Sex in India: Myths, Lies & Hidden Truths | Sexual Health Exposed @allohealth

Sex in India: Myths, Lies & Hidden Truths | Sexual Health Exposed @allohealth

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(00:00) One in three men have some of the other form of sexual dysfunction. I mean there are so many people who have spoken on this podcast of yours that I was going through about how good relationship is extremely important ingredient for for good. >> Absolutely. When you are in act and if you're not getting an erection which is the most common problem that we see any couple who is watching this they might be having a bad life and a bad relationship because they are not having a good sex. You had to give them one tip
(00:26) and what would that be? So was it difficult to enter this space when people are not able to talk about it? How are you going to make a business out of it? >> For a man defines relationship and for a woman it is the other way where the emotional comfort, safety, security around that understanding is what leads to good.
(00:47) >> Is masturbation bad for someone? Welcome back to yet another episode of unset feeling with Shanki. We live in a country where most of us have questions around sex and intimacy. Yet very few have a safe space to talk about it. And that silence has shaped of how we see ourselves, our relationships or even our health.
(01:16) That's where Alo health comes in. India's first dedicated sexual health platform which is normalizing these conversation and helping people in different ways and to talk about that we have prane who was once the COO of Ola and now the founder of Alo health and today we are going to talk about what sexual health really means and what are the different problems that we face on a daily basis but we don't talk about it so hi prane how are you doing >> hi Shanki I'm good thank you for having me here >> okay I want you to open up about your life about your journey so far. So
(01:50) starting off with the very first question prana who are you apart from just being the founder of Alo health and apart from business apart from anything that you do professionally who are you? >> Yeah. No, I think uh uh I'm someone who is very curious and is uh deeply interested in solving problems, right? And uh I think I get even more excited when the impact around that is more meaningful.
(02:21) So yeah, that's how I would define. I know you said not business, not other things, but someone who likes uh you know appreciating and solving uh impactful problems. question. How did that change from being the founding member at Ola to starting Alo Health? These are two different businesses like one is into a different like Ola bikes or Ola cars.
(02:51) Now suddenly you have jumped into a business which is more >> around health, sexual health. Okay. So how is that different mindset when you have worked for 10 years continuously on a project like that? Suddenly you're moving into a very different niche. How how was that shift? Yeah. And I think uh you know it is very uh it's something that I've been asked a lot of times.
(03:16) Right. Uh uh so I think Ola taught me uh you know how to think big, right? uh and and how to aim for you know uh more in terms of uh you know how you can problem solve things work on bigger problems etc. So and I was very fortunate uh for that and uh say when I left Ola you know I realized that you know whatever next I want to do it has to be something which is relevant and meaningful for at least 20 30 years right and uh for the next 20 30 years of my life and you know my existence healthcare was very intriguing right
(03:56) because and and that was a time when covid was also uh you know around us to or I spent a lot of time you know figuring out what in healthcare or is there anything that I can work on I am coming from a very engineer I'm an engineer by my education >> right and and you know in the process when I was talking to people talking to doctors uh some of my and I was in my hometown Vanasi some of my schoolmates are now dentists and doctors in Vanasi so I was talking to them uh and I realized that you know I mean it is everywhere but no one is
(04:35) talking about it. Exactly. >> Right. And and that was uh sexual health. Right. So uh you know there were enough and more indicators during my research that uh during my uh phase of learning about healthcare uh relationships, marriages, self-confidence, shame uh know everyone has directly or indirectly affected by it, right? You know if you look at your friend circle which is you know anywhere between 25 to 35 uh you know at least you know 25% to 30% of them you take any random sample they would be dealing with
(05:14) some of the other issues regarding their relationship regarding their sexual health or regarding uh their fertility. >> Absolutely right. >> But no one wants to talk about it. No one is talking about it even if you want to help uh you know and now it is changing for good but it's very slow and you know we're still scratching the surface because you know that this couple is suffering they are trying to figure out but there's nothing that you can do or there's nothing that they are also kind of reaching out for helping so there's
(05:47) so much of stigma it is quoted heavily quoted with stigma and yet it is all over right so I thought this is an interesting problem that that can be with me for or that I can work on for the next whatever 20 30 years and uh you know started going deeper into it to figure out exactly right and at any point challenging when we talk about Indian society right we as you mentioned and that is why they're not talking about it so openly so was it difficult firstly from your point of view to enter this space when people are not able to talk about
(06:25) it, how are you going to make a business out of it? >> Yeah. >> Okay. And secondly, with regards to your family, okay, was your family okay with you getting into this space? Because I see like family, they are okay with me making content on sexual health. >> Okay. But as soon as it goes to someone else, my friends family, they are like, you understand? So stigma.
