Indian Singles Confess Love, Ghosting & Arranged Marriage Pressure #podcast #telugu #love #matrimony
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emotional connector generation like female Texas she said that I'm I'm done with emotionally dry men any guy who is watching this podcast what's the criteria I earn 18 lakhs per random package who only have bank accounts to offer maximum rejects generation set of rules. Are you saying that boys are more loyal compared to girls? Even this woman said that be open-minded and 8% fun and useful. So, Hi, welcome to map talks. Hi, thank you so much for having me. Yes. So, introduction particular podcast more like a discussion type of interview. So people who don't know me uh my name is Vishuad and uh I'm the host here for map talks and then I'm an electrical engineer and this particular topic we are discussing about dating and how it feels in uh like you know 2025 and this generation dating and marriagecess Okay. 25 26 years rather what I felt is will know better stories. What do they feel? We finally did that survey and we have all the results here but we'll put in our opinion and then it'll be very interesting. situation. So we'll read that and let's welcome. Uh a small introduction about you. So about me um I'm hashta and uh what do I do in US? I'm doing my PhD in electrical and computer engineering. So PhD I'll try my best. Yeah. Yeah. So First I have to dis give a disclaimer. Please forgive my teluish. Okay. Yeah. So Englishport. Yeah. Yeah. And thank you so much for having me especially for this topic. I honestly feel like this is the most talked about, but parents support any type of help Pakani we are not able to get in this field so it is like a really good topic I honestly felt that yes and yeah you're doing a great job yes so let's get into this topic so main thing survey was like um US multiple countries almost India US people have like you know correct they have they have put in their uh view on it. Confessions better. So, okay, let's start first segment. Okay, the first thing is what do we actually want in a partner is the survey question. Okay, Dani 51% of men said said that emotional connection that are the highest emotional connection is the highest for them. Okay. And 63% of women said emotional connect is highest and that's the highest priority. What do you want in your partner? Definitely like emotional connection. So I think okay yeah that is and but I'm surprised that men are also in the same 53% 53 same league compared to other emotal connection yeah okay but okay let's see next and the second option they chose for is shared values 26% of uh people said that shared value is important. 26% of men said and 19% of women said that shared value uh is their priority. And then humor and kindness 15% of men said and 11% of women said that humor and kindness. So these are the three important factors. Yeah. out of money and all of this they have picked emotional connect, shared values and humor and kindness as their top three. Okay. So that's what it is. So uh emotional connect is very important. I think start with the first confession. So first confession we have is uh from a male. Mhm. And uh he's from Bangalore. He says, "I've changed job three times to be stable enough for marriage, but every woman I meet says, I don't feel the spark." And uh I feel like this guy he he said that he changed three jobs for stability. And his his thing is about he's thinking that stability is important for marriage. Yeah. What are women looking for? his primary ideology is that they're looking for stability. But that's not the case. Maybe that's the reason he felt like that. Yeah. Yeah. I think lot of things have changed like women are able to find stability on their own. Mhm. So there for especially for women who are able to for women who have already found stability maybe like you know for them they need something more. So women meet obviously he's getting the same feedback. Exactly. But if he's maybe he met the wrong kind of people. Exactly. He has to he have to meet people who are looking for stability for stability. Yeah. Yeah. But generation like because women are able to be like independent and then they are able to do things on their own. They stability is not the main main thing. Yeah. They want something more. So I think that's why they have given I'll I'll give you the second confession. Female Texas she said that I'm I'm done with emotionally dry men who only have bank accounts to offer. That's yeah that's what you're saying that's your that's his that's the answer for his uh impression. Yeah. So uh stability was more important. Now stability is for parents. How is he more than stability? But I don't know. It's not the case for everything. Everyone definitely not. It's definitely not. So there is a very big uh confession. So what do you say? What do you suggest like from male perspective? What do you suggest for that guy? Like how open his horizon for him? He has to like you know move out of his uh thought process like you know stability they'll give me uh a girl that's not the case. No, that's also the case if he looks she's also a master's graduate. Correct. At that point it's it's more about emotional connect. Correct. then household. So for his his thing I I can just say that you know it's it's beyond that. Yeah. I think he has to look case by case basis. Yeah. So what do you suggest for the female? female done with emotionally dry men who only have back. She's in a bad group of uh this thing or but according to you are there men really who are uh willing to put effort more than moneyh money like showing off their money side or showing off their job side. And historically uh they expect that from men. Correct. At this point, it's like that. It's like that at this point. Correct. So, we have to grow up. We have to be we have to go beyond that. But at least to be there, we have to have our own stability. That's not the criteria. So say uh if I'm a uh if I'm an engineer, okay, that's not the criteria for woman. Correct. But after being an engineer, you have to be a good human. Human good partner or you know, you have to be a good partner. That's that's the criteria I feel. Now personal any guy who is watching this podcast he's going to take your answer and he's going to say okay fine so if I want a partner I should look