Women's Darkest Secret Fantasies

Women's Darkest Secret Fantasies

Author Name:Flourish with Laurin

Youtube Channel Url:https://www.youtube.com/@FlourishwithLaurin

Youtube Video URL:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zn810YqOoAI

ఈ వీడియో లో Laurin Ponce (Flourish with Laurin) **స్త్రీల అంతరంగ కోరికల మనోవిజ్ఞాన శాస్త్రం** గురించి లైవ్ లో చాలా లోతుగా మాట్లాడారు [1]. ఇక్కడ వీడియో యొక్క ముఖ్యమైన విషయాలు తెలుగులో ఇస్తున్నాను:

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## 🌸 స్త్రీల అత్యంత లోతైన రహస్య కోరిక

### 1. Surrender (సంపూర్ణ సమర్పణ) — అసలు కోరిక

అన్ని studies లోనూ document అయిన అత్యంత సాధారణ female fantasy **romance కాదు** — అది **Surrender** (సమర్పణ). [1] ఒక మగవాడి masculine presence అంత బలంగా ఉంటే, స్త్రీ లోని "అన్నీ control చేయాలి" అనే భావన పూర్తిగా కరిగిపోతుంది. రోజంతా career, పిల్లలు, household, emotions అన్నీ manage చేసే స్త్రీ — రాత్రి అన్నీ వదిలిపెట్టి అతని చేతుల్లో ఉండాలని కోరుకుంటుంది.

### 2. Hormonal Science (హార్మోన్ల నిజం)

స్త్రీ రోజంతా high-pressure decisions తీసుకుంటే **cortisol మరియు testosterone** elevated గా ఉంటాయి [1] — ఇది desire కి అనుకూలమైన స్థితి కాదు. పార్టనర్ ఇంట్లో "ఎక్కడ తినాలి? ఏ movie చూడాలి? mood లో ఉన్నావా?" అని అడిగితే **polarity, spark, tension** ఏమీ ఉండదు.

### 3. BDSM Psychology

అన్ని studies లోనూ **BDSM** (Bondage, Domination, Submission) అత్యంత common recurring female fantasy గా ఉంది [1]. ఇది literally కట్టడం, కొట్టడం గురించి మాత్రమే కాదు — అది **control వదిలిపెట్టే emotional experience**. Researchers దీన్ని **"erotic annihilation"** అంటారు — ఆమె brain లోని "manager, planner, fixer" part పూర్తిగా switch off అవుతుంది.

### 4. Anticipation (అంచనా కాలం)

Dopamine reward తర్వాత కాదు, **అంచనా సమయంలో** surge అవుతుంది [1]. అంటే sex act కంటే, అది జరగబోతుందని తెలిసి, ఎప్పుడు జరుగుతుందో తెలియని ఆ moment లో desire అత్యధికంగా ఉంటుంది. Blindfold, slow footsteps, unpredictability — ఇవన్నీ ఆమె imagination ని fire చేస్తాయి.

### 5. అన్నిటి కింద ఉన్న Root Fantasy

Dominance, BDSM, surrender అన్నిటి కింద ఉన్న **అసలు కోరిక**:

> **"తనకు నిజంగా అవసరం లేకపోయినా, ప్రతి రోజూ తనను ఎంచుకుంటున్న ఒక strong, grounded మగవాడిచే chosen అవ్వడం"** [1]

అతను desperate కాదు, clingy కాదు — తన identity పూర్తిగా తన దగ్గర ఉంది. అయినా ఆమెను choose చేస్తాడు. ఆ feeling స్త్రీ nervous system లో నేరుగా వెళ్ళిపోతుంది: *"నేను choose చేయబడటానికి worthy ని"*.

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## 👨 మగవాళ్ళు ఏమి చేయాలి?

- **Lead without asking** — dinner book చేయి, date plan చేయి, decision తీసుకో — అనుమతి అడగకు [1]

- **Predictability తగ్గించు** — మిస్టరీ మరియు tension ని maintain చేయి

- **Presence** — రూమ్ లో enter అయినప్పుడు ఆమె nervous system quiet అయ్యేంత confident గా ఉండు

- **Stop asking "are you in the mood?"** — అది spark ని పూర్తిగా చంపేస్తుంది

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## 📚 Laurin Reference చేసిన Book

**"My Secret Garden" by Nancy Friday** — women's sexual fantasies గురించి groundbreaking research పుస్తకం [1]. ఇది చాలా మందిని uncomfortable చేసింది, కానీ అది honest psychological truth.

