The Spiritual Blueprint Behind Birth, Parenting & Life Lessons | Dr.Monicka Singh XGayathri Shivaram

 The Spiritual Blueprint Behind Birth, Parenting & Life Lessons | Dr.Monicka Singh XGayathri Shivaram

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Spirituality is the science of gods and I think the world is ready for it. >> What makes you say that? >> As much as we try, as much as we want, as much as we strive, we cannot exhaust our karma. My karma with you, your karma with me, good karma, bad karma. When we're helping somebody get out of the pain that they're going through, are we interfering with their karmic cycle? >> No, you are fulfilling your karma. This is just it. Game of life. Does a soul choose where exactly it is supposed to be born and what parents it is supposed to be born to? >> I feel yes. >> On what basis does it choose that? >> It is again a karmic bandh that you have to either repay or reap the fruits with this couple because they are the most helpful for you to be on this journey. >> What is conscious birthing? If the parents know what they're designing and they put their heart and soul and mind and brain and thought and emotion and everything into it to be present to that, you will create a palace for your child. You invoke that soul because that intention has already been set. Then what happens in the case of twins? If they are identical twins, their journey of life ups and downs is also quite similar. But if they're nonidentical twins, they can be starkly opposite. These twins will have a different foundation of praabda. >> Do you believe miscarriage is sometimes a soul level decision? >> Well, I tell you what, through my practice of all these years, I found they happen because of   So I'm just going to start off with this right you are a medical doctor yourself and it's very rare to see somebody who has a science background to also understand the spiritual world with this in-depth knowledge. How and when did you realize that both of it are not two separate worlds but both of it is just the same? When did you understand that? >> Wow. So you're asking me when that amalgamation happened? >> Yes. So true. For me this was a journey of self-discovery and if you want the year when it got initiated was way back 2007. But when that amalgamation started, the merger started I think somewhere in 2011 and 12 >> and then I was everywhere hunting for my answers and that's about 2015 16 another five six years down the lane when I was able to merge both and that's exactly when I understood that they are not independent of each other and then um I wrote something which sometimes I myself go back to and I read that that spirituality is the science of gods and the science which we called our science the human science the science is that part of spirituality which we have sort of proved to ourselves and hence we call it validated science. So you cannot at by all means or at any point of time challenge science of gods the science of cosmos the the brilliance the science which is there and it's only an iota bit of that spirituality which we have decoded that we start calling our science. So science is just one 0 0 point some percentage of spirituality which our logical egoic mind has proved. >> So this I understood back then and ever since then it's not difficult because then there's a whole science and then so-called your egoic science the human science is only discovering that science and then we all are on the same journey. >> That's so true >> that there's no separation. Yeah. >> Yeah. >> I mean this reminds me of like how um when initial days when scientists were talking about quantum physics and quantum science, it was considered pseudo science by the regular scientists because they did not have proof and evidence for it. But now it's become a major stream of science. So science is still catching up on what already exists in the universe and what our yogis and rishies kind of understood through meditation and through self-realization. People want proof. There is a scientific evidence for it, right? So, it's very rare to see somebody who handles both science and spirituality. And it's also very refreshing because the world needs this. >> Yes. And I think the world is ready for it. >> What makes you say that? >> You see it all around like you and me sitting together talking is an evidence that the world is ready for it. >> Otherwise, we won't we know each other for like >> Yeah. you know and that's why because the world is ready >> we are here as I we were just talking >> yes I was going to bring that up right when the answer is ready >> ready the co this is that enigma this is one sentence which I have been hooked to >> it was by Michael Beckwith and we were just talking about him that when the answer is ready to be delivered question appears So now when this is ready to be delivered, it's all happening. >> So you mean to say now a lot of people are awakening to their own self and they're asking themselves the deeper questions of what is life, what is my purpose, what is karma, what is my soul's journey here. That is why because the answer is already ready. These questions are arising in them. >> So it's not that it's happened just overnight. We as human species that this this entire collective of us of ours has evolved and now we've come to this point. See we've been through the stages when there wasn't food when there was a lot of fam and we were dying and there were there were Hitlers and there were everything and there were massacres happening we were through it then there was the revolution happened and the world wars happened and then then second world war happened. And so much of it happened globally and then recessions came and but somehow we've been through it >> and now we've the entire as a collective humanity I'm not talking about the consciousness but through our physical thing as whole we are arriving at that point now pretty much I wouldn't say about certain other countries and nations but I'm talking about as a major global population we are well fed >> we are taken care of for our health. We have certain levels of education. So these basic primary things like in India now everybody has food, everybody has shelter, we have access to government uh healthare and everything. No, we are not struggling for the basis >> for the basics. And now that we are not struggling for the basics and we've cleared that class 5 thing, primary thing, they're going to the secondary class. Mhm. >> We're evolving to that secondary level now as a major population and hence now these questions of what's what's life why we are living why why this is happening to me and what's my purpose as you just said what is peace all of that is coming if I was hungry and I did not have means to satiate myself no money I wouldn't even know what this is >> yes >> I would just be um finding means to feed myself because I don't want to die. >> So that survival the question of survival now has ended >> and because it has ended we are uh transisting into that era of self-questioning self-realization moving towards that what bit by bit by bit which is the eternal quest of any soul is what I believe >> right >> it's it's just we have arrived >> so Dr. Monica, so when we are born, right? >> Yeah. >> There is a wheel of amnesia and we forget. >> Yes. >> The soul contracts. We're going to ask you a lot of questions on soul contracts. >> I hope I'm excited. Let's see. >> I mean, that's been one of my favorite things to talk about and favorite things to research about. >> Yes. >> What is a I mean, what is a soul contract? >> Wow. I really feel that when I you know we've um read books and scriptures and we know as you were just discussing also that this world has been created as dream of Brahma and probably Brahma just thought let me make it an interesting game. So how do I interconnect the lives that all the specs of lives and energies that I'm creating okay let's make a