Sex: Premarital and Postmarital || Acharya Prashant, with Delhi University (2023)
Author Name:Acharya Prashant
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Transcript:
(00:00) d [Music] so when we enter a college at being a student uh there is a there is a an open
(00:49) environment in the college where we can freely mingle with the people of opposite gender now when one is away from the family and and they are yearning for some intimacy it is quite common in our generation that people engage in uh casual physical uh intimacy so is it according to you is it right is premarital sex or uh this uh casual physical relations right or not question is based on a few assumptions
(01:34) chetna you have asked about premarital sex if the center of the question is marital then why not begin with postmarital sex that is something that you have taken as granted you do you see the Assumption implicit in your question you're saying postmarital is okay so I don't even need to question that I'm questioning only premarital let's begin with postmarital rather so you're asking me is premarital
(02:21) sex okay I'm asking you is postmarital sex okay please tell me what depends right that's the answer depends depends depends is postmarital sex okay depends on the people who are engaging in the same thing applies to premarital also even in postmarital sex there can be a lot of violence a lot of exploitation you know of that right even the law admits that now that the wife indeed can approach
(03:08) for a legal redressal there can be marital rape just as there can be the worst kind of uh sexual encounter after marriage equally there can be a very bad kind of sexual encounter before marriage does not matter matter the marital word does not matter what matters is the quality of the encounter what is the what is the mind like what is the quality of the Union of these two people and if two people are not meeting in
(03:58) in in ual love then it doesn't matter whether the thing is postmarital or premarital it is simply just abominable so so do not uh approve the cultural prejudices to easily Chet in India we have boys and girls who preserve their Chastity and then literally hand it over to a stranger post
(04:44) marriage equally we have boys and girls who just go for casual flings while at college and and they they just bring each other down in all this don't you see all that happening in uh not only in the Metro cities now it's happening everywhere and it doesn't happen it doesn't even wait uh for the college days to come it now begins in class 8th Class 6th the [ __ ] nibby affair as you call it these days so so a class six girl would say
(05:30) what that one that he's my boy and the boy belongs to class seven the boy says that's my girl and together these two are even trying to have some kind of physical thing now that's so that's just an abuse of the body is that not you do not know who you are you do not know what life is you do not know what relationship means you do not know what to relate to the other for and you are just trying to emulate something you saw on the screen something that the adults were doing and you want to copy that all that is so
(06:13) nonsensical equally what is happening after the marriage is is just so so life degrading it's just that what happens after marriage is approved by law and religion and Society so we don't want to talk about that we say it is legal we even say it is sacred because it is sanctioned by religion the priests or the mes or the they were present when the ceremony took place so now even if they have the worst quality of physical encounters as
(06:58) husband and wife all that is okay that is possible you know even the government resists a lot when the court says that marital rape has to be taken as a crime the government says if if you turn that into a law then the family system will collapse they do not know what they ad meting otherwise why will the family system be threatened if you make Le merital rape of punishable crime but they are saying no no
(07:44) no don't turn marital rape into a legal crime otherwise the family system will collapse look at what that implies families are built on it's not even about the family system it's about the quality of individuals we are not raising conscious individuals an unconscious man an unconscious woman they reach the age of 25 or 30 or sometimes just 18 or 20 and they get into that npal Arrangement the sacred WS and the
(08:32) ceremonies and they are declared husband and wife what is this an exercise in unconsciousness nobody knows really what is going on since everybody does that since it has been traditionally happening so we to will do this and after that we'll have sex what will be the quality of that Union so so it's not about whether the whole thing is happening before or after marriage the question is what is the level of consciousness of these two people we want an awakened Society we want a spiritually literate society and then you will not need to
(09:19) tell the man and the woman what to do in life they will know the decisions to make they will know the partner to choose they will know what the body means they will understand where lust comes from they will know the purpose of life they will also know the meaning of attachment and they will know what to avoid they also know what to get into getting it so we have to educate our
(10:09) youngsters not regulate them you need to Mentor them not police them guiding someone is one thing huh throwing light on someone's path is one thing and dictating somebody's life and path is something totally different right throw light on their way and give light to their eyes and the rest they will decide on
(11:00) their own and they have to otherwise it's a disgrace if if you have to handhold a young man or a young woman to be young is to no more be a kid right so maturity is the Hallmark of Youth if a young person is not mature enough to make the basic decisions in life then the society is answerable what kind of Youth has the society raised what was the quality of Education what
(11:49) kind of influence did the environment have on the consciousness of that uh young person so enable them Empower them not condition them not dictate them liberate not dictate and Liberation is is the is the best help the best
(12:32) service and the foremost indicator of love if you love someone Give Them Wings give them light Give Them Wings give them self knowledge and then they will fly on their own all this is not sounding convincing is it it is so you said two things um in the previous question you said that body identification is the root cause of most of the
(13:15) evils in the world and in my myself as well so um and body identification is strengthened by um identifying myself as the gender so um I want to understand this a bit more where does sex come from from birth right when the kid takes birth you immediately Mark M or F so so you get it from there it's in the body and then the gender role that you have provided
(13:59) H that comes from the sex if you are a girl you'll have pink toys even even the the paint on the walls of baby girl rooms that's pink so that's how your gender identity develops pink fans and dolls and and and soft toys to play with no guns no tanks we know of these stereotypes right boys get police cars to play
(14:50) with girls get dolls and frogs to play with so so that's how this thing develops and the basis is the sex that you are born with at the time of birth it it just it's a sticky thing that carries on from there your very language is so so sex Centric is it not you don't address a person just as a person you say he [Music] she a
(15:37) i as if the person is nothing Sans the gender you don't want to conceal the gender in any way you just you don't want to think of the person as Consciousness you are constantly thinking of that person as the body so if the body is female the person will be add addressed in one way if the body is male the person is addressed in some other way can you imagine the kind of effect it will be having on the mind even language is built in a way that is constantly turning you body Centric you are just sitting reading a
(16:20) book and when you are immersed in a book you are no more a girl you are just pure Consciousness engaging with the author engaging with knowledge right you you're sitting immersed in a girl and someone comes and says what have you been reminded of what have you been reminded of you have been reminded of your gender see what language has done it has turned you into a woman you were the Consciousness and you have been made a body getting it so so that's the principal battle you have to fight in
(17:07) life to identify first of all with Consciousness rather than the body the body is just a fact the body is not your reality and the body is not at all your destination the body is something that that biology prri has given you it's an irreversible fact okay I'm I'm I'm born a woman but that's something I start out with that's not something I want to end at the body can at most be my beginning point it cannot be my destination and I cannot decide my
(17:53) beginning point you do not decide your chromosomes you born a woman you had no say in that that's okay but you have all the say over what you want to be in life huh and what you want to be is something very gender very gender neutral you have to be liberated in life and Liberation has no gender Liberation is when you transcend your gender right truth has no gender the sky has no
(18:39) gender Freedom has no gender that's where you have to reach so you begin as a woman but you have to reach the sky you have to transcend your gender that's the purpose of life incident you know the word beauty comes to my mind you know who's the most beautiful woman who has transcended her womanness a woman who lives by
(19:30) her feminine traits her hormones and the rest of it and the social conditioning just cannot be beautiful at most she can be physically attractive but a truly beautiful woman is someone who has transcended the sex and the gender identity that's that's when you have Beauty the same applies to men as well thank you sir
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