Transcript:
(00:03) We are live. We are live. Got to go live on all of the platforms today, guys. Hello. Hello. Hello. Go live. And we're live. Get out of here. [laughter] Goodness gracious. >> How we doing, guys?
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(01:59) Lots of changes are happening, guys. Lots of changes are happening. Just so we're all aware, I am I'm streaming on a lot of platforms right now, so I have a lot of like chats going. Um, so I might not get to every single person. I'm sorry. Okay. I'm very very sorry, but um I'm gonna try. I'm gonna try.
(02:24) Thank you guys for all the support. I really appreciate it. This has been very fun watching just this grow. You know, it's been really exciting watching um my work, my passion come to life. Come to life. And it's been really rewarding, very exciting. And I am very blessed to be able to talk to so many of you every single day, whether that's in my comments, my DMs, if I can get to them, or if we have um consultation consultation calls.
(02:57) So, thank you. Thank you so much. I appreciate it. I have my my Tik Tok chat over here, my YouTube chat over here, my Facebook [laughter] chat over here. So, if I'm looking all over the place, that is why I am going to be getting into the comments as as I go, but it might I might not get to every single one of you guys.
(03:18) Okay? So, I really really appreciate your support. Thank you for sharing, commenting, messaging, debating, challenging me, like all of the things. It's great. It is great. I want the chat to be alive this evening, guys. Alive. Okay? Please, if you saw my um if you saw my post earlier, you would know what this topic is about today.
(03:47) So, we are talking about women's darkest and secret fantasies and the psychology behind it too. Psychological truth. Okay, going to be a good one, guys. It's going to be a good one. So, just welcome, welcome and thank you. As I said, I want the chat to be alive. So question for the l well statement for the ladies and kind of a question just one word right one word one image one scenario type the fantasy that you have never told your partner about or maybe anybody about just let me know let me know one word I want to see I want to see
(04:24) from the ladies okay I'm talking to the ladies right Wow. One word. Come on. Let's see. Let's see where the ladies at. I know there's a lot of guys in here, but got to hear from some of the ladies. I want to hear from both of you guys. Okay. So, come on. Come on, ladies. What is one fantasy that you've never told your partner? By the way, this is a safe space, guys.
(04:53) Safe space. Non-judgmental. It's free thinking. free to say what you want. Unless you're being mean or being rude or being a bully or whatever, you're out. You're out. I don't tolerate that stuff at all. Okay. Not even a little bit. Amiia or Amina. Amina. Multiple. Okay. Well, multiple what? Multiple people or you have multiple fantasies? Let me know. Let me know.
(05:21) I know my audience is all dudes. I'm trying to get more females. Trying to get more females. And I see my analytics. The female number is going up. It's going up. So, I'm really excited. [snorts] Really excited for that. Thank you very much, guys. I really appreciate it. Really, really appreciate it.
(05:43) Men, question from or statement for you. Type what you think women actually fantasize about. Do it now. Do it now. I will wait. It's okay. Type what you think. No wrong answers. Kind of. Maybe type what you think women actually fantasize about. Okay, tonight we are going somewhere somewhere deep, right? That a lot of people might not have the guts to talk about or say, but that's okay. That's okay.
(06:13) Don't worry. We're walking straight into the secret garden. Have you ever heard of that before? Have you heard that phrase? Have you heard about that book? Anything? Okay, tell me about it. We are walking into the wicked garden. Her secret wicked garden of desires and fantasies, guys. It's going to be a good one. Just learn a little bit, right? Learn, educate yourself, challenge yourself, question me.
(06:50) Whatever you want to do, just do it. Okay? This is where a lot of women they keep this buried, right? Buried that they barely admit it to themselves, right? It's not a pretty version. This is a real raw version. Okay. Have you heard of the book My Secret Garden by Nancy Friday? Okay. If you haven't, look it up. Oh, thank you so much.
(07:17) Thank you for the gift. I really appreciate that. Thank you. Thank you. I really appreciate that. I'm trying to see who sent that. Why can't I see it? Sorry. Sorry, guys. I can't see who sent that. It's going too fast. Okay. Sorry if you're new here. I have squirrel brain sometimes. Okay. So, I bounce back and forth. Okay.
(07:38) I'm gonna try and stay focused for y'all. I'm gonna try and stay focused for y'all. Okay. There's this book, right? My Secret Garden by Nancy Friday. and what she wrote in there. Oh my goodness. And what she found out about women, it terrified everybody. Okay, stay with me. Stay with me.
(07:59) This is going to make a lot of you uncomfortable. Okay, but good. That is where we grow, right? We grow in uncomfortable situations. So, yes, yes, yes. I'm [clears throat] reading all the chat, guys. I'm reading it. A man with a purpose chasing a check, [laughter] having sex in a flight. Why does everybody think money odd? It's not odd, girl.
(08:24) Like, it's it's one of the reasons. It's one of the reasons, but it's not a fantasy. Having a man that has money, that's not a fantasy, okay? It's a reality for a lot of people, not a fantasy. Confidence and dominance. Oo, somebody already nailed it. Somebody already nailed it. We're going to dive into that a little bit.
(08:45) Okay, we're going to dive into that a little bit more. Dark romance. Ah, we're getting closer, guys. We are getting closer. Good. I love it. We're on the same page. I love it. Love it. Love it. Oh, you know what? I can keep Sorry, just thinking out loud. I can keep the chat right over here. Okay, cool. [laughter] Sorry. Sorry.
(09:06) Okay, I'm reading a lot of your um a lot of your answers, guys. A lot of you are right, but some of you are wrong. That's okay. Right. That gap between what you think she wants and what she actually wants is exactly why her desire is dying in your relationship maybe. Okay? Because culture today sold everybody the same comfortable lie.
(09:29) Women want sweet romance, a gentleman, a man who treats her like a delicate little flower. Right? That version is not just incomplete. It's backwards. Okay? And I'm going to explain why. What actually lives in the deepest corners of the female imagination is something that most people don't have the balls to say out loud because it makes people feel uncomfortable.
(09:56) But tonight, I'm saying it. I'm saying it. So, get Oh, get ready. Sorry, I keep hitting my mic. I'm going just read some of your comments, guys. I have read her other books as well. Oh, cool. I have not um I have not read that but I will take a look of it. Vampires to submit but do it in a safe place. Man, you guys are good. Okay. Handcuffs.
(10:26) All right. Women want assertive roughness. You know what? You guys are smart. Good job. Good job. You've been watching and listening to me. Good job. >> [clears throat] >> What if a man doesn't know how to be dominant? Well, you're going to learn. You're going to learn something maybe this evening.
(10:46) Uh maybe from following me and learn and maybe I can do more content about that, too. Because dominance is not just being this aggressive, mean um confrontational guy. Like, no, it's cool, calm, and collected, right? But taking what he wants when he wants it. taking the lead, deciding, leading, planning, following through, holding space for her freaking chaotic mind, right? And emotions, all those things.
(11:17) Have being that container, holding the frame, all these things I always say, right? So, let's get into the fantasy, right? The fantasy that maybe people don't really like to admit sometimes. the most documented female fantasy across pretty much every study that has ever been done on this subject. It's not romance.
(11:43) Can you guess what it is? Can you guess what it is? I got to put the chat over here because it's getting in my way. Can you guess what that is? Let me know. Let's see if anybody guesses it. Right. The most documented female fantasy. It's not romance. What is it? What is it? See if somebody says it. Feel safe. Confidence. Okay. Good. Good. Good. Good.
(12:10) Being with another woman. Being dominated. The R word. Submitting. Control. Okay. Okay. We're getting close. We're getting close. Okay. Here's what it is, guys. Surrender. surrender. A total absolute consuming surrender to a man whose masculine presence is so undeniable that her entire need to control everything just collapses. Ladies, type exhausted.
(12:43) Okay, type exhausted in the chat all in caps. If you are worn out from directing every single aspect of your life, the career, the household, everything, your emotions, his emotions, the kids, the homework, the chores, the mental load, that never fully stops, right? [snorts] I mean, the power bondage.
(13:09) You guys are so smart. I love it. Submission is another word for it. Yes, it could be. But surrender is the word that is talked a lot about in um these studies. So surrender is the fantasy that nobody wants to talk about. Okay? [snorts] That mental load, girls, ladies, doesn't stop sometimes. It's hard to turn it off.
(13:38) And then you come home to a bed expected to feel desire from a body that has been running on empty for hours. like hours. Men type unprepared. If you had no idea how completely drained she actually is. Cuz remember you guys are different. We are different. Different DNA, different emotions, different way of how we handle stress, right? Completely different.
(14:12) [clears throat] >> [snorts] >> Thanks guys. Unprepared. Yep. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Appreciate it. Unprepared, man. Again, type unprepared if you had no idea how completely drained that she actually is. Because here is what nobody is explaining about what is happening inside of her body, right? She spent the entire day in high pressure decisionmaking mode.
(14:40) Cortisol high, super high. her testosterone high. It's elevated from managing, fixing, planning, deciding, directing everything. That specific hormonal state for a woman, it's the complete opposite of what the female body actually needs to access desire. So, when she comes home and her partner's hesitant, wanting to be told what to do, asking her where she wants to eat, um, what movie or show she feels like watching, are you in the mood tonight, baby? Um, how about we do this? There's no polarity. There's no spark.
(15:20) There's no tension, right? She doesn't need another person to just collaborate with. Okay, she needs to be taken and completely overtaken. She needs that man, her man to walk into that room with so much presence that her entire nervous system just goes quiet and just exhales and lets go and surreners. Right, men? Hear me for a second. Type go.
(15:52) No. What do I want? What do I want you to type? Type got it. Got it. Type got it if that just explains something that you've been getting wrong for years. Okay. Let me know. Let me know. Type got it. [snorts] Let's see. Let's see how many of you are. There we go. There we go. There we go. See, again, no shame, guys.
(16:21) This is no shame. This is just learning. We're learning together. We are conversing. We are challenging the thought. Okay? So, it's literally don't care like what people's fantasies are, what they think. It's okay. This is a safe space. I really, really, really try to keep it like that. So, um, [snorts] >> I'm just reading some of your comments, guys.
(16:52) Thank you very much for the donation. one of my YouTube subscribers. I see it here. Thank you so much. That was really nice. You have the most real advice I've ever come across online. Keep being you and thank you for the live shows. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you so much. I really, really appreciate that.
(17:10) [snorts] That was really generous. Thank you. Very kind, guys. Donations like that help me do things like this, right? [laughter] Oh, look at my look at my muscles. Okay, girlfriend. And look at that. Okay. Sorry, [snorts] I got distracted. Look at all the goddess, guys. Look at all the goddits in the chat. Okay. What she needs has nothing to do with you being nicer. Okay.
(17:37) She doesn't need you to be nicer to her. It has everything to do with you being stronger because you are stronger. And ladies, don't get mad at me for saying that, okay? You need to learn that men have a specific role in life, okay? And in relationships and women have a specific role too. That is the polarity I always talk about, right? It is crucial to keep that spark and keep that romance, keep the fire, keep the connection, keep the chemistry, everything, right? Let him do what he's meant to do.