game of karma. So you know like we play snake and ladder it has certain rule and because there is certain way you go about it you you you're stuck to the game same as ours it's just a game which is happening my karma with you your karma with me good karma bad karma karmic deeds then um I've gained a lot of sat karma so I will come back to the life to reap them I have done a bad karma so I would come back to the life to repay them but we're still in a M >> as much as we try, as much as we want, as much as we strive, we I feel I feel we cannot exhaust our karma. That is not possible because we try to exhaust suppose in mathematical terms and numbers uh a particular soul came to this planet with 100 kmas and because it's an open game while exhausting those 100 kmas the soul has also gained another 200 kmas now out of those 100 maybe 50 got exhausted and 200 more have come now I'm going back with 250 and this cycle continues So the question of exhausting your kmas and escaping the loop I feel is not possible. >> Does a soul choose where exactly it is supposed to be born and what parents it is supposed to be born to? >> I feel yes. >> Okay. On what basis does it choose that? Just imagine there is this person there is this okay this soul who would want to walk this planet with a certain praabda with a certain life lessons with a certain agendas and now this soul is going to find the most conclusive congruent pair who are also now ready to invite them invoke them or if not the invitation ready to carry and then mutually they fulfill this karmic journey. So I really feel that it is again a soul contract. >> It is again a karmic bandhan. It is again the praabdha that you have to either repay or reap the fruits with this couple and then you choose them as your parents because they are the most a ready for you b helpful for you to be on this journey. And then comes the period of 9 months which I'm so so so fascinated with and I'm going to talk about it for sure what happens and how that karmic praabda is different from the subconscious imprance that we talk so much about. I'm going to talk about that also but I feel that this is the case. Okay. So for example I was born in a dysfunctional family as in parents used to fight a lot when I was growing up. It was very difficult and when I was growing up I used to constantly even as a child question myself why am I born to this family? Why do I not have a regular family like somebody else has until the age of 25 26 then when the realization hit and when I started to understand everything was connecting the dots. So it took 25 26 years for me to actually realize that. But what do you think for example even the people who are watching who did not have a great childhood and they went through all of this traumatic experiences what could have been the purpose of that k you want to ask a question as an answer to this question at 25 you had the realization and you started standing up for yourself and then you went through the entire thing of understanding your life. Imagine if you would have born into a very comfortable childhood where you know these challenges were not there probably even by the age of 45 years you would be going the same way as humans we are designed I think it's our choice to choose this design that we learn and evolve through suffering okay so I was just talking to somebody >> and it is by choice. We can also do it the e another way but most of us have chosen this way >> this path grow through suffering. So I was just choosing somebody right now I had a conversation with that who can run a marathon somebody who's fit somebody who's healthy can run a marathon right >> a person is not not fit would never choose to run even a half marathon so a soul who is fit and eligible to go through this complete testing phase of challenge at aka Okay, the marathon of the life is eligible and more than that chooses to go through this marathon because when I run through the marathon as you said going from point A to point B is easy and accelerated for me otherwise I would learn the similar lessons maybe through my lifetime and by the time I reach uh when I'm 60 70 years old I'll be able to decode everything but for you it happened at the age of 25 you reach your point B at the age of 25 26 because your powerful soul the energy uh who you were a were eligible for this marathon b you wanted so much more to learn and do that you said okay let me get done with all of this in my 20ies so that by the time I'm hitting my 30s I'm already doing something worthwhile and better >> thanks to your parents your best best mates at soul They said, "Okay, my love, my child, I am going to play the villain in your life so that you rise up and wake up and you do what you are meant to do." You know an interesting thing, our best soulmates, our best people choose to be the villains of our life because through them we learn and grow and it doesn't matter whether we hate them or love them because they're with us unconditionally at that level. That's so true because um in 2021 when I was going through a very difficult phase when I was going through therapy I did a past life regression process where I realized that my father has always been a part of my life even in the previous lifetimes and it came as a realization that my father went through so much suffering to create so much suffering for me so that I could learn the lessons and live a fulfilled life. So there comes a soul which sacrificed its own life because my father did not have a great life. He still does not have an amazing life. Went through so much of suffering and created so much of suffering so that I could live this amazing life. That day I had so much gratitude for that soul because it soul truly loves me to that extent that it wants me to grow at the cost of its own. >> Bang on. >> Yeah. Bang on. Those are the real soulmates. So um the husband who's betraying you, the father who's not treated you well, the mother abandoned you. I know at the superficial physical level it it just looks like why me and these are my enemies. But you sit with yourself, everybody who's watching this today, close your eyes and just write down the lessons you've learned, the person you've become, the the maturity that you've attained, and where you've arrived in your life because of these people. And today, before you hit the bed, say a gratitude prayer to each one of them. Thanks to you that I'm so strong. Thanks to you that I've learned what loyalty is. Thanks to you, today I can just scan people and discern. Hey, you are this, you are that for me >> thanks to them. And once you start being in gratitude for the people who have chosen to be villains of your life and you've grown through them, you'll find fulfillment. >> That's so true >> because only beyond that point where we are not victimizing ourselves is the freedom to fly. >> But the realization does happen after a lot of suffering. So now I want to understand we know we chose the lessons what we wanted to learn but we also forget the lessons when we come here and we go around beating around the bush asking why me? Why am I going through so much suffering? Why does this happen? Why do we tend to forget the lessons that we want to learn? >> This is just the game my love. This is the game of life. This is the game that the creator created. I think creator got bored of everything so perfect in the cosmos. See sun is always rising at the same time. The moon is rising at the same time, setting at the same time. I mean sun has never faltered to rise. Okay, sun is not rising. It is the revolution and rotation everything. But everything is cosmos is so damn perfect. I think creator got bored and said chal. Let's put some masala in tka. Let's create humans and let's see the drama. And I think it's it is all at the end of the day meaningless >> because when we all go we all cross over. We we all pass on as the same energy being same souls who have as you just