for a girl who is not educated she will definitely agree with me do you think no no if he marriage will sustain not like that if he thinks that his stability will get him a girl yeah his stability will get him a girl who is less educated than him exactly And who is less stable household? Let's say a girl is from a less stable house household. Yes. Yes. Okay. Okay. Okay. So, what do you have to say? Like, it depends on their case. If the girl is happy with that, okay, she'll she'll respect his uh thing because he has more money. he has more this thing and uh like you know if you know they'll respect him so that you know the respect will be really high. So if the girl if the guy expects that respect he has to marry like that and next thing if she values it then it'll be good. If the girl values more emotions than any of those it'll not sustain. It will not sustain. That's what I feel. Yeah. It's a case by case at that point. Yeah. Yeah. So next confession. This confession is by a woman. So this confession is by a woman and uh she says we looking for a groom from age 26 and now I'm 30. Difficult to find the partner for women. Now age is also one concern. Color horoscope. If boys interested groom parents are rejecting and I'm single parent child it is also one of the drawback for me based on this also they are not preferring searched in different cast also initially they will say cast no bar in matrimony website after talking to them they will say we are looking in our community I feel boy and parents have more expectations. Yeah, expectations in general is ruining dating life marriage like not like even if they're looking for marriage in this case um I don't want to talk about her particular case but in general I just want to talk about this thing so uh when boys parents or girls parents are looking for matches iser this way profile. So her problem is that that's what she's saying and being a single parent child it's like you know parents they don't want it sometimes. Yeah. So there's no answer for that. Basically she is that is her perception. She's thinking that okay maybe she has to meet someone. She has to meet someone. That's the only thing. But because if you think about it single parent child or like it it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter. No it doesn't matter as long as guys parents if it's not an issue if it's not an issue it's it doesn't matter. So you know people must yeah specific to that particular thing normal but you know what I would suggest is that unless they specifically tell or you know give hints such way she should stop assuming that okay that may be the reason it might be more than that so so and so is the reason because we don't know they'll expect that they'll get an reply they'll ghost them or they'll say some other reason they'll put it in a subtle way and they'll say that you know cast religion some some other reason they'll just topping they'll give the rejection so that the other person will not feel bad but underlying but what I would suggest for her is Unless they specify okay this is something that she cannot work on kada so why to fret over it that that may be the reason and why to disappoint herself when she doesn't know that what is the actual reason world is really big and then there are like so many people yes yeah it's not a yeah so that is only the limiting factors assumptions there might be any other reason just forget And it may not even be her sometimes. Okay. The other person is not willing to take up this marriage. There may be a miscommunication between the guy and the parents itself like she was in a relationship. rejection they'll feel like you know there might be a person exactly so especially and they're not alone no one is alone no one is alone yeah everybody has to go through that so don't take it to your heart and don't so don't worry about it. It's yeah the next one this is again by another woman uh she says I live in US got married to a person who works in US but the girl the guy turned out to be homosexual and both went for mutual divorce. Please make some awareness ress to make some sense to the world on this type of cases. Wow, thank you so much. First of all, thank you so much for sending us this confession. It takes a lot of heart and guts to come out and say something like and say something and especially for the good of others that okay and this is again another example you don't know the reason if the guy is telling his mom that reject don't feel bad about the rejection some might sometimes it might be something like this too. Exactly. You never know. Majina then this is not the first one. I heard multiple like this. They're hiding it. Uh so what I feel is uh it's not wrong to be homosexual. Of course. Uh so even though like you know these days it's common. Okay. there there's nothing h they can they can openly say that you know they're homosexual or they they have other preferences and they can move on because world is really big go to a different country or be somewhere where you feel comfortable accepted where you are you feel rather than spoiling other person's life that's true that's definitely true because you're putting someone just because you are not able to take responsibility for your Why are you feeling guilty? There's nothing wrong. It's just a choice. Yeah. Yeah. So, we only wish the best. Okay. So, survey result. Okay. Misreading the opposite gender. Okay. What do you think the opposite gender wants? Okay. Opposite gender. So guess what men said? Men. So 46% of men think that women want money from them. Money is the main criteria for women. Okay. In dating. Men looks important. 35% of women said that looks important. Okay. And then um next thing 28% of women money is the criteria like for men money is the criteria. Yeah. 28% women feel like Mhm. Okay. So that's the first thing. Emotional connect is important. Correct. 51% 63%. 46%. So what I feel is 46% highest. 