(06:52) So how did you change that in this like how did it change for you? How challenging was it for you when you started this or when this idea hit your mind? >> Yeah. So I think shanki it's going to be challenging and that was the part that I was looking forward to to be very honest right because again I was not hoping that was not my goal.
(07:16) My goal was to uh be with something which is challenging and be at it right. So uh it started from me knowing more about it, understanding and then you know calling it out that yes this is what I'm doing right the next thing was I was at home uh my brothers cousin brothers they're all in still in the family business uh I checked with them uh they were like this is something which is like problem erection issues etc.
(07:47) uh when I spoke to my dad uh you know and and I had built that uh over time I had built that rapper with my dad that I can speak out uh uh and uh and this is very common in like typical tier 2 middle-class uh families in India right so but when I told him uh you know what gave me like the real motivation and uh you know a boost was you know I remember he said when I explained to him that this is what I want to problem then he said but >> right so I think that is something which gave me a lot of and then it was like yeah it doesn't matter what my uh you
(08:33) know extended family thinks about it and what you know everyone else thinks because it was a huge uh kind of a validation to what journey I was about to embark and I was impressed with my idea right and uh so I think uh and then throughout I mean even till this date there are a lot of challenges you know I have seen people when I was taking interviews they have actually hung up on me uh that business u you know in a lot of cases doctors on the first day of their clinic uh uh you know have been told by the landlords that you know we
(09:09) should shut the clinic because building but you know we have now 35 clinics across the country like Ranchie maybe we had to change the clinic on the first day on the day of launch right uh there have been instances where uh you know some of the doctors after working for a month have said that they love this but they have a lot of pressure from their family uh because >> like what kind of pressure >> that they are a psychologist.
(09:46) They are helping people from to kind of cure their sexual dysfunctions and uh and and we train them right. So they were not uh technically I mean they were not uh trained on this. So we do like an extensive training for about 40 to 60 hours depending on the doctor's background or bad uh they come on right and we can talk about it as well to after 15 20 days we get a call their spouses are not okay with it their extended family is not okay with it so they want to move out so there have been challenges across the board around it
(10:20) but I think that's the fun part and that's the journey right >> I want to also now educate people who are watching this episode with regards to a lot of things that they don't know about. So starting with the very first thing sexual health explain what is that? What is sexual health? >> Yeah, I think in very very simple terms now sexual health is basically uh you know your ability to have uh safe, pleasurable, fulfilling sexual experiences, right? And uh this is this has both uh a psychological aspect of it and a physiological side of it. Right?
(11:00) So uh that is what sexual health is. Right? Sexual health. The first thing that goes to goes to goes to their head is sex. Yeah. So what I want to also tell everyone sexual health does not only mean being physically in there. It is also about your mental being. It is about your physical being. It is about overall sexual being like sexual health.
(11:31) >> Correct. if I'm not wrong if >> no absolutely sh so I think sexual health may both physical and psychological both aspects are equally important and especially like in in our society in the age group when people usually are sexually active uh a lot of problems that we have seen and almost 90 95% of it is psychological right so you'll be surprised and I'm sure you won't know it right out of almost 45 doctors who presently work with us.
(12:06) At least 35 to 40 of them are psychiatrist by their training and then they have become psychologists after our uh training. Right. So it is a lot more between the ears than between the legs. Right. >> Right. So when you talk about sexual health, why don't we treat sexual if you if you're saying sexual health is so important in our daily lives for everyone, why aren't we treating sexual health just like any heart disease or a body disease? Why are do we have to separate sexual health? Is it that not important than me having a heart attack
(12:42) right now? No, >> I think sexual health is is something which uh so I think firstly sexual health is also health right. So that's the fundamental aspect of it right it is a very integral and important part of your overall well-being which is severely ignored right org reason is you know the way we all have the way the society is the way the you know there is shame stigma taboo around sexual health right uh so that is the reason why people don't and and it is not something which uh impacts you on a uh on an immediate basis right so it's
(13:28) something which develops and builds over time right so you always procrastinate uh so the you know there are times when you doubt yourself then you say that there you know then there is some level of acceptance that there is a problem then generally right and then it moves to a point it starts playing back and it's a cycle And your inability to perform uh leads to uh you know many more issues which is it starts impacting your relationship.