said moved from point A to B to C to D and now we just gone. I mean we leave everything right. Everything that we have accumulated we leave back including our children and spouse and mother and father and this office and that office and my podcast and my subscribers and followers and everything we just leave it and go and we don't know where we are going or what's going to happen to us. >> Yeah, >> it is just a game. So I I always say be absolutely carefree when you're playing this game as as long as it is there just play the game and once it's over you're back to the pavilion. It's just a match. >> Then what is the purpose of the ego? Why does it make us believe this is so important? This is so real and the separation is so real. What is the purpose of the ego? >> So let me give an example and it it it'll be like wow it's easy. So um imagine a cricket match IPL is going right and the um stands are full and there's the two teams there match the bowler the wicket keeper the fielder everybody's there and there six are going and somebody taking the wicket at that time for bowler he has achieved everything look at the smiles and the way they celebrate or if there's a six everybody goes Matt, everybody knows that within 2 3 hours this game is going to get over. >> You got it. >> Whatever six was or I was out on a duck or there was a great tun or there was a great wicket or no wicket. We get so involved in the game. We cry, we laugh and everything though we know that it's all going to end. What's the fun? It is just to create that charm. It is just to create that interest. Is just to create that involvement and engagement in the game itself that we set the rules and everything happens. Imagine Virat Kohli knowing oh it will all end. Why should I play? No. Every game he comes he plays not just him but everybody they play at their top level 100 level and then they go back >> to rest and then prepare for the next game. I think this is our life. We come, we get involved, engaged as if everything is real. >> Yes, this wicked is real, this t is real, this six is real. However, soon we all go back and sleep. This is just it. Game of life. So don't be so serious about it. However, enjoy it as much as you can. That's true. And when you were speaking previously about we come here let's say with 100 rupees when we go back we go back with 250 rupees is there a possibility for us to release and let go of a karma here without adding on the extra 200 rupees >> I feel again and what I've understood is it can only and only and only be done through that complete 100% presence when you're in connection with that presence that absolute in that moment that whatever karma is fractifying for you at this moment can be dropped. Only if your karma gets dropped in that moment when you are in stark connection with the divine that it gets dropped that you do not accumulate. And when the ego says I am I am reaping the fruits I am doing I the moment you say I am it is me. >> The ego is in the play and then you're in the game. >> Okay. The moment we are in that sync that am goes because if you're in that sync you are the that universal sync you are in and that oneness can be attained just for maybe 30 seconds not even I mean it's just minuscule oneness that you can achieve that anybody can achieve in that moment that moment of karma however deep that is I think it would just dissolve that is the only way that that's probably why all our rishies and everybody when they were they they sat for their tapas. I think they were just being in that complete sense of presence where they were being one with that creator. And in that moment when they were completely one with that creator and that was that presence and there was not I am is when whatever karma they had come with at that time was dissolved. It was taken. it went only that way you can be non-calmic if that's the word >> right >> you cannot fulfill your karma you cannot exhaust your karma >> because that is a paradox that is a loop >> you can only drop the karma >> and you and I cannot drop the karma >> it can get dropped only with that stark sharp presence And where when you're in sync with that presence like universe is always saying tatasu. So I always say this thing that what is the universal language of universe. I think it's only one word tatastu. So be it. The universe is always saying tatthastu. So that is why all our imaginations everything that we want when we create that in our minds sometime later it gets fractified in one way or the other >> to whatever degree. Sometimes the fractification may even happen in our dreams. >> It may not come to the reality but we see that happening >> through our minds that projections are always coming true. So this is the language of universe. So the moment we are in that sync and there is no lag. So universe is saying suppose I'm in sync with universe it's an overlap of presence that's when I become that and that becomes me and because of my mind that focus could only be for maybe 2 seconds or maybe 3 seconds but for those three seconds I think all the layer of karma at that moment will be ripped off. >> Okay. because I was so present that I was not in action. >> You were not associated with yourself as a doer. You were just doing because the divine just was passing through you. >> Correct. And at for that moment all my doings, all my karma which was supposed to be exhausted in that that whatever time it gets dropped never to come back and I'm not recreating anything on that. So probably that creates patches of >> dropping of karma and when these patches can grow in length >> when we are completely in observance of self you're observing in sync with universe of self and this patch keeps on growing growing growing is when we're exhausting our one fin okay let's go guys >> right >> probably this could be the mechanism I don't know but then I I feel that for me this is my truth for now. So if that is the case, then when we helping somebody, when we're helping somebody get out of the pain that they're going through, are we interfering with their karmic cycle? >> No, you are fulfilling your karma. Now look at this another backstory. >> Okay, >> you got that already, Kait. Let me just you know >> now suppose you are the one who who are the healer >> and there's somebody who comes and pain and through through you because of you through you they get healed then we would say it was it is your karma to help XYZ and so many number of people to get through this journey of their pain and you were prepared for that through your painful journey so that now you have a context of what they're growing and going through actually and you're helping them. >> But the minute I attach myself to be the one who did this, then I'm adding on more karma to it. >> Exactly. >> Right. So when I say it is not me, I'm just a medium. I'm a vessel and the universe is flowing through me to give you the answers that you were seeking. I'm not taking any karma. I'm just >> or the credit or the debit. It is all credit and debit debit game. So what I say? So now all all everybody that I'm working with, they've always heard. So when I say oh you are this you are that I said no I'm being used by my masters or the universe it's their grace they have used me and you are ready for that what has to be served to you through me so they is using me it's they or universe super consciousness whatever >> whatever grace they've used me to help you and it's done I have done nothing I have done nothing I'm capable of doing nothing >> I and You are same. >> So we're not taking any credits, no debits. We're neutral. Okay. >> We cannot actually do you think really guy Gaitri that one human being can change and shift lives of thousands of people >> humanly impossible Baba >> because if you are born in this body you are full of karma. And if I'm born born in this body I'm full of karma. If I am full of karma and living and you are full of karma living