. It's your body, your personal matter. It's like your morning routine.
(00:18) Who am I to judge the color of your [ __ ] Your business, you mind it. Sex is a niche. It's a physical thing. As long as you know what the entire deal is about, do whatever you want to. And at the root of most of these relationships is the sexual urge. So sexual urge becomes relationship. Relationship becomes suffering. That's where the equation threatens.
(00:38) Must ask yourself is it worth the deal in your thoughts when the whole thing cooks up? Do you think of life beyond 3 minutes 30 seconds? Think of that. Think of the daily chores. Think of the laundry list. Think of the vegetables. How sexy. kadu pumpkin sexy all for 3 minutes 30 seconds entire life carrying pumpkins on the head.
(01:16) Will this company uplift you? Yes, uplift you but only physically for 3 hours 30 minutes. 3 hours. Moment you think of a woman all you think of is the Namaste Char coming close to you it has been a gradual process like from YouTube to sessions and then to book stalls and then being at PAF now for me what love generally translates into is that when I try to feel it or try to go deeper into
(02:00) it, it generally takes the direction of sexual instincts and the kind of definition about love that I am getting here, it's it's kind of difficult for me to relate with it. I find myself in a mess. Please uh clarify on that. >> When I talk of love, you don't feel anything at all. And when you feel of love, you just all that you feel is sex.
(02:26) Sex is an action. Things happen, right? Bodies meet. Organs engage. We are talking of the actor here. Sex is an activity, an action. I'm talking of physical sex. Then there is the psychological sex. When you're thinking and all, even that is action. We are talking of who is the one engaging in all that. Who is the one getting into all that and why? For what reason does he understand? We are not condemning any action here.
(03:12) Your problem is your lodic background. You come from that soil and then this sapling is planted there. So what you get is some kind of hybrid, a mongril. Half log dharmi, half sodhi. A cross between a mouse and an elephant. Can't imagine what kind of thing would it be. Whatever. That's your love.
(04:00) Lok dharm mates with sodarm. Rat meets elephant. Relephant. You carry that notion for sure that there is something bad about sex because deep within somewhere you still have respect for Babai G. Will you be able to actually beat him up with your slipper when you meet him? Because that's what he deserves.
(04:43) But you won't be able to do that. That kind of treatment you will give to a thief, to a robber, to a dquat. But Babai is worse than these three. But you will still like at most ignore him. Somewhere you still respect him. Therefore, you respect all the notions of virginity and chastity he gave you and then you some create some kind of fusion a conflation your loic concepts and the Gita interpretations
(05:30) you get here relevant. I have nothing to say about sex at all. It's your body, your personal matter. It's like your morning routine. Who am I to judge the color of your [ __ ] of whether you visit the loot two times a day or four times a day. It's as physical as that, as practic as that. The question is, do you know yourself? Do you as an ego see yourself? And if
(06:19) you do, what's the kind of company you want to keep? If I have any kind of self diagnosis, I will know the kind of company I should keep and the kind of person I should avoid. Right? Now, when you engage with somebody for sexual reasons, a lot of time is spent together. Maybe the sexual activity lasts just a few minutes, but the companionship does not stop at that.
(06:57) Right? The companionship continues for many many hours, weeks, months, years sometimes like 14 rebirths just because you had one unfortunate moment of penetration. So now sad janam are you prepared to have that company? That's the question to be asked. Sex is a niche. It's a physical thing. There is a pleasure even in urinating or [ __ ] Ask someone who is holding back.
(07:40) What you know right even in farting people are are reported to have fallen unconscious because out of social stigma they couldn't fart. So the gas actually rose up and they and they were rushed to the hospital and the doctor said nothing just get out or hold your nose tight because the explosion is the treatment.
(08:19) That's very similar to sex in the physical aspect of it. Nothing more than that physical pleasure. Like itching a place that's itching to be itched. That's all. That's all. Be it sex, be it masturbation, all that is just like an itch. A very very physical thing. The real question lies elsewhere. And by talking so much of sex, you avoid the real question.
(08:51) The real question is for the sake of sex. Now you are accepting this person's company and this person will be with you now for so many hours, so many days and what will he do to the quality of your life? What will he do? Sexual engagement is not just sexual engagement. The ego is an emotional thing. You know that, right? What starts with the body gets into emotions and then gets into some kind of a prolonged company.
(09:26) Is that a happy bargain? That's the question. Or in your momentary excitation, have you forgotten the totality of the deal. As long as you know what the entire deal is about, do whatever you want to. What do the sacred books have to do with what you what you do to your underpants? Your business, you mind it.
(10:17) Spirituality has nothing at all to say about uh uh your sexual preferences, inclinations and remember the bigger issue at hand. The bigger issue is always the ego because that's what suffers and relationships are a major major source of suffering major. And at the root of most of these relationships is the sexual urge.
(10:56) So sexual urge becomes relationship. Relationship becomes suffering. That's where the equation threatens. That's what you should be mindful of. And for women there is an added component pregnancy. So they need to be extra cautious. Sexual urge will become emotional relationship, emotional thing will become something else.