(13:59) It starts impacting your intimacy, desire, affinity and your overall confidence, your mental health, uh your performance at work, your productivity. So it's a it's very integrated but still we don't address it and the opportunities out to address right one is the stigma and shame that I carry if I have an issue and second is even if I have crossed that chasm and if I want to actively solve for it I end up going to Google or listen to some podcasts or content on YouTube or go on Amazon and buy some uh Ayurveda products or
(14:38) neutrutical products. But you know formal mainstream uh medical science may there are not too if you leave aside aloe there not too many avenues right to go to right if you have a heart issue you'll go to a cardiologist you go to a dentist you go to an optoortho etc but for sexual issues you don't know a lot of times >> it is because people do not have that knowledge right now >> both people don't have so starts from acceptting ability then uh understanding and knowledge and then avenues access >> you know alternate medicine is a very
(15:17) very big industry in this right my research says that there are 70 to 80,000 of these guptro clinics in our country you told me you are from Agra I am sure >> I've seen a lot of it but I do not have this number with me >> right so 70 to 80,000 km is almost 1 in every 3 km across the country right 2 to 3 km, right? >> And are those legit? Like most of them are not, right? And you know people, it's a hope based treatment.
(15:57) So this lack of access mushroom this entire industry of quacks. >> Now say for aloe health because I'm sure you have a plan for the next 5 year 10 years or say over the years. what is the idea by starting Alo Health like what change do you see in India and beyond going forward when you talk about Alo health? So I think one of the things what is ideal for me or for from an alo health point of view is that there is sexual health is just considered as any other type of health uh that you have right so if we can normalize sexual
(16:36) health as or going to a sexologist as going just like going to a dentist >> I think that is what I would want to see and yeah >> wow that is great and I I'm Thank you prana again to start to start something like this like because if companies like this don't come into our country I think a lot of us will not be able to move forward in a lot of things when when we talk about sexual health it is also about relationship with your partner relationship with everything that you are having on your daily basis so I think a company like
(17:10) Alo health is definitely going to help those people who are in need and maybe who are just hiding behind in a table trying to just peep through and see what can I get and Alo Health has exactly entered that space and like maybe changing a lot of things and thank you so much for doing that because we wanted that and like all of us wanted that.
(17:34) So like for people who wants to understand what does Alo health exactly provide. So if you can quickly tell us if anyone who who are facing few problems with their sexual health what are the things that they can get when they come to Alo health what are the different services that you guys provide >> yeah I think uh so we are a one-stop shop or everything under the ambit of sexual health is what we provide right so which means that uh you know if you have any problem uh pertaining to sexual health you can read about it uh from our
(18:06) website or from you know thousand thousand of content pieces that we have. Uh you can know more about it through assessments. These are free assessments. You get instant reports to understand. Uh if you feel like you can definitely talk to an expert, talk to a doctor. You can also talk to a therapist.
(18:28) Uh you can also get uh you know identified what are the right tests to to be done if there is a need for tests because >> the doctors will guide you accordingly. >> Yeah. Yeah. And then you can you know get the entire treat. So one of the things that we do uh is handhold the patient till the end of the journey. Right.
(18:50) Uh typically a lot of people think that this is a permanent problem. Right? But almost 95 96% of it is solvable. Right? Our success rate is close to about 93 94%. Right? >> And the average duration of treatment is anywhere between 3 to 6 months. Right? The most common would be about three to four months and you'll start seeing improvements in like the third fourth week onwards.