then we both are equal. >> True. >> How can somebody be better than me and less than me? >> Yes. >> No. It is just my awareness and my presence and my preparedness to be used is when the grace uses me to serve somebody. Right? So we are all being used. It is egoic to say I am here to touch lives of so many people. >> Yeah. >> Not possible. >> Yes. Yes. >> You are breathing I am breathing same air. We are equal. >> Yeah. >> I believe in that so much. And like I was talking to you even before we started this off late. I've just been questioning myself asking what is the purpose of me doing what I'm doing? Because even when somebody comes and says you've changed my life, you've touched my life. It doesn't change anything inside of me because I for a fact know at some point of time when I needed the answers, somebody came and gave me the answers. Now it's my job. I wouldn't say even it's my job. I'm just inspired to do that for whatever reason it could be. At this point of time that detachment gives me a lot of peace every time and I'm not doing this consciously also. I was telling my husband when I was having a conversation, it's not because I'm a humble person. I don't think I'm a humble person. But it's not even from humility. I think this is the truth. The answers that I'm getting, the thoughts that I have, the feelings or the insights I have, it's coming from somewhere else. How can I own it and say I had this? >> It's beautiful. It's beautiful. >> It's true. It's like there's a class. Imag remember when we were in school >> 40 children in one class and the teacher is not there one of us used to be the monitor >> we are just playing that role that doesn't make us a teacher wow so then why do we feel that presence and that bliss when we are around rishies or evolved souls what happens then >> I'll say this today on your podcast I I've I've talked about it with my students, my classes, but I'm going to speak it. We studied in school that cell is the basic unit of life. >> I say what when I say I say I mean is I just received this that peace is the basic unit of soul. So when we say I want to find my peace is not possible because you are peace. The basic unit of soul is peace. So when these people who are in this moment of presence, they are so present to their own energy, their own substance, their own soul, which is so much peace because its basic unit is peace. That this is what they spread. And whosoever comes and sits there in their vicinity, their peace which is inside them because they are also this energy being made up of peace resonates and receives >> and that's why it spreads. How does one actively or consciously practice being in that state of peace? I feel uh peace means nonmovement, movement of mind. So when you're able to watch the movement of your mind, the flickering of your mind and you're able to watch that with focus, the moment which is happening in your mind, you can watch that with that peace only and only with that peace. It's like the water, right? When there's a thunderstorm, everything is everywhere. But when it's complete stillness, you throw even a stone, you can just watch the endless ripples which are forming like you can just see it as some creation the ripples going. Same is with us. So when we are able to be in complete stillness, first is the stillness of body. No moment you sit you know the the game that we played when we were young statue >> say statue become statue and let the involuntary movement which is happening inside you happen. >> First is the physical body stillness and then you close your eyes or not close your eyes and just watch the movement of your mind. Not the thoughts. Thoughts are adapted things like thoughts you catch. But your own moment of mind which will um receive thoughts or give out thoughts. You just watch the moment of your mind. In that moment of your mind, you will find stillness. Like we breathe in, we breathe out and there's a pause in between. >> We stop and we breathe out. So there's this pause. So when this movement of the mind is happening in between There is stillness >> and we just focus on that stillness and that stillness everything opens for you. >> And why are so many people struggling to find that stillness? Because there is so much of movement in mind and in body. We are just moving, moving, moving, moving. Our mind is so captivated by engagement. Our mind is always wanting one thing or the other. It's work or home or TV or news or reals or shorts or tubes or sorry YouTube or then my food then my mate then my husband then my child then my daughter then my school then my podcast then my work then my session then what's going to happen then my ads then my income then coming back to my parents then their illness then their doctor and then I'm sleeping oh let me check my WhatsApp then I wake up oh I have to do my gratitude pair prayer I've done it okay I have to shower it's constant And it is constant. This is the movement. That's why because I feel the stillness is between the moments and that is why these patches are so random and they just appear and go, appear and go like small dots on our timeline like one dot happened, I was in present and then one kilometer goes and then one dot happens. You know what I'm saying? >> Yes. And is it the nature of the mind to be this distracted? >> Yes. >> Okay. >> Yes. >> Like heart will die. We die when the heart stops beating. Our mind will die when it stops thinking. >> So do we uh want the death of the mind? No. But we want our minds to follow my command that you don't die but you be silent >> and that is a mastery. >> This is something that I read somewhere that when you take a spoon of sugar and put it on your mouth so you know sweetness because tongue has the properties to sense sweetness. The same spoon of sugar you put on your ear or any part of the body you will not know. Similarly the mind cannot understand this bliss. So it's not even in the nature of the mind. So only when the mind becomes quiet and I wouldn't say we become mindless. I would say when we become thoughtless mind cannot even understand what it is. That is why it's so difficult for us to explain it to somebody because explanation comes from the mind. >> So it's kind of difficult for us to explain the experience. As much as we talk, we are always in the mind. >> As much as I am talking, I'm thinking or thoughts are happening involuntarily, but there is a moment still happening in my mind. And if I'm able to see and watch the stillness between the moment, I'm present to that grace >> even now. M >> so you were talking about the importance of conscious birthing. >> Oo a lot of people because I think that is your purpose right to create the new earth bring souls into the new earth. Talk to us about it. What is conscious birthing? >> Wow. The same presence. The same presence. say I always say and maintain one thing and uh I would repeat because I feel this is a fundamental that we always it's it's it's never going to be enough as much as you speak on this that whenever we con like you did this beautiful studio so much of planning went >> this color this decor everything then when we constructing the house from the right from the basics you work on the foundation and then you do the vastu and the pujan the soil testing and everything. This is about allowing a new life. Actually creating that new life inside the womb from two cells to trillion cells. How can this entire project be random when a mundane project like creating a new house is so important? If that is so important and it is so much planned by architects and wasu people and the interior designer and us together then this project which is two to trillion cell and this project who one day be delivered and grow into an adult is going to walk this planet in its own way >> can be a random thing. No, it cannot be a random thing. There is architecture, there is creation, there is interior, there is exterior. Everything is