(11:30) Then it will become something else and that will be get me kids. And now it's an entirely different dimension altogether. New lives, new beings, new kind of attachments, duties you cannot get away from. And where did all of that come from? Some itch in the body. That's all. That's all. You must ask yourself, is it worth the deal? Sex is fine, neither good nor bad. But
(12:15) it doesn't stop at that. No, you look at her and you you scream within sex, right? And the time horizon that you have is full three and a half minutes. That's all right. But will it actually seize at 3 and a half minutes? No. It starts when the clock hits 3 minutes 30 seconds. Then the real thing starts. Now there is the cheesy smile, the tears.
(13:00) Huh? That special touch, the bonding. You said I signed up for three and a half minutes. This is getting longer and deeper. It will get longer and it will get deeper. Do you factor that in in your thoughts when the whole thing cooks up? Do you think of life beyond 3 minutes 30 seconds? >> No. >> Think of that. Think of the pressure cooker.
(13:42) Huh? Think of the daily chores. Think of the laundry list. Think of the vegetables. How sexy. They wear kadu kadu pumpkin sexy all for 3 minutes 30 seconds. Entire life carrying pumpkins on the head. What kind of ego dissolution are for you
(14:26) getting from that? Please tell me that what kind of liberation is that company is meant to dissolve you, liberate you, elevate you. What kind of elevation is this? You know of so many couples. Please give me one example where they elevate each other. Please, that's what you must remember in your moment of sexual urge.
(14:59) This will become companionship and the other person is not here to elevate me because both of you are operating from your ego centers. The entire objective is just to consume and exploit the other. The other is just a body to you in your moment of sex. you're not going to elevate the other and vice versa and then you wonder where did the entire life drift to how did I lose entire life because you know look at this companionship not that the other person is bad the very structure of the institution
(15:44) is evil the nature of the relationship itself is to be blamed. You are welding two persons of the opposite gender together so that they can procreate. This is an obscene deal. Nothing is more vulgar than this. Will this company uplift you? Yes, uplift you but only physically for 3 hours 30 minutes. 3 hours.
(16:45) I gathered that from the shocked expressions. Why force other into body identification? When you look at the other as a body and if the very nature of the relationship is such that you will be forced to look at the other as the body then you are demeaning the other also then you are compelling the other to look at himself or herself as the body with your friends with your male
(17:32) friends. If you're sitting, you might not be very conscious of your body. But the moment a young attractive woman walks into the room, have you seen how you become conscious of your body? Have you seen? Same applies to women. Three girls sitting and chatting and they might not be very conscious of their clothes.
(17:55) A young stud walks in and they'll be suddenly very conscious of their bodies. Now that itself bodess ill because here is a person who is making you more body centered even without speaking to you. He is making you feel like a body. How can the relationship then relieve you from your body? Then the body is the favorite shelter of the ego.
(18:29) the first refuge and the first property of the ego, the body. You want to know the kind of woman you must be with. The kind of woman you can be with is the one who makes you forget that she's a woman. And again, vice versa. If a woman asks me, "What's the kind of man I can be with? The man who doesn't come across as a man to you, the man who makes you practically forget that he
(19:14) is a man, except maybe in moments of physical intimacy, except for those few minutes, you can comfortably forget that there is a man or a woman. The body becomes irrelevant. The gender becomes irrelevant. That is right company. But that doesn't happen with you. Or does it? Moment you think of a woman, all you think of is the curves and the sexual aspects of the whole thing.
(19:57) This is not morality. Right? This is diagnosis. This is reflection. So sex is all right. But remember the bigger picture. Sex is a very very small thing. It'll be over before you realize and you'll be left with the massive remains of this little thing. A very petty things. A very very petty thing that leaves behind massive
(20:42) residue. And that residue is yours to carry for life. That doesn't mean you have to avoid women or men whatever. That simply means you must look for the right company and the right relationship. And the right relationship doesn't exclude sex. We are not saying that at all. Sex is not forbidden at all. We are just saying sex is a small thing and right relationship is a much much bigger thing.
(21:18) Is that difficult to get? Is that difficult to get? Right relationship is a much much bigger thing. Uh hi my name is Ankit uh and I am a tech professional here in Bangalore. I work at LinkedIn u been listening to Achar for two plus years but initial journey was around YouTube like I was listening a lot on YouTube and u on YouTube when we listen to Achar a lot mistake that I did and a lot of us do is that we think that he's some kind of a life coach solving problems of our life and all of that but shift to Gita satras
(22:04) was the major turning point uh for me like because that's where I understood where this learning is coming from and like there is a hard base of Bhagat Gita and Adwat Vanta philosophy from which all the teachings and learnings are emerging and that has been a life-changing force for me. So I like my life was full of stress, unorganized behavior.
(22:28) A lot of it has changed and it's changing on a dayto-day basis. When as and when I observe my life there is massive changes happening. I somehow feel a lot of um like spurts of happiness for no reason and a lot of um what do you call like um pressure as well um like to do better and better and better which which I had forgotten which I had left after my school days and college days that okay now the learning part stops now is the time to kind of live life and have that Bangalore kind of vibe like partying and outing and malls and shopping and all of that
(23:03) that's that's there But now you see that where it's coming from, what is the root of it and how that is something which does not fulfill us and what fulfills us is something totally different. As I said my life was very messed up and uh disorganized but joining Gita Satras is changing it like phenomenally and I hope to continue on this path for a much longer time and um become like a completely transformed person.
(23:32) Um all thanks to Achara G and I can't thank him enough in words and especially the Gita sessions that happen uh in the evenings. Yeah.