(19:16) So typical first month patient comes like erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation. These are like the most common problems. uh and you know doctor studies their history understands what was the genesis of the problem and uh then they recommend a treatment which is a mix of medication therapy depending on what the problem is and then after the first month when they come back uh you know they say problem >> because that's obvious right for how long you have to do I have to be on these beds still like for eternity so then the next stage is to how to tape it
(19:51) down and how to kind of uh build back that confidence and the psychological uh aspect of things is is then kind of kicked off and typical journey and you always have exceptional cases etc. Right. Got it. So your doctors are going to guide the patients accordingly whatever they are looking. Yes. Yes. Now whenever we talk about sexual health problems or you actually need an expert to help you with so yeah like I said sexual health problems right it develops over a period of time and any individualiz let's say when you are in a sexual act
(20:44) and if you're not getting an erection which is the most common problem that we see or uh your ejaculation time is very low uh very low be medically defined but I feel that it is low or I feel I think that my partner feels or they have expressed that it is less the time is uh it's a very early ejaculation or premature ejaculation so those cases you have an instance and one instance here and there is absolutely fine, right? Uh not every time sex is perfect exactly the way you wanted it to be or your partner wanted it to be. Uh but when
(21:21) this happens repeatedly, that is when you start to question your abilities and your performance, it also develops. You develop anxiety like so like for example in premature ejaculation, the most common cause of premature ejaculation is performance anxiety. Right. And and the right or the most uh relevant or most desired solution for that is a therapy.
(21:51) >> Right. There are certain techniques that you need to know. You need to understand your body better and it happens over like a few sessions and then you start improving. Uh right. Similarly, uh you know, erectile dysfunction also has many forms in it. Right? But like I said, most of it is psychoggenic.
(22:09) The at least the cases that we see is psychoggenic. So these are like the most common problems that people develop or at least realize that they have developed over a period of time right and then it keeps compounding right in the most common I didn't perform the way I was supposed issue and then you come to a point you start looking for help.
(22:55) when you go for help because of stigma, YouTube videos. Now the unfortunately in this world where content is everything so it's very hard for for an individual to take that judgment. So YouTube there are videos with millions of views erectile dysfunction right so there is no end to it right and and lot of content creators are doing a very very good job at least in the last four or five years but
(23:41) ability as someone who is already demotivated erection assume that I am that So then you go back to what is more convenient to you rather than going to a doctor or you know it is very very prevalent for people to go and buy selena or or viagra or the active ingredient in viagra uh from the pharmacy.
(24:11) uh it works in a lot of cases but then what after that? So a lot of cases that we see is people have erectile dysfunction and a high dependency on Vigra or >> so they consume it very regularly. >> They consume it every time almost every time that they feel that they are going to have an intercourse. >> That is very bad for health.
(24:29) >> That is bad for health and and then coming out of that loop is something that they don't know how to do right. Uh It doesn't work that way, right? You're still consuming it where probably you don't need to. You don't have to, right? So problems then people then go to Google, they go to YouTube, they go to nearby pharmacy and then they go to hope based treatments which is these quacks like they are not competing with anyone.
(25:06) modern medicine sciencebacked sexual health clinics right if I go and don't get my treatment and if treatment right and uh so I think that is where the industry the other big part that people do is go and try shilit >> right so ayurvea Like personally I believe in yoga and the wellness aspect of Ayurveda but not so much on you know the Ayurvedic products that are out there right.
(25:56) problem right and it doesn't work right I mean the best of the studies only have I think about 60 people >> uh and and but you know cultural there is a lot of history culture linked to Ayurveda and belief and the biggest thing is side effect which is also what people believe people believe right but one thing that People don't realize it everything at the end of the day is chemistry that everything is a chemical right even the most natural form of things that you consume is some form of you know you can decode it into
(26:36) some form of chemical and then see whether it is beneficial for you or not and sexual medicine or sexual health the science has evolved to the last level right it falls under precision medicine precision medicine branch of category of science medical science diagnosis correct to there is a very very high certaintity of success rate you will see improvements right but still because of the entire environment around us both from people who are suffering and people who even though they are interested as doctors to you
(27:13) know create a mega career in sexual health uh they can't because there are no opportunities for them right so deadlock which we are trying to break >> but again I think one of the things that you mentioned earlier as well 70,000 there are 70,000 in the country that you find and on the other hand you said I just have 35 clinics but I think what those 35 clinics are able to impact is not what those 70,000 quacks are able to right now in the in the >> I hope so right and probably but like I think uh those 70,000 clinics uh well
(27:54) these These 35 clinics are covering like a small geography, right? I mean, it's a very small fraction of coverage that we have. So, our goal is to keep adding more clinics and to be closer to the patients, right? As as much as we can, right? So, we we going city by city. Uh we have presence in Bangalore, we have presence in Mumbai, we are building presence in Pune, Hyderabad.