happening. However, it is like I have this 500 square yards of plot and somebody random people are making the foundation. Somebody's making home. Somebody's made a 20x 20 bedroom. Somebody's making a 5x5 kitchen and everything is randomly happening. and I'm moved into a house and I'm saying oh my kitchen is only 5x5 and my bathroom is 20 by 20 man it will be because you were not there when it was being constructed and then we live in that same house all our life saying this is so disproportionate my life is so disproportionate why this area of my life is so constricted man you created constructed you were created constructed if the parents know what they're designing and they put their heart and soul and mind and brain and thought and emotion and everything intuited be present to that you will create a palace for your child >> in proper proper uh proportions and then this child will live like a king the king's eyes because now everything which was needed as foundation of life gone as a foundation of life >> so I say create a balance create a balance but for that creation because it is your creation you have to be present this is conscious birthing according to me. >> Okay. So, what do you think the parents should do at least 6 to 8 months before they conceive? >> Wow. So 6 to 8 months is like amazing. But even if they start preparing for it 3 months prior, you've done something. >> Okay. What do you put them through? What what should they be doing in the process? >> Okay. So there's something called enlightened human conception that we do with everybody who wants to be in this. I we put them through the entire journey of three levels of the existence. There are only three problems in life if you see and what does what are those three things? Health, wealth, relationship. Either somebody has a health problem or wealth problem or relationship problem. There is no fourth. >> So we dedicate one month each to one aspect of their life. We work through it say and then we teach them that you know these are the three areas and science of epigenetics proves that you will 100% pass on these areas to your children to this coming being you better be careful what you're giving to them >> passing on to them you want to pass everything that you have as your gunk or as your prized possession as is or you want to filter it. So these three months we teach them how to filter it. >> It's entire process of filtering it and then when they're ready uh we take them through the invocation and wherever the vibration is. At birth the new earth mission we maintain one thing loud and clear very solid you attract as your child who you are and not who you wish for. Okay. So I want a saintly child, successful child, healthy child. Hello. Where's your health? Where's your mind? Where's your emotion? You're exactly going to attract your carbon copy. So become that who you wish to conceive. >> Okay. >> And that is why the parents so proudly say, "Oh, this child is just my carbon copy and gone on me." I said, "God bless the child. Okay. So for example, let's say at this point of time my level of awareness is X >> and I work on myself and I raise my level of awareness to Y >> and my child whoever is supposed to be born through me. >> Do you think there are different souls who are ready at every >> 100%. >> Okay. >> 110 2,000%. Nothing is carved. See your destiny is not carved in stone. What happens tomorrow is a complete reflection of what happens today and happened yesterday. >> Similarly, who I am today, I'm going to conceive in proportion to that. But who I am 3 years down the line, I'm going to conceive somebody proportional to that. That's how my two children are going always going to be different. >> Same house, same environment, same food, same mommy, same daddy, same gynecologist, same peditician, same hospital, same society, same Chennai, same weather. But my kids are different. Why? because my wives were different. >> So who I attracted was for different. So they're fundamentally different children. >> And who am I what am I supposed to learn through this child and what am I supposed to learn through this child is always going to be different and separate. >> Okay. >> So who am I attracting at that point in my life as my child is going to be so different. >> Then what happens in the case of twins? >> You will see it's a very interesting question. So if there are twins and they have been conceived by you >> and when they are being carried inside you and through the 9 months of journey the impact that they receive from their father and the mother is going to be different because these twins will have a different foundation of praabda. If they are identical twins, it means when they come from the same egg and you know they're so similar you've seen you will see more or less in kids of identical twins their journey of life ups and downs is also quite similar. >> Okay. But if they're non identical twins, they can be starkly opposite born within the difference of a minute or two or three or five minutes. But you will see how their life is going in one direction and others life is going in another direction. One would get married, other would get divorced. Even this could happen. >> Why? Because now the foundation of praabda is different. However, these both twins and children would be in their beingness and presence, in their qualities, in their mindset, in their uh mindfulness and whatever it is, they would be just few notches up and down. They will be very similar in basic character. >> Okay. But their because their praabda is different, their life will go in different directions, but their mostly their learning lessons would be same bracket. So uh one would learn maybe through addictions. >> Another one could learn through betrayal. >> Okay. The lessons will be similar but the way they learn the lessons can be different. >> Could be different because now different people will have their role plays in their life differently. Unless and until this one particular twin becomes so aware and turns tunes into himself into that presence is when they can change the game for themselves and then again the life is going to be so different >> but you will see the vibration is more or less same. which will be similar to their mom's and dad's wife at the moment that they were conceived. >> Conceived. Okay, got it. Yeah. >> Do you believe miscarriage is sometimes a soul level decision? >> Well, I tell you what, through my practice of all these years, I found I'm g I'm going to give you two points and it's going to help our audience also. You will see there is something medically called threatened abortion. When somebody spots or bleeds, however the cardiac activity is there, >> the baby the pregnancy is still viable and they go through the pregnancy but the bleeding is there. It is called threatened abortion. >> Another one is missed abortion is when the heartbeat is not there. The pregnancy has sealed and then you have to go for a go for a cleansing or a clear. You clear it for like a DNC or whatever. The root cause of any threatened abortion bleeding is anger. >> This I have researched this got stamped and I've got any number of case studies to prove it. >> And IDS intrauterrine deaths or miscarriages which happen like the termination of the pregnancy on its own which is also called medically the spontaneous abortion. They happen because of fear. I have interviewed when I say interviewed means asked like I don't know thousands of my patients now that whenever there is a miscarriage and they miscarried I and I'm doing a scan I always ask them what are you afraid of and they'll give you the list of fears and how are you feeling? I'm very fearful and I I'm sure that the people who had miscarriages is going to relate to this. Fear is the foundation of a miscarriage. Anger is the foundation of a threatened abortion like a pregnancy which can result into a termination of a pregnancy. So again science my