(18:11) Lead, decide, plan, go out and fight with the weight of the world on his shoulders, right? and come home to peace and femininity and softness and closeness and love and sorry, we're going to get into that that topic again, too. But that's what I'm talking about, guys. She needs to feel that from you.
(18:30) She needs to feel your strength. Okay? This is only the beginning. Okay? The fantasy goes goes much deeper than exhaustion and hormones. Okay? Don't worry, we're getting there. It goes back to something that is literally wired in her DNA for freaking years before any modern idea that people talked about existed. Right? Just just stay with me.
(18:56) Okay? Stay with me. Men, I want to hear from you. Type one recent situation where you made a decision without asking her. Maybe just one word. Was it a date? Was it dinner? Was it a trip? Was it I picked the kids up so you didn't have to? Was it I booked you a m massage because you're you're acting a little crazy and you need to relax.
(19:22) So, go and get your massage. Like, what is something that you have done and made that decision without asking her about it and you just did it? I want to know. Let me know. I cleaned the house. Good job. Dinner. Good. Took care of the kids. Good. Beautiful. You guys are a team, by the way. You're a team. This isn't, oh, you're a woman, you have to do that.
(19:43) You're a man, you have to do that. No, there's roles. Yes, there's certain things that men do that women shouldn't. There's certain things that women do that men shouldn't. And that is okay. Why can't we just be okay with that? There's nothing wrong with that. That doesn't [snorts] make you less of a woman or more of a man.
(20:01) It just makes you thrive. It makes the relationship thrive, guys. Dinner. Hey, Jason. Nice to see you. Thank you for joining. Dinner. Date. Oh, date. Dinner. Bedroom direction. Good job. Very, very good job. It's called being a real man that she always trusts. Good job. Yep. I made dinner reservations for tomorrow night. She's excited. Good job. Amazing.
(20:32) Ordered her an exercise bike. She wanted one but didn't want to research and pick the bike. There we go. Women don't want to think, guys. Just just know that women don't want to think. Like, for example, Thursdays, I don't cook. I don't cook. I don't want to be in the kitchen. I don't want to do anything after I'm done with this.
(20:52) So, my husband takes the lead in that, right? He knows that I'm going to be hungry after this. He knows that he's going to be hungry. And I feed him all day, every day, seven days a week. But we just decided that Thursdays, no more. You either order something and it's here before I'm done so we can just eat and then talk and snuggle or whatever and have sex or and go to bed, right? Thursdays, mama's not in the kitchen.
(21:20) She is not in the kitchen. He's doing it for me. How good of a cook is your husband? He can get by. He's pretty good, right? But I'm better and I love it. I love cooking and he knows it and I love feeding him. I love cooking meals for him and watching his face when he eats it. That's just I love it so much. But he can cook.
(21:41) He's perfectly fine and can get by. [laughter] He can get by. I loved all your answers, guys. Loved all your answers. Ladies, type how that makes you feel, right? How does that make you feel when he does something without you even having to ask or give a hint? He just knows and he reads you. That is, oh my gosh, that is beautiful.
(22:07) That is so beautiful when you are so in sync with your partner, husband, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend, whatever, that you just know what they're feeling, what they're thinking, how to make them better, how to make them relax. You already know. It's a it's an amazing amazing gift. [snorts] Is the cooking done out of love or because it's expected? I love to cook.
(22:27) Always loved cooking. That is like one of my love languages to give. I love watching him eat food that I prepared from just nothing, like from scratch. Like I love home-cooked meals, so it's not out of obligation at all. It is um something that I feel obligated to do. That's just something I like. It's not forester or anything, right? If he could cook, oh my gosh, like a Michelin chef, I'd want him to teach me.
(22:56) Teach me how to do that. I want to freaking make food like that, right? Or I'd let him do it every once in a while. To each their own. To each their own. I'm just reading some of your comments, guys. Reading some of your comments. Yes, that makes him feel loved. If he was sitting here right now, he would tell you the same exact thing.
(23:19) He absolutely adores being fed good food, right? Of course he feels loved, feels [snorts] taken care of, and I like taking care of him in that way. [snorts] I love to be surprised in any way by him. Makes me feel thought of in a special way. Exactly. Exactly. Guys, like women want to feel that you care, that you are noticing them and their needs.
(23:49) I know this goes both ways, so don't even say, "Yeah, but they need to do that to us, too." I know. I know. Just relax for a second cuz I know there's going to be some of you guys, right? [snorts] Guys, don't be weird, okay? Don't be Don't be weird. [laughter] Please. I love when she makes my plate. Exactly. See? Exactly. Is there any women like you around here? I did not just fall out of a tree like this, guys.
(24:21) I've talked about that before. It was work. A lot of work. Evolutionary psychology, guys, is very clear about what happens inside of a female brain when a man leads without anything, without any apologies. He just does it, right? The female mind is literally like a walking archive of millions of years of survival techniques, right? Survival intelligence.
(24:49) And that intelligence is scanning scanning every single interaction, okay, for one specific signal. And that signal is a man who can handle things, not just practical [ __ ] though, dayto-day, like actual things and psychologically too. A man who doesn't um fold under pressure, who moves through any situation with just total certainty and confidence in himself, right? [snorts] And the big one is who can literally make her feel.
(25:21) Remember that women respond to how you make them feel. Who makes her feel that she could literally just let go completely and nothing falls apart. Right? And this has been studied across dozens of cultures, years, and every single one shows the same result. Women are hardwired to respond to dominance, decisiveness, and strength.
(25:44) dominance, decisiveness, strength. Okay? The modern world though today just completely screwed it up, right? We have built a culture that told women those instincts are backwards. But they're not backwards. That wanting a man who leads is anti-progress or we're not equal. No. that surrendering to a man is something to be ashamed of or makes you less than.
(26:20) And women genuinely shouldn't feel that way. It shouldn't naturally feel like that, right? You need to override that wiring. The result has been equality, right? The result of that is equality. And erotically, they're completely dead. the relationships are dead. The body doesn't negotiate with an ideology. The body feels and reads your energy, right? And when the energy is flat and there's no polarity, the body goes cold and doesn't feel anything.
(26:57) Gonzo, thank you very much. Thank you so much. That was very generous of you. Thank you. I really appreciate that. I really appreciate it. Thank you. Know it's hot when it's right. Exactly. girls tell their girls. It's bad nowadays. I know. Thank you so much for the gift. Thank you. I just saw something fly over my head.
(27:18) Thank you so much. That was so sweet. [clears throat] I want you guys to drill this into your head. I say this on every single live multiple times. Women respond to how you make them feel. Women are emotional. They respond to feelings, not what makes sense all the time. Not logic. Okay? Feelings.
(27:40) So you got to make her feel a certain way. [snorts] [clears throat] Men, type that makes sense. If this is explaining something that maybe has confused you for years and type go deeper if you want me to go deeper, okay? Because we're getting there, [snorts] that makes sense. Makes sense, right? It makes sense. Thank you. That makes sense. Go deeper. I will.
(28:14) I will. I will. I'm reading you guys. [snorts] I forgot to add my little I forgot to add this. I'm sorry. By the way, these slides, little fun fact for you, I have a Google Drive for you that I'm going to paste in all of the chats so you can have them. Okay? So, you can just have them to go back for reference.
(28:37) I think that's the least least I could do at least something right to just go back and and take a look. I see the go deepers. I see them. [laughter] You guys are funny. My gosh, you guys are funny. Are you single? No, I'm not single. You must have not seen my my content or or any of my lives before with my hubby on it.
(29:07) Where will they be posted? I will post them at the end of this live in the comments and it's going to be a Google Drive link. Okay. Okay. Here we go. We're going to go a little bit deeper. Okay. Just listen for a second. Her secret garden, right? It's not a cute little gentle garden, guys. It's not. It's not. We're talking about the darkest fantasy.
(29:33) Okay. It's a wicked garden. It's wicked. And guess what? The most common recurring themes in female fantasy are what? What are they? Tell me. What do you think it is? The most common reoccurring theme in female fantasy. Okay, let me know. What do you think? What do you think? Women should know. Women should know.
(29:58) Don't be shy, guys. Like, don't be shy at all. Let it out. Let it out. [snorts] Oh, somebody got it. Somebody got it. I love it. Good. Um, what's your name? David. David. Oh, it's going too fast. your last name. David Nam, you got it. BDSM, guys. BDSM. Okay. Yes. Bondage, domination, submission.
(30:34) You get the picture, right? Being tied up and not able to make a move, right? Being taken without being asked, being bent over and spanked hard enough to maybe cry, and then being held tightly afterwards by that same person, [laughter] right? being I don't know if I can say it long enough, right? Just to hand the control over to him just a little bit.
(30:57) Handing the control over your breath to him. I don't know if I could say that word. So that's why I did the not everybody likes it. I understand. I understand. We're talking about psychology. We're talking about studies. We're talking about the majority. Okay. This it's not universal here. It's the majority. Not me. That's fine.
(31:19) That's fine. I'm not saying to grape her. That's not what I'm saying. So, relax. Relax. Women get so emotional. It's funny. And I can say that cuz I'm a woman. I do the same thing, too. Not everybody has to like that. Not everybody, right? Maybe a blindfold. That's harmless, right? And it's freaking hot.
(31:42) A little blindfold with nothing but sound and sensation. That is harmless, guys. That's harmless. And you should try it if you haven't tried it. Homework for you. Homework for you. [snorts] When you're blindfolded like that, all you hear is his footsteps, right? They're slow. They're deliberate. It's not knowing where he is, not knowing where he's going to touch you first.
(32:09) All these things. It's the unknown. You're creating the fantasy, right? Her [snorts] imagination is filling every second of that silence with things that her rational mind would never let herself ask out loud. Okay? [snorts] It's that raw intense just connection, right? It's like I don't know how else to describe it.
(32:37) being spoken to in ways that would just make her blush, make her hot, being told exactly what you want to do with her, right? And having zero say in any of it. And I'm not talking about gr. Relax. That's not what I'm talking about here. If you're thinking that, you have problems. You have problems. [clears throat] [snorts] Men type revelation if that just rearranged everything in your brain that you thought you knew. Okay.
(33:12) Ladies type yes if you have been in that wicked garden in your private imagination. Okay. Don't be ashamed of it. It's okay. [snorts] Let's see. Revelation. Look at all of it. Look at all of it. Yes. Yes. Yes. Good. I'm just reading some of your comments, guys. I haven't haven't gotten into the comments. Oh, yay. Thank you. Yes. Okay. Good.