(28:18) Uh we also have a few clinics in tier 2 towns like Mysore and Ranchi. uh but the goal is to continue to keep building more such clinics, hire and train more doctors. >> Also there's one more thing I wanted to mention because when you talking about key people usually don't talk about it like but you have no people to talk about it and then you continuously just follow in that you just fall in that trap and you just be in that trap there's no coming out again.
(28:45) >> So there's one story that >> I want to tell you. So uh recently uh uh I was sitting with like a friend of mine like both of them are married right now and it's a couple friend I was sitting with them and suddenly we just started talking about uh sex education and I was talking to them about it.
(29:02) So then the girl started mentioning yeah funnily that while having sex so I to have so much pain I'm just telling you this the minute thing about it >> that I have so much pain and then the guy was like yeah while having an intercourse we usually go through some pain all the time >> oh maybe I don't know then I'm like have you ever I'm definitely you should first of all go and see a doctor >> like just see someone like like the first thing that was like now from there we started talking about different things and suddenly I brought
(29:38) up a topic of using lubes as well just try using lubes and all they're like what is lubs >> and trust me they're like 35 right now >> okay and they have no idea and they are educated >> so I don't think so education has anything to do with having having to know about sexual health so when I started talking about that and they're like what is this? We don't know what lube is.
(30:03) >> So you see I'm just talking about that people are people do not know about it >> and they are not because I'm someone who talks about it. They spoke to me about it. >> Yeah. >> Or else so this is the situation in the country with couples as well. Yeah. >> So when I talk about this pr I want to also know that do you find a lot of couples coming into aloe for these kind of problems as well? Oh yes m uh what you told about your friend right uh pain during sex for for a woman or for a female is a very common issue that we
(30:42) see >> right >> and more often than not uh you know uh we see them as couples right which is you know the the intercourse is painful now they don't know exactly problem right and uh you know it's it's a very very common problem and unfortunately ely a lot of women think that this is how it is right which needs to change right you ask me what is sexual health for you right sexual experiences which are safe pleasurable right >> so it's not a pleasurable experience uh and this has to change right so that is and and you said they are
(31:26) educated and this is lack of purely lack of it's a pure lack of awareness right and I'm thankful that over the last 3 to four years and and it's also because I'm in this space feed but there are lot of content creators like you and and many more who have started kind of normalizing a lot of these uh conversations around lube toys and different aspects of pleasure and safe sex practices but I think uh so like I genuinely want to also know that what are the biggest misconceptions that you have seen say having more
(32:03) clients meeting more clients every day or just meeting more people every day what are the biggest misconceptions about sexual health I think the biggest misconception is key they are alone in this problem is very unique and uh only they are and they know and Right? It is way more common than what we think.
(32:34) Right? I mean globally and I told you India detailed study but our estimates say that you know one in three men in sexually active age bracket have some of the other form of sexual dysfunction right. Uh so it is it is a lot more common than than what people individually think and again because we don't talk about it right uh another misconception is key you know especially for women and for females I think uh pain during sex right you know they've been told by their family members by their mother key to
(33:20) problem pain right which is not true. So that is considered to be like very normal right it is it is not true and that is why women don't reach out uh for solutions right and uh I think these are the two big misconceptions and but that's not how it works problem, right? So I think these are like the most common misconceptions or myths that people have about their sexual health.
(34:02) >> Great. And now when we talk about couples, Pran. Okay. So how does sexual health affect a relationship between a couple like in these days? >> So I think this is very interesting that we are talking about this and we finally came to this point, right? So I remember uh you know the first meeting that I had with our medical officer clinic as a patient uh key so when he understood and then he said I want to educate you about what you're getting into as a doctor.