medical science would give you 10,000 like when I say 10,000 means enough reasons progesterone levels and your hormones are not in balance your cervix is dilated or your endometrium is not enough all that is fine but understand that is still your biology and your biology is the consequence of something correct >> it is not the thing your biology ology as always say is the consequence of your chemistry means the biochemistry, the molecules inside your body, the hormones inside your body and your chemistry is the result of your mind because everything comes from here which is your pituitary it is sitting out here. So ultimately biology is only an end end product of what is coming through a chemistry from the higher self from the higher part of you not the higher self the higher part of you which is pituitary right here. Okay. Now rather than just treating that is why we had a medical terminology called RPL. >> You know what is RPL? >> Recurrent pregnancy loss. So they the women who come to us like us means the doctors with the history of seven miscarriages, three miscarriages, five miscarriages. We do everything we So this this lady came to me from a city of merit which was 250 kmters from my hospital and she heard and she she just came to me I think that was again also 2017 18 somewhere she came she said I have eight miscarriages history of eight miscarriages I'm pregnant for the ninth time >> and she had done she had undergone all tests possible like everything kotyping and everything >> I don't Oh, and I don't know what to do. Come sixth 6th week, 8th week, I get pregnant like this. But the cardiac activity either doesn't come or if it comes, it stops. And it is night time. She was very, she was so sad. She was so much in grief. She was so desperate that she was so stoned also inside the heart. And I know it's also can go, but somebody said you have to go to her. So I've come to you. I said, "What's your fear?" She said, "This only." I said, "No, not this fear, your earlier fear." And then I kind of took her through the layers and layers and layers and layers and layers and we reached there and then we did something something something and she just knew what is the root cause of a fear. She worked on that fear because that was the root cause of all the miscarriages and then nothing. I just gave her same treatment, few progesterones and some injections and some this and that and then she came the heartbeat was good. Then we did 13 week scan all good and ultimately she delivered a healthy 3.5 kg boy and it was the ninth pregnancy after eight miscarriages and she just worked on the root of all the fears which was coming from her childhood which was so deep inside >> and we as doctors and all thanks to my fraternity we work so hard all the people in my fraternity all the gynecologists my colleagues everybody they work so hard And um we do all the prescriptions and everything but this is the root. >> Mhm. >> And this baby survived. Of course it is not we cannot scientifically say and it can always be challenged because this is not tangible. >> Yes. >> However, what I say is whatever that is we lost eight babies and whatever this process is after this this baby survived for me this is enough. For me, this is enough and this is how we've helped so many women go through their pregnancies and achieve great results. And for somebody who's watching this right now and who want to conceive consciously and want to attract a soul that is evolved, how does one start with the process? >> Who you want as your baby guy? Three. >> You asking me? >> Yes. I think somebody who evolved in their own spiritual journey will also help me evolve in my own journey. >> That is everybody. >> That is every soul because we all are souls on the path of evolution at different different levels. Now let's go to more concrete tangible version of your child. Close your eyes. >> Who you want as your kid? Can I say whatever is coming in my head? Yes. Okay. >> I think I want a child who is a scientist. >> Oo. Yeah. >> And >> who kind of understands how the universe operates, how it works scientifically and brings into this world some solution what the world is looking for. >> Exactly. So you wish actually to invoke a soul have somebody walk through you on this planet who is in sync with mother nature. >> Right. >> Who wants to do something and give back to the mother nature. >> Yes. >> Who wants to solve problems of this world scientifically. >> Yes. >> However in in a progressive manner. >> Yes. >> Right. >> Yes. >> Become that. That does not mean that you need to learn quantum physics or science or become a scientist. Be present to the progression of mother nature. Connect with five elements and daily connect with mother nature and say ma mother nature priti how can I be so deeply in sync with you that I can serve you? I can work towards your preservation, your conservation, your progression, your peace, your light. You just do this much of connection. You will see, you will start meeting people. You will start getting those reals and shots and everything. This is how universe works. And you will find what's happening in this world on these lines. And then you go into that vibration. You invoke that soul because that intention has already been set. Now it brings me to the next question. Do I have this desire because that soul has already chosen me or because of me having this desire am I choosing the soul? >> Who came first or the >> okay okay you know some some things are just paradox and to answer these questions is foolish. >> It's it's non-conclusive. So there are certain things which uh we should not even go into because this is a mind >> and mind can engage into it and we can just get into the loop of it. So let's just drop it. Yes, >> it it it it is however elusive it is, it is not conclusive. You'll never get this answer. Why waste your time? >> And do you believe in past lives? >> I have a different version of it. >> Okay, please tell me what it is. I think it's very egoic to say my past life, your past life, their past life, you know, we are so similar in energy at soul level that my and you and then we say we are just like drops of ocean and when we go back to that ocean we dissolve in it then what is mine and what is will that drop remember that I came through Ganga I came through Cavei I came to this river and I came to Arabian I I I came to Bay of Bengal No, it dissolves. Then how can it be your and my past life? I feel and it is not just I feel I I know it is a collective knowingness and I also gather this through a collective knowingness that probably it's like a universal library. It's like a universal consciousness collection collectiveness. And when I am on this path and I have certain references that I need for a certain uh progression in my journey and I want to go back to the library to bring that book as my past life so-called past life know from where it is coming and move on I just go to the collective library and whatever is needed for me I draw that book >> and I get benefit out of it considering it to be my past life and I move on. But if you regret >> 10,000 people >> at least 1,000 will say I was dasi >> I was muggal bacha I was this how is that possible because there is no my and there is no yours >> it is so oneness we are so much in oneness that our experiences also become one and probably when a soul goes and whatever so-called past life karmic thing they get logged as there must be some mechanism where everything gets logged kind of a record or whatever. And then when I'm going into regression, I'm I'm working on suppose um my agenda is to know why this emotional turmoil and I want a reference for my cleansing. Then I go to that record and I bring the book of fathers where fathers give their daughters a difficult time because that particular notion is going to heal me and then I log it back to be used by somebody else exactly in this manner. I and you are not