(33:56) Only when the chemistry flows. Of course. Of course, you have to have that chemistry, right? She has to trust you. She has to trust you to be able to submit like that and let herself go completely. She needs to trust you completely. [snorts] Talk closer to the mic. I'm talking pretty damn close to it.
(34:15) Can you hear me? [snorts] Welcome guys. Welcome to all the new people. Thank you for engaging. I appreciate it. Look at all that. Yes, you get to see me live. I'm here pretty loud and clear, Lauren. Okay, good. So, whoever can't hear me, turn up your volume then because I don't know what to tell you. Everything's working on my end. Okay.
(34:51) There's um there's psychology in every underneath everything I talk about, guys. like researchers they call it um erotic annihilation. What does that mean? What does that freaking term mean? Right? It's a complete and complete temporary shutdown of the part of her brain that is always running the show.
(35:14) She gets to turn that off, right? The planner, the manager, the fixer, the leader, right? The [snorts] mom to the kids and maybe you, right? It gets to completely switch off by a man who has that authority, right? He's so certain, so certain about himself and his confidence that her brain has absolutely no choice to shut it off. Like no choice at all.
(35:48) [snorts] And do you do you think you can handle it? My goodness, guys. Some of you are some of you are out there, right? This is the core of the whole thing, guys. Being able to make her feel held and seen and chosen and completely safe in the exact hands that just undid that in her, right? That's the core of this whole thing.
(36:13) being completely taken apart kind of and put back together [laughter] by the same person a little bit. Right? I'm telling you like your woman wants to be so fully in your hands that she does not need or want to manage the situation at all or the outcome. She stops. It just stops. The overthinking stops. Goes quiet. The mental load gone.
(36:41) Disappears. Right? The version of her that runs everything has nowhere left to run. Right? And what fills that space is just pure raw sensation, pure presence, pure surrender. This is not something broken in her, guys. She's not like defective. It's her nervous system that is just overloaded by constant control and demanding every single thing, especially in intimacy, right? like no, she wants to let go.
(37:12) Total release through total trust in a man strong enough to actually hold it for her. That is what we're talking about, guys. And the women with the richest, most satisfying, intimate lives are not the ones whose partners asked for permission for every move. They're not. Okay? They're the ones whose partners were certain enough in themselves to take the charge and to follow through and lead, right? Without waiting for approval or an invitation, okay? But this is where it gets a little more interesting, okay? Just just a little
(37:49) bit because the fantasy is not just about the act itself, guys. It is about something that happens in the space before the act even begins. Okay? So once you understand that, it changes everything. Okay? So, just stay right there with me. Stay right there with me, please. [snorts] [snorts] Wrong one. My bad.
(38:18) [laughter] This is we're talking about the psychology of anticipation. Okay, anticipation. That is this the window before the act of having sex itself. Okay, everybody in the chat, can you please answer this right now? What creates stronger desire? Okay, I'm going to ask you a question. What creates stronger desire? Getting what you want or or is it getting what you want or that hot almost unbearable moment right before getting what you want when you know it's coming and you can't stop it? Type after or before.
(38:59) After or before. I kind of set you up for that one. That was kind of easy. [laughter] That was kind of easy. Before. Before. Exactly. Before. Not after. After. She feels great. She feels the relief. But that raw intensity that is before, guys. Men and women, they want both though, right? The answer before it explains everything about female fantasy.
(39:36) Everything about female fantasy and exactly why most men are kind of killing the desire, right? By trying to eliminate all of the tension. The tension is where that desire and fire lives, guys. [snorts] >> [clears throat] >> Dopamine, right? Dopamine doesn't surge inside of you when the reward arrives or after, right? It surges in that anticipation, which means the most powerful erotic experience in the female psychology is not the act itself.
(40:10) It is that gap. It's that gap, the space between knowing something is coming and not knowing exactly when or how or what it's going to feel like, right? A little bit of the unknown. Thank you very much for the hand heart gift. I really appreciate that. Thank you. Really, really appreciate it. Thank you. Anticipation is erotic. Yes, it is.
(40:30) Especially for women. Go pick up a freaking romance novel or an erotic romance novel, right? Not just romance because romance can be a little wishy-washy sometimes, but an erotic novel. and the book that I just told you guys about in the beginning. [snorts] It's that space between. Okay, think about what that actually looks like.
(40:55) Okay, blindfolded. She's blindfolded. Her hands are tied. She hears him, right? Moving slowly across the room. She can't see him. Can't predict what's going to happen. Can only hear him walking. Maybe his breath. Maybe something's opening depending on what he's got got in store for you, right? And then there's silence.
(41:18) What happens after that? Her entire body is on fire, like on fire, waiting for where he's going to go next, what he's going to do next. Anticipation, guys, right? And then the lightest possible touch on her neck, one finger or a little on her forehead or something and then gone again. Disappear. Her mind, it's empty.
(41:43) It's just waiting for you, right? She's not thinking about the freaking kids or the grocery list or the laundry or her meeting that she has tomorrow. No, there's only this moment. That is it. and the unbearably beautiful feeling of not knowing what comes next. Okay? And I am a freaking woman, guys.
(42:07) Okay? So, I am I'm speaking from experience here, okay? And what's rooted in psychology and female psychology as well and just eroticism too. Learn about it a little bit. Just learn [snorts] You have to meet her at her peak moment. You want to get her to that peak moment. Who's going to How are you going to meet her there if she's not there? You have to get her there.
(42:37) Have to get her there. Interesting discussion. Yeah. Yeah. Guys, we're testing the waters a little bit. Okay. We are testing the waters. [snorts] [clears throat] Thank you. I try. I try. That specific uncertainty, guys, it's held inside of just complete trust in you, in the man, right? That's the most intoxicating state the female nervous system can experience with you.
(43:09) And you can create that experience. [clears throat] And this is kind of why modern relationships or culture has kind of destroyed it. Excuse me. Total transparency, guys. Everything is pre-negotiated. Every move is announced before it happens. You're giving it all away, right? He asks before he touches. He checks in before he moves a little bit closer.
(43:45) Um, every gap is filled before desire had any chance to build. Stop asking. Just if it's your wife, just take your freaking wife. She [snorts] wants you to do that. She might fight you at first because you've never done it or she's going to be like, "What is happening to you?" But just trust your own masculinity and your own confidence for God's sakes. Come on.
(44:05) [snorts] Desire needs mystery and a little bit of the unknown. Okay. If there isn't that the environment it it dies fast. It dies fast like fire without oxygen. Okay [snorts] men type guilty. Type guilty. If you have been giving her total safety and predictability because you thought that's what she needed.
(44:33) Let me know. Let me know. >> [snorts] >> Let's see all those guilties. Innocent. [laughter] No. Type guilty. If you've been giving her total safety, predictability because that's what you thought that's what she needed or wanted, right? And women too, like you, you have to be able to talk about your desires and your wants with your partner. That's your partner.
(45:03) They need to be the source of all your fantasy and desire. Look at all the guilties. Look at all the guilties, guys. Not guilty. Okay. Good. Good. Good. Jose. Awesome. Guilty. Guilty. Guilty. There we go. It's okay. That's why I'm here. That's why I'm teaching you. Okay. I'm teaching you a different perspective, a different way to look at things just from different lens, right? Look at it through my eyes for a second.
(45:38) Just it's okay. I know you meant well. I know you meant well. But you're removing the exact thing that her body is starving for. The space, that tension, that mystery, the little bit of uncertainty, the not knowing what you're going to do next while she trusts you with her entire body anyways, right? That level of trust and intimacy is, oh my gosh, it's beautiful.
(45:58) It's beautiful. There's a final layer though, guys. There's a final layer. It's the deepest one. It's the deepest one underneath all the dominance and the surrender and the anticipation. Underneath all of that, right, the one that most women have never been able to put into words, right? And most men have been maybe unknowingly starving her from it for years.
(46:31) Stay right there. Stay right there. Swapping. You guys are nasty. [laughter] We're not going down that road. Relax. I know I kind of kind of rage baited you a little bit maybe with But no, I'm I'm talking about what I always talk about, okay? Just with a little little bit of flavor. Little bit of flavor. Okay, guys.
(46:56) We are going to talk about the root, the root of the fantasy. Underneath everything, under the BDSM and the surrender and the intensity, the anticipation, all of that. Okay? Underneath all of that, there's layers. Think of this like an onion. We're peeling back the layers, right? The absolute root of the deepest female fantasy is being chosen completely by a man who needs absolutely nothing from her.
(47:23) Sounds a little crazy, right? Not the desperate choosing of a man that's terrified to lose her. Not the clingy choosing of a man whose entire identity depends on what she thinks and her approval and what she wants to do. Right? [snorts] It's the choosing of a man that is so godamn grounded and complete in himself that he could be perfectly fine without her.
(47:48) That is how you guys need to be feeling, right? But you still select her every single day. You still choose her every single day. But that confidence that you have, she needs to feel that. And you guys need to you need to embody this with just full awareness of who you are as a man and what your worth is and every option that is available to you.
(48:11) And you choose her anyway with everything that you have. that choosing man, that is the fantasy underneath every other fantasy. Okay? So, if you thought this was going to get nasty and a little freaky, okay, we're not. We're going to maybe a little bit, but we're not. Okay? It's [laughter] we're not we're not there yet. Okay.
(48:38) I think I'm streaming on Rumble and Rumble um I can be a little bit more unhinged. I could be a little more unhinged on there, but I have to be careful with the other platforms because I don't want to get banned. [snorts] Thank you guys. Yes, it's me. I'm reading some of your comments. I know I haven't been reading a lot of your comments.
(49:07) I'm sorry if you've been asking questions. I'm going to go back and I'm going to I'm going to answer some questions, too. Okay. It really makes perfect sense. Good. I'm glad. I'm glad. I said nothing about gr. Okay. Nothing. And if you're saying that word, oh my gosh, I don't know what to tell you. Don't know what to tell you. How many chats are you watching? Three.
(49:35) [laughter] Three. Oh, four. Four. Watching four chats, guys. four chats. I'm glad this is working, by the way. I'm glad it's working. I was a little nervous. I was a little nervous before. Okay. [snorts] [clears throat] Again, drill this into your head. Women respond to how you make them feel, feelings, emotions.
(49:56) It sounds weird to you because you don't operate that way as men. You operate on logic and what is rational and what makes sense. Right? Like I said, that that choosing is the fantasy underneath every other fantasy that she has. Why though? Why? It carries one message, one specific message that bypasses her conscious mind, right? And completely goes straight into her nervous system.