(34:37) So I remember the first thing the and he had a printed slides that and he has trained a lot of doctors in the past. first slide good relationship good sex and good relationship good sex and then you have a reverse arrow right so I think uh they are both right to say the least and I think >> that slide and still in all our training documents that I have seen and in all our webinars etc that's the slide that he starts with or any of our doctors start with right so relationship or sex you know codependent and they go hand in
(35:19) hand right so good relationship leads to good sex and good sex lead to good relationship right >> I mean there are so many people who have spoken on this podcast of yours that I was going through about how good relationship is extremely important ingredient for for good sex right so you have had patients who have had bad relationships and because of that they had bad sex and maybe after that if Once they were educated about certain things, once they started understanding what sexual health is and how you need to
(35:49) deal with this, have they gotten into a better relationship then? Like they have had a better relationship after that. Yeah. So it is cyclic, right? Uh the starting point could be any of these and as it's on a 01 scale, right? You have some issues in your relationship, it starts affecting some parts of your sexual uh chemistry.
(36:13) you have some issues there starts impacting your relationship and it's it's a cycle that continues. It's a it's a negative spiral that gets built in. Right? So relationship may with more time and with more instances uh you know there is a lot of history uh judgment context that keeps building in right and uh often times you need a third person who understands this to break it and that is what couple therapy largely is right and uh you know that leads to obviously not so good sex the frequency intensity uh intimacy all of it keeps reducing
(36:48) with time right and And that is because of your life outside of your bedroom. Uh which also is is kind of fairly tensed and it is not moving in the direction that you would ideally want to. Right? And it's it's a mixture of human emotions and personality that that comes into play.
(37:10) But uh but usually uh there's a very structured way of approaching this. It's not unique. It is very very common, right? >> And there's a very scientific and structured way of coming out of it. uh through like basic few sessions of couples therapy uh which which would include you know individually talking to both the partners and together talking depending on what the situation is >> so yeah I think good relationship is is an ingredient or a very important precursor to good sex and vice versa right I mean I'm not talking about one-off instances but I'm talking about
(37:43) when you are in a relationship right >> got it and if if you can give us one tip for any couple who is watching this and might they might be having a bad sex life and a bad relationship because they are not having a good sex life. If you had to give them one tip scientifically back like scientifically backed then what would that be? >> Yeah, I know a lot of people have said this and I'm going to repeat that.
(38:05) I think uh if a couple is not having good sex because of good relationship uh not so good relationship or otherwise the the Ram band for this is communication right uh and uh they are also struggling and they know communication is uh the answer to it but the how to communicate is something that they have lost in the process right >> and that is exactly where you know an external help uh usually comes in >> comes in because I I have seen few cases because being in this field I've been reading few articles and all of those
(38:48) things so I've seen few cases where people assume that they are having a fight because of their kitchen or bed and all but the base it is coming from not having good sex people they start believing is that is not the thing. But these all things are just made up. The major core is not having good sex and due to which all of these things in the family or in with your partner it starts building up more right >> like I can feel exactly the opposite way
(39:34) uh because uh there's not you know we don't have good sex >> right so they are very intertwined to each other right and I think you know typically speaking and this is not always the case but typically speaking uh you know the other slide that comes to my mind is like uh you know men are from Mars and women are from Venus >> that's a that's a good book >> right so I think that is by and large a very good way to understand the at a macro level uh you know how uh different genders think >> right and like you know for a man
(40:14) commonly speaking I'm not saying always right. uh sex defines relationship and for a woman it is the other way where you know you know the emotional comfort, safety, security around that understanding is is what leads to uh you know good sex right so I think uh there is a little bit of play around that little bit of a play around that as well uh which needs to be considered symptoms main uh generally speaking as a source but uh if you see it from the others perspective then it is actually
(41:00) the opposite >> right now with this no because we talking about couples here I also want to bring in individuals who are not married and they are single or so I have heard this and maybe I know the answer as well but I want to listen it from you as say from for individuals and I've read this like 100 places and everyone has different opinions on this that is masturbation bad for someone masturbation is uh healthy uh so long as it is put it is in controlled format so what do you mean what I mean when I say it's in controlled format is
(41:38) right so so long as it is a means for you to uh self-pleasure yourself uh and not a means to distract yourself from everything around you. Uh so long as it's not an abuse uh it is good for health. I don't think there is anything bad with it. >> And where does it become problematic then? So I think when it starts affecting you right or you feel like you have an urge to masturbate while you are in your class or something class or something or uh you can't sleep without without
(42:27) masturbating or that's the first thing that you want to do when you wake up And if situation situation then you are you always feel that there is something that is missing that is something which I will consider as harmful use or abuse bracket which is some that is a point where you should actually seek help right help same is with pawn pawn as well right pawn as such is not bad although I know it is banned in our country but it is but what do you do and what do you learn and you know how do you kind of implement that in your life uh how it is
(43:06) changes your thoughts is something which is questionable right so yeah I think masturbation per se is not bad so long as it is for self-pleasure it is controlled uh you are in control of the situation and you're not kind of uh you know dependent on it uh you don't feel the urge of doing it in the middle of your work it's not affecting your daily routine daily lifestyle it is fine along with that like all these things what you're talking about R >> culturally people don't accept it.