so important that each one of us will have our individual past life. No, we are not that important. We are very generic general people just come and go. This is such a fresh perspective when it comes to past life. So it's basically we we kind of access information from the universal consciousness and we access the exact information that is required for our journey in this moment and once it is done it is used it is put back again there so that somebody else who needs it can use it at this point of time it's put back it's there we don't know but then you just keep on going and asking so I was a warrior >> I was a world war II fighter and I was Maharan pratab I was jaji kirani. I was kalima. I was bugged this that so many people have regressed to those points because now what does Maharana Prattab for example somebody jasani stand it stands as an epidome of a woman rising to her epidome of courage where she fought somebody and for all the women who are on this journey of self-empowerment they will relate to that character which was created in the bar's jasani and then jasikirani through being that Jasikirani they heal use it Oh, what's the problem? >> Right coming back to the next question of trying to understand how the preparation phase needs to be. I want to understand what is garbasar. So, Garbasans as much as I understand. Okay. First ask me the question. What do you mean when you are doing subconscious mind impressions and imprints? Subconscious mind imprints. So, we do uh something called awakening in womb. And we have 11 codes of subconscious mind imprints that you offer to these kids. And it is called the subconscious mind impression. Sub new uh sorry prenatal subconscious mind imprints. Right? And then it's also one of those frequently asked questions that how is this different from Gerbaanscar. So as much as my knowledge of Gerba Sanscar goes, it is about beautifully about eating right, preparing right, doing the right things, it's about mantras and it's about um communicating with the kid and all of that. But when we are working at the level of subconscious mind impression and like we do awakening in womb, subconscious mind impressions, we have it at three levels. Level one is deweding level. So we dewed the subconscious. Level two is seeding level. We seed the subconscious >> of the child >> of the child. >> Okay? >> And this does not mean playing with their destiny. It all it only means you're offering them the platter of fresh nice organic vegetables and fruits and they will choose and pick from this. >> Okay? >> You're not offering them any junk. >> Okay? >> Correct? So this is seeding >> and the last phase is nurturing. >> So you've deveded then you seeded and now you're nurturing it. And this includes all the other beautiful aspects of garbasar of listening to this, doing this, writing this, understanding this, all of that is included. However, what I say is on the board which is so full of stories, if you write another stories, random or aware, it would still remain a clumsy story. >> Unless you clean the blackboard or the white board, even if that's a dot, it would be visible, right? A single dot would be visible and you've written something like a beautiful cursive nice writing it will be more attractive and visible exactly with our subconscious >> right so when you're putting that manual that sunlight sunshine or water to nourish your child through garbascar remember if the deweding has not been done >> then not just the seeds that you're putting will be nourished even those deeds will be nourished and that is why you see comet way even after so much of gulpanscar we have such profound individuals however those traits ei traits which are sitting in them sit in them and they continue to sit through them >> because the deweeding has not happened okay >> not been done >> okay >> so this is so so we kind of go a little deeper and we do a lot of different different genres of work and but this is the outline This is the outline and we've kind of structured in a now that structure is possible after um 11 years or so of the work and what works best and how it works and what should I do not do. So I formulated now after this 11 years of it's okay after 11 years of research that structured and formulated it into 11 codes >> and we say code one code two code three and we tried to put and include everything in a little structure manner. So that a mom knows what she's up to and what she needs to do. And if she flows through this journey, she's automatically going through the three phases of deweding, seeding, nurturing. >> Wow. So for all the parents who already have a child, >> right? >> How do they make sure they don't traumatize the child even more? >> Should I be truthful? >> Yes. If you okay everybody should now understand that pregnancy is the journey of awakening and parenting is the journey of healing. So if you do not wish to traumatize your kid or pass on any traumas you wish to heal yourself work on your traumas draumatize yourself is only when you're not going to do it to your kid. How muchever you wake up in the morning and promise to yourself I'm not going to cause harm today to my child through my actions or behaviors or my thought you would exactly end up doing the same because it is in your involuntary behavior. It is beyond your control at the heat and the peak of the moment you become that which you do not want to become because that is your truth. >> Yes. And because you do not want to harm your child any further unless you go inside you shake up yourself a bit do a self-p probe and say two this truth I don't want anymore and even though it is my truth how can I be the real truth that I am which is two layers beyond this so-called adapted truth is when you identify your real truth and this truth which is a pseudo truth and adapted truth would no longer exist is when you heal yourself and you you become that true parent to your child and there's no question of traumatizing your child. >> So the best thing that you can do to your child is to heal yourself >> 100%. These kids are innocent, nice, amazing sweethearts and then people say, "Oh, you don't know my 3-year-old such a person, nasty person." I said, "No, your child is not that. Your child is only reflecting you. And that forgotten forgotten self of you. That part of you which you have hidden beyond the carpet behind a facade that you say I'm so okay. I'm so fine with. But you know what's hiding unless and until you work on that, rectify that or improve that or shift that or embrace that. Actually recognize yourself and say yes it is me. And when you say yes it is me it goes is when your child will not be that who you call as devil in that moment that child is reflecting the devil sitting inside. >> So talk to us about mothers and what is that they go through in this journey. >> So what I wrote was in the book mother and I was writing a chapter on mother and I write and I wrote as m other So when you're mastering so much when you're the master of your life that now you can influence the life of the other. When I say other not necessarily your kid but whosoever you can touch as a nourishment provider as a nurturer you become a mother. >> Like I always maintain you can be a mother to your staff you are a mother to your pet. You can mother you can mother your plant anybody. So what is this mother? That art of nurturing others. The mastery of the nurturer of the other is a mother. Mother nature is the master nurturer. Right? We call her the mother because she is the master of nurturance to all the others which are we. So this is a mother. And for all the mothers who feeling guilty about how they're not able to do so much for their child, what is your message for them? Any guilt that any mother holds that they are not able to do so much for their child is the guilt that they are not able to do so much for themselves. The inner being, the soul, their calling, their true nature, their