(50:28) You are worth choosing by somebody who doesn't have to, right? Right? And that message, that specific feeling inside of her body is more erotic than any physical act that she probably has ever had or ever existed. Right? Women chosen like that by a man stops fantasizing about other men and other things and other stuff that she wants to try because she's doing it with you.
(50:57) You have to be the source of all fantasy for your partner. You have to >> [snorts] >> She will start to fantasize about new things and new ways to be with the one that she already has. That is what you want. Men type that makes sense. If you just understood something about her that maybe you've been missing. And ladies, type finally. Type finally.
(51:28) If this is the feeling that you've been trying to describe for maybe years or months without having the words for it, right? Two whole complete people. Okay? Neither needing the other one to survive. Both choosing the other to thrive. That is the difference. Okay? That's the desire that never dies. Neither of you needing the other one to survive, but choosing each other to just thrive. It's beautiful.
(51:58) It's beautiful man. [snorts] Ladies, if you have been carrying everything, managing everything, performing desire, right? We need to stop. We need to stop doing that. Performing desire, you do not actually feel for a man that you have been quietly parenting. You're not going to have that desire for your man if you have to parent him or mother him or make him needy for you. Like, no.
(52:33) No. While you're sitting over there starving for something that you can't really name, right? [snorts] Just hear this for a second. That hunger, it's not wrong. The hunger that you have, it's not wrong at all. It's natural. It is totally natural. And it comes just naturally when you have that man, when you can let go and just unleash and unwind and be free.
(53:03) Be free to let him take control of your body and give you all of that pleasure and you in return, guess what you're going to do for him? My gosh. Like guys, it's not that hard. Give her that pleasure. give that to her so she is drooling over you. [snorts] And I've done a live about that also. I think it was a live.
(53:26) It was either a live or a long form. How to make her drool over you again. Like go watch that one too and learn a little bit. Right. [snorts] Okay. There's one of you in here that I'm about to ban. I'm about to block because you're pushing it a little too much. Don't be weird. Don't be weird. Don't be gross. Don't be a perve.
(53:51) You will be. Bye-bye. Bye-bye, ladies. It is okay to feel this. You're being honest, right? That honesty is the beginning of getting what you want. It is. Just be honest. Now, to the men, right? The ones who have been being nice and available and accommodating, right? Endlessly accommodating. Let me say that cuz being accommodating is not bad.
(54:19) It's overdoing it. Overdoing it. Asking for permission. Um eliminating that that tension, right? Making everything safe and comfortable and predictable. Stop doing that. Please stop. And you're watching her pull away. That's the worst part. You're you're watching it in real time and you're not knowing what's happening, right? You're not failing because you're a bad partner.
(54:43) You're just somebody handed you the wrong instruction manual right here. Do this with everything wrong in it. No. No. You just got handed the wrong manual. The real manual says this. She does not need your compliance. She doesn't. She doesn't want it. She doesn't want it. She may think she wants it because she lacks giving up the control or she grew up that way or who knows what, right? But she doesn't want that.
(55:19) She needs your certainty. She wants the tension whether she knows it or not. You have to just start giving it to her and watch how she responds to you a little bit differently because she will. She needs you to hold that tension without it collapsing all of the time. And that's your superpower, men, is being able to make her feel that way.
(55:40) You do not need to ask permission for every move. She doesn't even want you to ask permission for every move, every move. Like, for example, this is something so little and so cheesy kind of, but we I've seen it in our relationship, too. Like, I say, "I'm hungry. Where do you want to eat?" I'm like, "I you pick for me. I don't want to think.
(56:05) " and he does it. And I it makes me feel so much better because I'll get on my phone or whatever and I'm going to start looking what I want and then my brain is like, "Well, that looks good. Well, that looks good. Well, now I don't know what I want. Now I've been looking for an hour and now I'm pissed because now my food's you you see it's just women brain." And that's that's okay.
(56:24) You seeing that men? Hey honey, put your phone down. I got it. I'll go do it. I'll go get the food. No honey, it's okay. Nope. I can see you're stressed. I don't want you stressed. You're my princess. Nope. I don't want you stressed because if you're stressed, you're not nice to me. And I want you nice to me, right? Yes. Okay.
(56:44) I'm going to go get the food. Simple, right? Just go do it. Take some initiative. Learn how to take some initiative. Right. And ladies, if you make it hard for your man to take initiative, stop. Stop doing that. Relax. Tone it down. tone it down a little bit. Some girls just like chill guys. You can be a chill guy, but you need that masculinity, that masculine presence.
(57:12) You can be chill. I'm not saying you don't have to be chill. Oops. We've detected inactivity during your current live. No, that's not true. Hold on. Hold on, guys. Okay, the live almost ended because I'm not engaging with you in the comments. My bad. Sorry. Sorry. [snorts] That man is inside of you guys. It is.
(57:43) It's already there. But you're a man. You have it. It's just like women that ask me, "Len, how how do I be more feminine?" You're already a woman. You already are feminine. You already have femininity. You just need to tap into it more, right? You already have it. So, it's not that you don't have it.
(58:00) You just need to find it a little bit more. Go deeper with yourself. I love that you guys are talking to each other in the chat. It's so cute. I love it. Yay, guys. It's in you, okay? He just got buried. He's buried under years of being told that his natural male instincts were dangerous or wrong. It's not. They're not dangerous in a negative way.
(58:30) You want to be that dangerous, exciting, fierce, confident, powerful, certain guy. Why? The question, I guess, would be, why don't you want to be like that? It It's you. It's who you are as a man. So, you need to learn how to be okay with tapping more into your masculinity. And vice versa for females, too.
(58:57) Like, be okay tapping into your femininity. I grew up a tomboy. I grew up with guy friendss all the time. I didn't wear pink. I didn't wear purple. I didn't wear yellow. I didn't wear girl clothes at all. My hair was I have to find some pictures. I got cute in high school. Yeah. In high school, I was a cute kid, like a cute baby, and then a cute like toddler, and then I was just a tomboy for many, many, many years. Jeans and a t-shirt.
(59:25) I would skateboard. I would ride my bike and rollerblade, like play sports. Like, that's just how I how I was raised. I had to learn how to tap into my femininity by doing feminine things, right? I didn't do any dance when I was young. My parents didn't well they put me in tap and jazz for a little bit but that just um sorry something popped up.
(59:51) Tap and jazz. That's what I did when I was I think like six. Six or seven. I don't know how old I was. My mom will correct me because I think she's watching. But I didn't continue it right. I wish I did dance. I wish I did ballet. I wish I did more um feminine things growing up because I didn't learn this until late, like way late.
(1:00:12) It wasn't until honestly my bodybuilding competition when I was decked out in glam and hair and makeup and tan and I looked amazing and I was like this is what I can look like. Like whoa. And I always like thought I was pretty. I thought I was decent looking, right? But that day was when I was like I have never felt more feminine.
(1:00:36) I have never felt more beautiful. [snorts] This is what I want. I want more of this. I want to feel like this. Right? because it's natural. It comes natural to us. It's like men that never did any sports or never got dirty as a kid or never broke something when they were skateboarding or riding their bike or whatever or never joined martial arts gym or martial arts studio, right? Never learned how to control that testosterone, right? The anger or the um adrenaline, whatever it is.
(1:01:10) like you maybe were an artist. Nothing wrong with that. Artists are beautiful people. Beautiful people. But it's softer, right? You need as a man both. You need that testosterone to be boosted. So, you got to go to the gym, join a MMA gym, boxing gym, something. Learn a new activity or learn how to skateboard or surf or something, right? Be around or shoot.
(1:01:38) be around other men that have that natural just fire and testosterone. It will bleed on to you, right? Like your surroundings, you're a product of that. That's just the truest truth. [snorts] How about a nerd? Nothing wrong with a good old nerd, right? But you better know how to, you know, you better know how to do that really well.
(1:02:02) Really, really, really, really well. There's nothing wrong with being a nerd. You need everything, guys. You need everything. And you can. You can. Okay. I'm just reading some of your comments. [snorts] I don't know how to make this bigger. Oh, here we go. Here we go. I'm not techy, guys. I'm not techy at all. So, I'm We are learning together. Okay.
(1:02:31) We're learning together. The chat was like this big. I'm like, I can only see like one comment at a time. I just figured it out. Just figured it out. I hope this is making sense. Okay. I hope it's making sense. I hope it's creating some curiosity, right? Provoking your thought a little bit. That's okay. Full throttle. Yes.
(1:02:53) Full throttle. Full throttle. My goodness. Full throttle. Give it to her. Okay. Audio is only coming from the left speaker. I don't know what to do with that. Sorry. I'm not going to try and figure it out now because you're going to get me stressed. You are going to get me stressed. Guys, learn how to be decisive, okay? With yourself.
(1:03:21) Not even for her, but with yourself. Just be certain in your decisions, right? [snorts] He's already inside of you. Damn, we've been going for an hour already. That's exciting. Yay. I'm gonna start answering some questions soon, okay? But just bear with me. Excuse me. Excuse me. Excuse me. So, what is the female's darkest fantasy? Right.
(1:03:45) What is it? After everything I just said, what is the female's darkest secret fantasy? Okay. Yes, it's working. Okay, good. Okay, good, good, good, good. I love that you guys are talking with each other, right? Just say what's on your mind. Stop being so scared. I'm not scared. I have to be careful on the platforms because I've been flagged before and it's like it's scary. I have to be careful.
(1:04:25) I don't like to be politically correct, okay? But sometimes I have to. Sometimes I have to play the game a little bit, okay? If I want to stay on these platforms. But I know Rumble is unhinged AF. All right? Unhinged. Okay, you guys, some of you guys are getting it right. The answer is a man who is completely in command and control of himself that her surrender feels like freedom and she willingly just does it.
(1:04:57) Someone who literally moves through the freaking room like you already know. You already know. You command it. You command that presence. You already know what happens next. Who touches her? Like he's not asking for anything. He just wants to touch and grab and love on his freaking woman.
(1:05:15) There's nothing wrong with that. Ladies, be worried when he stops doing that. When he stops doing that, that is when you need to be like, "Oh, what's going on?" Not, "Oh, thank God he's not touching me anymore." If that's what you're thinking, you no, you no don't deserve to be married. You or you married the wrong person, right? That's very unfair unfair to say.
(1:05:36) You men have to create this anticipation, right? that she is completely undone, right? Undone, unwoven, unraveled before you even begin, right? And who also holds her afterwards and makes her feel like she's the most chosen, admired, loved, adored woman alive. That combination, right? And don't even say, "Oh my god, that's too much work.
(1:06:03) " Slap, backhand, forehand. [laughter] Okay, that's too much work. Spoiler, women like to get dominated. Yes, they do. Yes, they do. And if you're a woman and you say, "No, I don't." You just haven't had it done properly. Okay? Haven't just trust me, ladies. I'm on your side. I'm on your side. That combination, guys, that precise cocktail of dominance and safety and certainty and raw trust.