(43:38) So okay whether we talking about having good sex or maybe I just masturbated today and I feel good about it. >> People don't talk about these things >> culturally. So where do you think why do you think this is happening? Yeah, I think soiety right any sex which is not done with an intent of reproduction. Right? So any sex which is not done between the married couple, any sex which is not between a boy and a girl, any sex that you do which is not done
(44:23) with an intention of having a baby, right? Uh is all considered to be not so good, right? I mean and that is the reason why uh you know things are changing but still uh you know uh queer sex is uh not very widely accepted. Uh masturbation also falls in this category right is only for pleasure and it is not for reproduction.
(44:50) So generally that's how the society is which you know we all are hoping to change and it is changing but it's going to take a while. So I think masturbation largely is for pleasure and anything that you do which is for pleasure and not for reproduction is generally not very well accepted in society yet in our society. Right. Right. Great.
(45:12) So with this prane we are almost coming to the end of this episode. Right. Before that I want to understand from you and I just want you to speak on this for everyone who's listening to this episode that how as individuals of our country how can we bring this change of sexual health and understanding sexual health how what can everyone individually do to bring this change I think the most important thing that an individual can do is you know by understanding ing your sexual health, right? Which means that but for you to understand your sexual health, you need
(45:53) uh to have basic awareness around it, right? So how does one get access to basic awareness around sexual health, right? Uh that I think is a very very and and promote that for people around you, right? benchmark, right? So just understanding if your sexual health is okay or good or not okay and you know the need to act, right? It starts from you, right? So just like sexual health, right? and whatever is required and the
(46:41) most important thing is getting yourself aware of it right and that's like a very very good first start great I think that is what you said is beautiful again I think a lot of people listening to this episode they I'm very sure that they are going to change even by 1% and that is a big change for all of us even there so many people who did not have any knowledge about few things and few things that they thought is normal maybe and it is just normal to have this pain.
(47:16) It is just normal to uh think about it which you proved is not normal and we can actually go ahead and take help. >> Yeah. I mean for a boy [Music] like it's it's that simple like just understanding your biology fairly well and understand what in it is normal what is not normal normal right I think if you take that basic step and then you know when you are in a relationship you know then what is considered to be normal what is not normal.
(47:59) I think that's a very very good first step right for yourself for your partner and if you can maybe for people around you that people that you care one or two people that you care around you I think you know we'll be leaps and bounds ahead of where we are today. >> Great. So with that uh thank you again praneer for coming here and just giving us all of this knowledge and this is to all the listeners where we want to take help but we don't know where to go.
(48:31) Okay, we always had I think maybe me being a kid I always had that thing important but now when you see a brand like this coming into the picture and helping you I think it's a game changer because just imagine like the things that I thought the problem I'm having with my girlfriend or problem I'm having with my wife and anyone you are having an intercourse with or any kind of mental issues because your body looks a certain way, you have someone to go to right now.
(49:10) So now it is available right on our phone. So I would request everyone to just stop and just go ahead and take that step. Okay? Because until unless you take that step problem. So please go ahead and take that step because it is for yourself. If I'm taking a step for myself, it is good for me.
(49:38) If you're taking a step for yourself, it is good for you. So please go ahead and take that step because it is going to bring a big change. And not just in your life, maybe in the life of everyone around you as well. So thank you so much Prane for doing this for all of us and helping us with such great knowledge and I'm just looking forward to have more deeper conversations in the future with you.
(50:01) >> No, thank you. Thank you so much. Thank you for having me and thank you so much for uh you know what you're doing. I think this is much needed and I wish you all the best. >> Thank you so much. >> And that was my conversation with Prane the founder of Alo Health. If you found this video valuable, do like this video and drop your thoughts in the comment section because we are going to read all of it.
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