own um what do you say connection with themsel, their own paying attention to themselves. Once they start paying attention to themselves, nurturing themselves and it is not selfishness. It is not selfishness because the more you take care of yourself and you nurture yourself, you can nurture multiplied by I don't know how many times others it it is exponential. So we say right who you are is projected exponentially on the world. >> Yes. >> Similarly if I'm able to nurture myself how much I can nurture you and others would be 10x. >> They should be ready to receive that nurturing. A nurturer is essential to become a mother. M >> a nurturer was mastered the art becomes a mother because now they have mastered m the art of nurturing and the science of nurturing others >> is a mother. >> So in a world that kind of glorifies sacrifice right? >> Oh I love it. >> How do we tell the mothers that it is okay for you to take care of yourself and not sacrifice everything? >> I love it Gaitri. I want every individual who's listening to it to pay attention to what we are going to say right now. It's not just about a lady. It's also about any man. It's about any human being. Sacrifice as a word has a tone of something which you need to give if you need to get something. >> It has a tone of I have to lose something if I have to get something. sacrifice is not needed anymore by any human being for its growth. We have evolved to that level in this course of evolution that sacrifice is not needed. Let us now together in this moment replace the word sacrifice where we tend to lose or we our brain is um brain feels that I need to know lose something if I have to sacrifice. Let's replace this word with share. Sharing is a win-win. There is no losing. It is always progressive. It is always positive. While sacrifice has a donation of losing something. And you know what? For certain patriarchal interest or certain interest of the society back then could be anything, sacrifice was glorified, >> right? which was not to be done because our gods, our goddesses like the those epidomes, they have not taught us sacrifice. They live in abundance. They live in fulfillment. They live in prosperity. They are all adorned with beauty, right? They've all shown us the beauty and fulfillment through share and care and love and everything. So, sharing is win-win for everybody. Sacrifice is losing yourself. And um the word sacrifice also was introduced in the families in the society actually for vested interest so that that control could be mastered. >> I will be able to control 10 people if they will sacrifice their freedom to be under my control. So it is such a subconscious word you need to sacrifice a lot. So whenever I'm working with some women and they say my grandmother was such a beautiful lady she's this that she sacrificed her life. Here you go. Then I said what did she s I never saw her eating. She would feed everybody but I've never seen her eating. I said go back today into her shoes and how would you feel? You're cooking for 15 people, not had a morsel, sleeping and not having your food and everybody sees you only working. Can you even relate to that woman? Would you like to do that? No, we cannot because the virtues so-called virtue virtues at that time they were equated to sacrifice and all of that. It's time to drop sacrifice from our vocabulary, from our beingness, from the way we conduct oursel completely. Let's be in sharing. >> Let's be in sharing. Let let it be win-win for all the grandmothers. Obviously, the grandmothers have changed today. But um let sacrifice be not there. >> Let only sharing be there. Replace it completely. So the day you drop sacrifice, you're dropping lack. You're dropping replacing I have to gain something. I have to lose something. You're completely letting go. You're removing this paradigm and you're only saying if I'm getting something, I will also give something. >> If I receive something, I give something. If I give something, I receive something. Now it is mutual. Now it is equal. Now it is between us. We are together. We are equal. So now we are arriving at this when sacrifice needs to be dropped and sharing needs to be the title the the way forward. >> When we heal the ancestral trauma, what happens? >> A lot of shifts happen. M >> so I'll give you an example. So I had this uh program where where we do a lot of things 11 days online live and by the end of it somebody came to me and so many people come to me and say I just um fell sick and I was changing doctors and nothing was happening and then after 40 days or 30 days it just I healed myself and the medicines were not helping But I just came to recovery. So I lose motions. Then I had this. Then I had this strange cold. Then I had strangest fever. I thought I'm going into some kind of u that nonacceptable space. I just wanted to sit with myself or I wanted to sleep. So this all happens when you are doing deep ancestral work. >> Okay? Because what your ancestors have gone through have gone through generations and generations and generation of trauma or the uh things sitting inside your cellular memory. When that breaks, when that goes, it will be flushed out of your body. >> And this flushing happens through your physical symptoms. So they typically last from a week to 40 days to two months. But once that entire process is over and they come back, it's like we feel light. I mean, I don't relate to this anymore. And sometimes they don't even remember their stories. >> Okay. >> It goes from such a deep cellular level that I don't remember this like I don't relate to it anymore. M >> so when you this is the question you ask how no what happens this happens or for somebody it can just like somebody I was working with they said I just felt sleepy and I slept for a week >> and I could not uh I just did not want to work I was always sleeping I was yawning I wanted to have a lot of water again there is some internal shift happening from cellular memory you're releasing something it is being replaced by something else and your body is now acclimatizing to the new set of impulses, new set of hormonal combination, new set of things, the new cellular shifts which have happened and our body's acclimatizing it. So now you want to sleep because the body needs to work in rejuvenation in repairing itself all of that. So different different people will have different symptoms and somebody may have nothing but they will say I just feel light. I don't know why what's happened nothing at the physical level but I'm feeling okay that's also possible >> and so for everyone who's watching right now what is your message for them >> if you are listening I will look in the camera >> okay it is time for you to connect with that authentic part of you because there is nobody who's judging you there is nobody who's against you. There's nobody who's going to poke fingers at you when you're authentic. And there's only and only one person who will reap the benefits, which is you because you will become free. You are living this life for yourself. Live it in complete freedom. You do not have to put on masks and facades for anybody else today. Become free, completely free for yourself. And this freedom you can only grant to yourself by being true, by being authentic, by telling people who you are and not by putting on some mask and facades and pretending to be that who you are not. This is a baggage you're holding to impress others. It's futile. This is amazing. Dr. Monica, I don't have words, but thank you for everything that you do and thank you for this beautiful conversation. It's going to impact every single life who watches this podcast. Thank you so much. >> Thank you Gaitri so much and our beautiful listeners and the people who are watching. Thank you so much for inviting and I love the way you question. You have the right questions at the right time in the right way. >> That's so beautiful. Yeah. Thank you so much.