(1:06:36) Dominance, safety, certainty, real trust. That cocktail. Panty dropper. [laughter] It's a panty dropper. Okay. That is the most like deepest, most consuming desire a woman can feel. Just trust me, okay? And it's been buried. It's been buried by a culture that's too uncomfortable to say it out loud until tonight.
(1:07:02) Okay? And I'm going to be talking more about this, guys. This is just a little a little snippet of what it's going to be. Okay, I'm expanding expanding my brain a little bit. Ladies, I want you to type scene. S EN scene, right? If this finally names what you've been maybe carrying around for years, men type transformed. Transformed.
(1:07:31) if something genuinely shifted inside of you in this conversation, right? [snorts] Polarity is not outdated, guys. It's not. We need to get back to that. [clears throat] It is the It's the probably Well, I always say sex is the glue of the relationship, but polarity is the big part of it, too. You need to get back to that.
(1:07:59) cultivate it, protect it, cherish it, learn about it if you don't know anything about it, right? Like I am fascinated by masculine and feminine dynamics and how different we are. It's truly fascinated. Fascinating. I'm not offended by it. I'm not triggered by it. I'm not, oh well, this makes it seem like women are less than men.
(1:08:24) Well, I'll say one thing that might piss some of you off. Men and women not equal. My gosh. Equal in value. Yes. But equal roles? No. No. No. [laughter] We [snorts] are different. Men are the sun, right? Women are the moon. They're more lunar. They're more intuitive. They're more creative. They're more.
(1:08:55) And again, I'm not talking about 100% of men and women. There's obviously people that fall somewhere in the middle or have a little bit more masculine traits than than feminine, vice versa, right? But at its core, we need to get back to that. We need to get back to that, guys. Ladies, stop apologizing for wanting this. If you want it and you don't know how to express it, you need to be able to sit down with your partner and men too.
(1:09:23) You should be able to sit down with your partner and say, "I want to explore this. I want to try this with you." Without getting offended, why do you want to try that? Why? Where did you see that? Well, who do you do that with? No, none of that. Okay? He is with you and he's sharing with you and being vulnerable with you something he wants to try with you that is going to benefit you for the love of God.
(1:09:50) Like just do it. Lean into that. That is him trusting you with his vulnerability and then you [ __ ] on it or you Oh my god. Why? No. No. You do not know what that does to a man. Does No. And ladies, if you go to your man and say, "Honey, I would really like to try um being blindfolded." Is he gonna be like, "Where did you see that? What ex-boyfriend did that to you?" If he's doing that, ditch him. Goodbye. That is a beta.
(1:10:25) Don't Don't put up with that. He will be like, "Okay, yeah, let's do that. Let's spice it up a little bit." He'll be excited. He will be excited. >> [snorts] >> Does any of that make sense? Does it make you feel a certain way? Right? Does it? Please tell me. Yes. No, maybe. I'm crazy.
(1:10:49) I don't know what I'm talking about. Whatever. Right. You can say anything to me and rolls right off. Rolls right off. People try to be mean to me all the time and keep trying. Keep trying. Who would turn that down? Exactly. Who would turn that down? But that's a good question. Who would turn that down? Somebody who is threatened by that.
(1:11:11) Someone who's jealous, a little insecure, um, a little uneducated. That's okay. It's all how you approach. Sorry, I get distracted. It's how you approach it, right? It's your tone. It's your delivery. It's how the day has been going to, right? Like if you guys got into a freaking argument and that night you decide to ask her, "Hey honey, um I was thinking about maybe exploring some fantasies with you.
(1:11:41) Like, what do you think about this?" She's not going to engage with you at all. She's thinking about what you just did earlier that pissed her off. And it's not that easy for her to just shut it off sometimes, right? Men, easy. You can get pissed, get frustrated, have an argument, whatever, and it's done. Like you don't think about it.
(1:12:01) Women think about it, right? That's something that I've had to work on too. Like it's not a bad day that you're having. It's a bad moment and not even a bad moment. It's just a little like speed bump, little hiccup, but you make it the entire day, right? That is your choice. You don't have to choose to do that, but you are. And that's something I used to do.
(1:12:20) I used to have one little freaking oopsie throughout the day and oh my god, my day is ruined. Oh my god, I can't do anything. Oh my god, everything sucks. life happens to me. No, that is so weak and so annoying, right? Like victim mentality. Gh. Like, no, it's okay. Own it. Something happened. Own it. Work through it.
(1:12:42) Let it go. Move on. You'll be a happier person. Exactly. It's about the approach. Exactly. It's how you approach it. Just like anything. Like anything. [snorts] Betas. Sorry. Yes, yes, yes, yes. Life is about choices. That is something I say all the time, guys. Like, life is all about choices. Your choice, not anybody else's choice or circumstance or anything. You, this is your life.
(1:13:13) This is your movie. You get to create it however you want to. If you have the victim mentality or the poor me or the, "Oh my god, life just happens to me all the time." We all go through [ __ ] guys. We all go through [ __ ] in life. We all have a story. We all have wounds. We all have baggage. And we all have choices.
(1:13:32) Choices in maybe how to handle all of those things that I just listed, right? But you have to be able to sit with them and sit with yourself too and be able to work through it rationally without letting the emotions take over sometimes. And it's hard. It is hard. I understand that. But you got to be able to Take full radical responsibility of your life and accountability of your choices and your actions and how you choose to live your life.
(1:14:09) Right? Nobody is pointing a gun to your head telling you to go drink that alcohol or binge eat or go cheat on your partner. Nobody's forcing you to do that. It's choice. It's choice. So, whoever said life is full of choices, I agree with you 1 million thousand%. Million%. And guys, believe that you have this power because you do.
(1:14:39) You've just suppressed it for so long that it feels uncomfortable to you or you're nervous or you're scared or uncertain. Don't be uncertain. Just do it like Nike, right? Just do it. Do it scared. Do it uncomfortable. Do it with not knowing the exact right way to do things. No, you have to learn and be consistent with it, too. Right? Like nothing in this life worth having is going to come easy for you.
(1:15:07) You have to work for it. Just like you have to work for your own success, your own life, your own goals, your own finances, your own health. It is you. Once you can own that, man, you take the power back. You don't give your power away to anybody because you are in total control of your life.
(1:15:29) And it's a beautiful freaking feeling. And I speak so confidently about that because it's what I've done and what I've seen many of my clients do and my parents and my husband. Like, so it's not impossible. It's just difficult. It's hard. It's uncomfortable sometimes, but you just got to freaking do it anyway. Do it anyway. Okay. Fail moving forward.
(1:15:53) If you fail, God, the world the world is ending. I failed. Okay. Fail again. What did this failure teach you? What are you learning from it? Right? Everything we go through in life is a learning experience. Everything. I went on a little rant. My bad. My bad. [laughter] [snorts] I really appreciate how engaging you guys have been this evening.
(1:16:26) It's been very fun. Hubby is not joining tonight's live, by the way. Not joining unless unless I change my mind or unless he's available. For one, I don't know. I don't know if he's available. or two if you want him to come in here. Okay, good. Good. Do not fail. If you fail, learn from it. Fail moving forward. Every failure you have is just okay.
(1:16:58) I tried. I tried. Learning experience. The divine masculine is sexy and they need to find themselves again. Yes. Yes. Heck yeah. Dude, there's something about just a freaking man that is so certain, so confident, so unfazed, unbothered. You're like, it's you feel it. It's energy. It's a vibe. That stuff matters.
(1:17:30) It means something. You don't ignore that stuff. It's like you meet somebody that's kind of a kind of a jerk or just not a good person or hurt person. You feel that energy, right? or somebody that nags and complains all the time, brings you down. You leave that room or house or or job or restaurant or whatever you were with that person, you're like, uh, like, I am I'm tired.
(1:17:53) It's because of that energy. It's negative. It's negative. You need more positivity, right? More positive energy. I cannot get over my [laughter] arms. Look. My gosh, I'm so proud. Okay. Sorry. Sorry. You got to toot your own horn, too, guys. You got to toot your own horn [snorts] every once in a while. I think I can put this up here now.
(1:18:14) Chat. Oh, that's so much better. [gasps] I swear I'm learning as as we go here with all these chats and this [snorts] is the first time I've um this is the first time I've streamed on multiple platforms at once, but it's really exciting. Thank you guys for being being in here. [snorts] What questions do we have? What questions do we have? Anything? What are we feeling? How are we feeling tonight? It is Thursday night, right? How we feeling? Any date nights planned this weekend? Are we going um out of town? Like what men, what have you
(1:18:56) planned for the weekend? What have you planned? What are you doing with your wives? Let's see. >> [snorts] >> Oops. I don't know what I just clicked. Sorry, guys. Filming a wedding. Fun. I love that, Lauren. I understand ladies prefer safety, stability, and rightfully so. Is that why they follow hypergamy so much? So, hypergamy is women dating marrying
(1:19:44) up, right? Marrying the best selection possible for mating, for um security, for stability, safety. Um, women are always searching for the next best, I guess, so to speak, right? Like that sounds harsh, but look up that look up that term and and study about it a little bit, right? Women [clears throat] date up.
(1:20:12) They marry up. It's been rooted hundreds of hundreds of years ago with that. Women want someone that checks all of those boxes, right? that make her feel safe, make her feel desired, make her feel held, um challenges her in a good way, right? Teaches her, leads her, guides her, um pleasures her, everything like everything.
(1:20:37) And a lot of you men say, "Oh my gosh, this is this is too much work." It's work. Like I already said, everything in life worth having requires a little bit of work. And you just have to figure her out. Figure out her woman, right? Oh, that question popped up there. That is so cool. That's the first time I've seen that. Okay, guys.
(1:20:58) First time on this on this platform. Okay, so [laughter] I'm a little excited. I'm like a kid on Christmas. [snorts] This is a good one. Oh, I can put the comments there. Oh, I just figured that out. I'm single by choice now. Do you think women are worth the hassle? I just have to worry about I just have to worry about making one person happy.
(1:21:28) Um, that is it's a good question. I do think they're worth the hassle. Why? Because I believe that we are meant to coexist. I believe that with the right person, your life is going to thrive. I believe when you are so certain and happy and confident and in love and you're aligned, right? Because we got to be aligned. you're compatible, layers of compatibility, right? I absolutely believe they're worth the hassle.
(1:21:55) You just can't. For example, like if you're dating a woman and there's a bunch of red flags right away and you continue to see if things get better, chances of them getting better, slim to none, right? Because she's showing you who she is, right? She's showing you her character. She may be testing you to see what you do with that.
(1:22:18) if you put her in her place, if you become complacent, if you let it go, if you just ignore it, or you do say, "Hey, I don't appreciate that." But you don't follow through with actually enforcing your boundary, then bye. Like, don't waste your time, right? But I absolutely I absolutely believe that um that women are worth the hassle.
(1:22:38) And I it is a hassle sometimes. It's hard. You have to crack your woman's code. Figure her out. Figure her out. Excuse me. Excuse me. [clears throat] Gym this weekend with your girl. Good. Good. Good job. That's the best best thing you can do together. Going to the gym together. You're teaching her. She's watching you lift.
(1:23:06) She's watching you get strong and express all your testosterone, right? It's beautiful. It is beautiful. Thank you for the gifts for my Tik Tok peeps. Thank you. I really appreciate it. Really, really appreciate it. Man, there's 19,000 of you guys in there. What? What? That's exciting. So fun. Yay. [snorts] Yay. That makes me so happy.
(1:23:38) You guys don't even understand. I get so many, you're not real. You're just doing this for money. You're just doing this for um for clout and clicks. You got I This is me. I'm real. I get excited about this every single week. Okay. I will say I am I'm in my ludial phase, right? So, I'm a little a little tired. I'm a little grumpy.
(1:24:02) I am a little snappy, right? emotional, but I still show up every single Thursday at 700 p.m. If there happens to be something that happens and I can't I'm sorry, but I plan to do this every single Sat Saturday. My gosh, no. Every single Thursday, right? And it's my mom's birthday today, by the way. So, mama, if you're watching, happy birthday, guys.
(1:24:27) Tell my mom happy birthday, please. Happy birthday, Lauren's mom. Happy birthday, Lauren's mom. Because she's watching and she's reading the comments. Okay. Say, "Happy birthday, Lauren's mom." Yay. Thank you. It is her birthday today. She is the best lady on the planet. Honestly, the best woman on this damn planet. She's the nicest, the sweetest, the kindest, the goofiest, just person I've ever known. She's amazing.
(1:25:04) She brought me into this life, right? Give your mom a big hug, mama. They're hugging you. They're hugging you, mama. [snorts] They're saying happy birthday to you, mama. Can you read the comments? She's not that technically um sound either, [laughter] so I don't know if she can see the comments, but I hope she can.
(1:25:24) Mama, they're all wishing you happy birthday. She's amazing. She's an amazing woman. I'm just scrolling through some of your comments, guys. There's a lot coming in and they're coming in super fast. Someone said, "Can you please How old is she?" She is Oh gosh. Mom, don't butcher me or don't kill me. um 72. She's going to text me right now.
(1:25:52) I'm not 72. I'm pretty sure she's 72. She's 72 years old. She's a beautiful lady. Beautiful. Beautiful woman. Happy birthday, Lauren's mom. Yay. Thank you guys. Thank you so much. That was really sweet. She is beautiful on the inside and the outside. She is a freaking smoke show. She's a little hippie. She thinks just everybody's good in the world.
(1:26:23) And I love that about her. She is just such a kind kind person and gives and gives and gives all of herself. And I I learned a lot of softness from her and a lot of femininity from her because she is she is super sweet, super loyal, um cooks, cleans, nurtures. She was the best mom ever. I I can't say more cuz I'm going to cry.
(1:26:50) I'm [laughter] going to cry. I love her to death. Love her to death. She's She's the best. I know. I'm going to get a text now and I'm pretty sure she's she's [snorts] crying. Maybe. Maybe. I could be wrong. I could be wrong. But I love you, mama. I love you. My dad, too. If you're watching, Daddy, don't get FOMO. Okay. Don't get FOMO.
(1:27:11) I love you, too. Good to see you live, Lauren. Yep. Yep. Okay, hold on. Here's a question. Hi, Lauren. Me and my girlfriend just broke up after almost three years. She rarely lifted a finger, didn't desire me, didn't compliment me, and she had a lot of guy friends. I'm heartbroken. Don't be heartbroken, my dude.
(1:27:39) Don't be heartbroken. She showed you. She showed you her character, right? She didn't desire you. Didn't lift a finger. Like that should naturally come for a woman, right? To be nurturing, motherly, right? Um helping you, making you relax. So don't be heartbroken. Learn from it. Learn maybe why you chose this woman in the first place, right? What drew you to her? Why did you stay for three years? Right? It's um it's a tricky one because you I don't know obviously your dynamics, but she shows you her colors.
(1:28:15) Don't be heartbroken because of that. Learn from it. Don't give your power away like that. Don't do that. How to increase intimacy. How much sex when having kids to keep the passion in relationship. It's not about how much sex you're having, guys. It's the quality of the sex, right? The how the anticipation before it happens for the woman, right? It's not just um how much sex, right? You have kids, okay? It's going to make it a little bit harder, sure, but you increase it by dating each other again, choosing each other again, being playful again,
(1:28:53) checking in with each other every once in a while, every week. like some and this is not me. I'm not taking credit for this but many counselors and therapists, psychologists, psychoanalysts, they say all all of them say the same thing. And I started telling my clients this too because I see it helping in real time.
(1:29:15) Have a check-in day with your partner. That check-in day is not like, okay, going to class and going to check. No, you you're [snorts] just being present with each other. You're sitting down and having conversation. You're not arguing. You're not fighting. You're not complaining. You're just letting the other person talk and get things off of their chest. And you shut up.
(1:29:41) You let them talk, right, Mel Robbins? Let them let them talk to. And you need to understand them and what they're actually saying to you. If you don't understand, you need to ask them, "Hey, doesn't really make sense to me. Can you help me understand?" Not getting pissed and annoyed and defensive and reactive.
(1:30:06) No, you are listening to understand, not to react and not even to really respond. In these little check-in days, you are just so present with each other and [snorts] you're practicing again how to talk and how to communicate. And then you do it for a half hour or 30 minutes or 30 minutes or an hour. Then you move on. And but you do that consistently.
(1:30:25) Do it every week or every two weeks or maybe every month if the schedules are busy or whatever, right? But get used to talking again with your partner to listen and understand, not to respond. And that is something we have to work on and control ourselves, right? is this person sitting across from me is trying to convey something to me in their language.
(1:30:51) That might not be my language, right? But your language is your both of your languages will start to merge. They'll start to blend a little bit because now you're speaking their language and they're actually understanding you and they're actually listening to you and they're applying what you're telling them, right? So that's how you would increase it.
(1:31:12) Start it. Start it there. Okay, man. These comments are coming in fast, guys. Holy canoli. Can I work with you? Do you have a course for women? Truly want your brain to be an incredible wife. Meg, good job. Good job. I work with men and women oneon-one, right? I keep my coaching Oh, thank you. Thank you so much.
(1:31:39) I keep my coaching limited, my clients limited because I give you my everything. I give you my all, right? So, I only work with people who are ready to change, right? Because of my story and my history. I used to be almost 300 lb like some of you guys know, right? And if you didn't know that, you can go check on my social media, on my Instagram, and my Facebook.
(1:32:02) But change is uncomfortable. Change is scary. Sometimes it's unfamiliar, but we have to go through it to get to the other side, right? So, yes, I work with anybody who's ready to take radical accountability and responsibility of their life and change and do something about it, right? And most of my clients are with me for 3 to 6 months, eight maybe, maybe a year if it's weight loss because they it needs time to uh you need time to lose the weight.
(1:32:34) But that's why I don't ever want to have any license telling me what I can and can't say, what parameters I need to stay in, what box I need to stay in, what diagnosis I need to treat. No, I am a free thinker. And it's 2026, guys. Like everything, all the knowledge, education that you have is right here for free. And it's beautiful. And I'm very direct. I'm very honest.
(1:33:02) I'm very intentional with how I coach my clients. And if you're not improving, we need to figure out why. I know it's not me. Maybe we don't vibe, too. That's a real thing, too. But I'm telling you, from the gosh, how many years now? six or seven years of coaching people, a very small percentage of people actually make a difference in their lives and make a change, right? It's because it's hard. Oh, thank you.
(1:33:34) It's hard and it's uncomfortable. It's scary. Um, you are shedding your old self and it's not just you. It might be friends. It might be family. It might be a career. Or it might be your whole life just gets flipped upside down because you were living not authentically to your true self. I help you find your true self. Right? And that takes time.
(1:33:55) It takes effort from both of us. Right? But it's possible. It is possible. [snorts] I'm just reading some of you guys. Right. Thank you. Thank you. Oh, by the way, to the people on YouTube, I'm saying thank you to the people on Tik Tok because they're sending me little gifts and it's really nice. I really appreciate it.
(1:34:22) I don't know what they all mean, but I'm sure I'll see it after. Thank you so much. I really, really appreciate that. I'm just seeing if any um I'm in a relationship with a married woman. She's very controlling and I want I really want to get rid of her. Buddy, you're in you're in a relationship with a married woman.
(1:34:51) Like, are you trying to rage bait me? Is this a joke? Like, she's married. You want to get rid of her? Get rid of her. Goodbye. Go give her back to her freaking husband that she's cheating on. Goodbye. No. I feel like that was a joke. I'm going to give you guys I'm gonna paste this everywhere, right? Um why can't I find it? Hold on.
(1:35:17) I'm going to paste a couple links in the chat for y'all. Man, I can't log in. Hold on. [snorts] Why can't I see it? Oh, I know why. It's because I'm I'm not on my login. Okay, hold on. I might need my hubby to do it for me. [snorts] I'm just [snorts] reading some of your comments, guys. No sound detected. What
(1:36:01) do you mean? Oh, there we go. Okay, my bad. I'm going to do it from my phone because it's not. I'm going to paste a couple links for you guys. Okay, bear with me. Bear with me. Copy. Have to do it from my phone. Here we go. Okay. Did it go? Nope. Hold on. Told you guys I'm not very technical.
(1:36:47) [laughter] Not very technical. Okay. I'm pasting my links here, just so you know. And I'm going to pin it. I'm going to pin it so you can see it. I'm also going to be sharing with you the little Google Drive of today's live for you as well. You should be able to access it. I'm going to post it here.
(1:37:15) Please let me know um if you can open it. If you can open the link and check and see what's in there. Oops. Hold on. Hold up. Wrong one. There we go. Let's see if you can click the link and let me know if it works. The Google Drive is everything from this live. It's all the slides that I put in there. And I also posted my link to contact me via email or um via video consultation.
(1:37:49) Choice is yours, guys. Choice is yours. If you are a member of my YouTube channel, um you can always post on my public community tab where I do um once a week I go in there and I respond to everybody in there. If you are a elite access member, you get access to my email address and my telegram channel as well.
(1:38:13) Um I know the guys that are in that telegram channel right now like it's not as active as it used to be, which is a little disappointing and partly it might be my fault, right? I'm not as active in there just because of how busy I am dayto-day, right? I go in there every once in a while and check and see how people are doing. But I made these channels for you guys to be able to talk and converse and grow and get better.
(1:38:39) So, it's like a little safe space, a little community for for you. So, that's why I that's why I did it. It's not clickable. I I know it's I think you're going to have to copy and paste the link into like a browser because I don't know why it's not um I don't know why it's not opening. I think that's that's not something I can control.
(1:39:01) I'm sorry. But if you just copy and paste the link um yes it works. Okay. Yes, I can open both. Okay. Yay. Yay. Tik Tok. Sorry. You have to copy and paste the link. Um YouTube, Facebook, and Twitter and Rumble. you have to um just click it in the chat that I that I put for you. Yay. Yay. Thank you guys for joining.
(1:39:24) It's been it's been fun. I haven't seen any more um questions really pop up, but that's okay. It's all good. I just hope that you I hope you learned something. I hope you were challenged about something. I hope you learned a little bit more about me and and how how I do things and just how I speak and how I live my life.
(1:39:50) Um, so yeah, how do I get my wife to listen to you? Good luck. Good luck. My advice would be to show her a video that is calling out you calling out the men, right? so she doesn't feel threatened right away. And that's a good practice for you, right? Because you can watch and say, you know what, I I do need to take a little bit of accountability here.
(1:40:16) And that'll make her feel good because you are self-aware, right? And then you're leading her. And then you guys can watch some things together, right? I love that you guys are talking talking to each other. I love it. I love it. You're so good at this, Lauren. We'll practice. I practice. Every week I do this, right? Every week I get better.
(1:40:44) I get more confident. Um get a little bit more open with you guys. And I'm an open book. Like if you have questions about me, my personal life. I saw saw somebody asked how old how old I was. [laughter] And if you're a guy asking that, don't ask women how old they are. I don't care. I don't care because I take care of myself.
(1:41:05) I feel good. I'm confident. I look good. I I put a lot of pride into how I carry myself. Um so I'm not ashamed to say how old I am at all. I'm curious what people think though a little bit. Be nice. Be nice. [laughter] I am a little curious. She's 22. I love you. [laughter] I love you if you think I'm 22. 55. You guys are jerks. My gosh.
(1:41:34) [snorts] 55. Kiss my ass. No. 36? No. 41? No. 30s? Yes. 37? No. 43? Good [laughter] dang it, man. I know. I don't care. It's just funny to see like what you guys think. I'm like the worst at guessing ages. I'm the worst. I always guess higher and I always offend people. So, I just don't even ask. I just say something crazy.
(1:42:04) Oh, somebody guessed it. Somebody guessed it. Marina. Marina guessed it on Tik Tok. Did anybody guess it on YouTube? Man, you guys think I'm in my 40s? Okay, whatever. Whatever. [snorts] You look like late 20s. H, love you. Love you. Thank you. Yes, I stream. I stream every Thursday. Every Thursday at 7 PM. I'm 31, guys.
(1:42:33) I'm 31. I will be 32 this year. I'm [snorts] an October baby. October baby. You are so honest. I try to be. Okay, here we go. Ocean. Lauren, if you see this, how to get out of the headsp space of feeling like a [ __ ] t or in a porno when doing these other acts with my hubby. Don't want him seeing me that way.
(1:43:05) You should be your husband's s lu t or h o e or fantasy, right? There's nothing degrading or wrong about that at all. You're his. You are that for him. You're also his wife. You're also his lover. You're also his friend. You're also his partner in life. You're also his um you'll challenge him in a good way, right? You're many things to him, right? Why do you feel like that though? Is he not making you feel safe? Is he not um being tender with you afterwards? Right? Is he not making you feel beautiful? Right? Because
(1:43:44) got to be lady in the streets, right? Freaking the sheets. Be that for your husband. Be that escape. There's nothing wrong with that. It's you have to be you have to feel good about doing these things for him. If you don't feel good about it, then that's something that you guys have to talk about [snorts] by Felicia.
(1:44:19) Yeah. Some guy saying you need to strip away what you've been taught. A little bit. Yeah, a little bit. You just have to be okay. I'm a Libra. I'm a Libra. I'm not giving you the exact date, but I am a Libra. Libra, baby, we're nice until you piss us off and then we flip a switch [laughter] a little bit. You're smarter than your age.
(1:44:46) I wish I learned this stuff a long time ago, guys. a long time ago. I wish it was taught to me a long time ago, right? But our parents, they didn't have the blueprint. They didn't have this manual, right? [snorts] Yeah, you need to reframe it, girlfriend. Here she responded. Everything is perfect except that that part I need to reframe it and he tells me I shouldn't feel that way.
(1:45:12) Not the right thing to say, right? Because that those are your feelings. He needs to figure out why you feel that way and reassure you that you don't need to feel that way, right? There needs to be that reassurance. I don't think you're getting that reassurance part because he's just telling you you shouldn't feel that way, which is kind of dismissing your feelings a little bit, right? So, and you can say that like I feel when you tell me I shouldn't feel that way, I feel like you're not hearing me.
(1:45:40) You're not understanding me. I want you to understand me. And then that's his choice to try to understand you or or not. Right? That's where it's kind of black and white a little bit. [snorts] I hope that I hope that answered your question. I'm just reading some of your your comments, guys. Man, there's a lot of you here on Tik Tok. Thank you.
(1:46:14) Thank you. There's 23,000 of you guys. What is happening? This is so exciting. Yeah, I understand that. He's telling me he loves me and I shouldn't look at it that way. He needs to help you look at it a different way, though. And you have to work on your part of things too, right? Like of why you feel that way, where it stems from.
(1:46:44) Um, somebody said it in here, you've been taught to feel maybe shameful about sex and your desires and and fantasies or whatever. So, that shame needs to go away because that is driving the car right now. You don't want shame to drive the car. You want your confidence to drive the car, right? I want my wife to be my horn.
(1:47:06) I'm going to pin that. You see guys, you see she probably wants to be that for you. She does. She does. You've helped me change where I need to change to become a better man to spot a women who are bad for me and to know and see the red flags early and have the balls to break it off. Go Steve. Go Steve. Good job. Proud of you.
(1:47:32) Very, very proud of you. Oh gosh, permenopause putting a strain on my relationship. How do I handle that? Learn about menopause and learn about what's happening inside of her body so you don't have just this unknown, right, of what the heck is going on because you're not going to get it because you are never going to have to live that, right? I know you're living with her and you're living your version of it, but living with that is is rough, man.
(1:48:04) And somebody that I can refer you to is um modern marriage with Monica. She talks a lot I was on a podcast with her a few months ago in Vegas and she talks a lot about hormones, perimeopause, menopause, sex, 50 and up, trying to get it back. Right? So, she speaks to a different audience, right? We have a similar audience, but she talks a lot about that and I think you could learn a lot from her and she's a doll, so look her up.
(1:48:39) Shout out to Monica. I don't understand that question. Her channel is called Modern Marriage with Monica. Modern Marriage with Monica. Just look it up on YouTube and you'll see it. [snorts] Any advice for widowers or widows? Oh, where'd it go? There it is. Any advice for widowers or widows who may consider getting involved again? Make sure that you're in a total place
(1:49:26) of absolute peace with your life. You're happy with your life. You only want to bring somebody into your life to add value to your life. You want it to be as easy as possible, as easy flowing and going as possible. Um, pay attention to red flags in the beginning. Don't mistake um don't mistake, what's the word I'm looking for? um connection, right? Don't mistake connection for like this chemistry feeling that you get sometimes when you first meet somebody.
(1:50:01) Like get out, get back out there. It's good for you. It's good to put yourself in the environment of the opposite sex and just people in general, right? And and believe that you can, right? Like I'm sorry that that is your reality right now, but okay, that was a chapter of your life. Let's let's write the next chapter.
(1:50:20) Don't limit yourself. Yeah, Jim. You know her. There we go. I forgot her last name. Sorry. Thanks for putting it in there. [laughter] I wonder if old people 90 plus still crave sex. Fun fact, the oldest couple that I've worked with and that had a consultation with me, they were um they were in their mid80s and I'm forgetting the number.
(1:50:51) And the purpose of that call was to how to kind of reignite that spark again. And I thought that was beautiful. They were in their 80s. I'm like, heck yeah. But they had a strong foundation. They are super compatible. They are genuinely happy with each other, right? Like, so all of that stuff matters. How long after a breakup should you date again? until you know that you're not doing it to fill the void, right? To I'm lonely.
(1:51:23) I need some excuse me, I need someone. I need um to be with someone. I'm not whole. I'm not complete. If you're thinking that way out of just neediness and desperation and and worry, then you're it's too soon. It's too soon. [snorts] With your hair like that, you look like Lean Rimes. I have gotten that before.
(1:51:56) I have gotten Lean Rimes before. Thank you. I've also gotten Jennifer Lawrence. Um, and Lindsay Lohan. Those are the three people that people say I look like. And Cool. Cool. Jennifer Lawrence is beautiful. Lean Rimes was freaking rock star in the 90s. Great country artist. [snorts and clears throat] Any great movies about real relationships out there? What I can tell you guys is watch James Bond.
(1:52:35) just watch the James Bond movies and watch his frame, his presence, his confidence, his sexiness, his clothing, um how he talks to women and watch the women like that is a good representation of what I talk about, right, is is James Bond. Like be James Bond and the girls you will be James Bond's girl, right? Another show that kind of embodies the stuff I talk about is um Yellowstone, like Beth and Rip's relationship, too, right? I know Beth's a psychopath.
(1:53:10) Disregard that for a second, right? But watch how he calms her down. Watch how he holds his frame and his presence and that container for her to be that crazy wild animal, but she softens with him, right? James Bond is corny. Maybe. Maybe it's corny, but it's the exact masculine and feminine dynamics that I talk about.
(1:53:33) Okay, watch it. James [snorts] Bond for a night. [laughter] Screw James Bond. I want my [ __ ] to feel like a Disney movie. No, you don't. No, you don't. Because the men never win in Disney movies. It's all about the women. All about the ladies. Yellowstone's amazing show. I loved it. Great show. Okay. Disney's a fragment of imagination.
(1:54:13) Yeah, I've heard the James Bond theory before. Yep. Oh, Paul. Hey, Paul. I know Paul. [laughter] Sean Connory because it's prefeminist nonsense. Yeah. Yep. Hey. Hey, Sebastian. Just coming in. We're just chatting. I We talked about it already. I went through um Women's Darkest Secret Fantasies. And this is going to be recorded, by the way.
(1:54:44) It's recorded and it'll be published also. So, if you're new, um you can watch it later. It's all about the princess. Yep. All about the princess. >> [snorts] >> Who is my favorite James Bond? Oh man. Um, that's hard. That's hard. I mean, you can't beat Shan Conry, right? But then people will probably say
(1:55:29) Pierce. Pierce Broman. Man, that's tough. That's tough. That is tough. Those two probably, Shan Connory and Pierce Brosman. But what about Daniel Craig? He's good, too. He's good, too. Okay. But the other guys just have a little have a little something something. Right. I watched and I haven't even watched all of them.
(1:56:07) I've only seen I think three or four different ones and only once. Like I need to go back. But that is just the the character trait that I'm thinking about. That was the first thing that came to my head. James Bond because he's a badass and he's smooth. He's a badass and smooth. Girl, your hair. Hey, Kylie. Hey, girl. I use my waiver. I use my waiver.
(1:56:31) I'll send you a picture of it. That's my girl. Hey, girl. By the way, oh, I'm talking to Kylie in Tik Tok, so everybody else I can't see. Um, she is amazing. She's amazing makeup artist. She's the sweetest soul ever. So, love her. Thanks, Kylie. Appreciate it. All righty, guys. I think we're going to say goodbye and end.
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