22% of the men think that women prefer looks in them over money over money but 46% think still think that women look for money stability. Yes. I think when it comes to evolution like from olden time they are evolved to provide for family. Mhm. Uh and women are evolved to make a home or provide a home like provide a safe space for the children. Mhm. So evolution. So girls how they chose the male partners or okay is he able to give me a good home or not. Good home in this age comes with money. So that's why boys think that women are looking for money. And next thing he comes with lot of money but he'll be very humble. He'll be nice but that's not the case. Yeah. If he has the money most of the cases are like you know they might be humble he's a right person. Correct. So if they aim for something like that, so if they feel like you know money is giving them happiness that money is not the key for happiness. Exactly. The same thing the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence. Yeah. So but you know because you told movies are the biggest uh what do you say culprits for our understanding of what the other gender wants. Exactly. So movies only she She's always like, you know, crying. She's always whining. She She'll be always funny. She'll be always funny. She'll be like, you know, all bubbly and allaxot, but okay. So like yeah so that is your 35% of the woman thinking women thinking looks are important but looks honestly looks attitely not looks M definitely lot looks I think humor like okay uh humor humor and communication I think communication is the biggest I think most of them I've spoken to money I especially in US US look for money how life is they might be rich one day they might be poor one day they might be in India one day they might be anywhere you never know okay trust build trusted like family connection. So the only thing for in a partner we want is that main trust. Exactly. Yeah. So I think uh same thing go with the first male Seattle confession. So a male from Seattle he's saying every time I date a girl who earns more I feel like I have to prove I'm still masculine. Yeah. Masculine in the sense like how do you prove that you're a masculine? I don't know. I really want to know. I think he feels like he's insecure that you know he's more masculine he's more masculine so that he's not earning much so he have to prove in other ways that he's more masculine and then female misunderstanding misunderstanding yeah honestly They have to come out of that. Yeah. Next thing is I earn 18 lakhs peranom package. This is from a female and she's from Chennai. She's earning 18 lakhs peranom. Men either treat me like competition or a checklist. So they both compliment each other. Compliment each other. Yeah. Competition. She doesn't feel like her money is the main thing. If she earns good enough, she'll not care for money anymore. She knows that she can earn it. Exactly. Most of the cases are so she'll look for other factors. Exactly. So both have just misunderstood each other. Yeah. And also I feel like when it comes to the masculine, I think that point really applies here like how we have evolved. Okay. By like he's evolved. Okay. like one man he evolved to provide for family and uh that's how it it's in his GN it's in his genes like it's in his DNA okam she's evolved to like you know provide a safe space for her cubs so it's not that easy to shift no shift we have to just make our peace with it should the girl just pretend that okay you're the man in charge. You should not plan that or flaunt that. She's in charge. She have to be subtle so that you know guy will not feel like you know It's good if you like the person if he's feeling insecure. You have to just if he wants to be insec he should also do that. So in that case if the money is the issue with the guys he she is with stop talking about money and concentrate on more things. Yeah. So that's the solution. I feel that's what I feel compromise. Yes, that's it. That's uh and this is by a guy. He says, "I live in the US. I have a full-time job. Compensation is not a problem. Imagine West Coast salaries. Everything else in life and family is set. Biggest problem I have is no hair. I don't want to go for treatments because nothing is permanent. Maximum rejects in matrimony or through family. I personally feel my profile is not even going to the girls parents themselves are rejecting most feeling. Yeah. More than that guy. I feel like you know parents if they have to find a girl for their uh family what's going on in their profile he won't know he'll not know what's going on even what's going on in their thing and second I'll tell you my perspective we we put so many labels later on when I see western world uh Jeff Bezos doesn't have but it doesn't like end of the Um Dwayne Johnson he's an he doesn't like if they have to create a humor they use not only that they use multiple things correct There are they use color, they use height, they use weight, they use everything to create humor. Correct. He has this. This is very true. Same same thing applies same thing applies with the woman. Exactly. Perspective and like you know this is he's not alone. Yeah. There are so many men who feel like you know hair or their appearance is the main thing more than him two extra two in 2x extra compl insecurities. insecurities definitely even though he has something they'll say okay they'll try to convince money will become a factor like I don't want to take away from the fact that there have been uh families like auntu like the other person told me okay but direct now that's what yeah yeah yeah so like girls face it but if it if you're insecure about it the thing is if I was actually insecure about my color that would have affected me exactly but no we've seen like the world so And one more thing is um baldness and it's not in his hands. So if you yeah it's not in his hands anymore like instead of focusing so much on on things that are not in his control but it's frustrating for him. It is. I can see where he's coming from because if that's the reason they're rejecting him. Maybe there's another thing also there are people Yeah. There are people who who will not look for Yeah. Yeah. Definitely. Yeah. But he should like I think more than I think girls from my perspective, girls look for confidence. That's what he's saying. Try a different approach. Exactly. Matrimony is not the correct place for you. Yeah. Exactly. Where you are being judged for your looks. matrimony is the main factor that is confusing them because parents set of rules generation set of rules. So miscommunication miscommunication. So next thing same topic confession I think majority of women these days are not very interested in putting time to know other person or even invest in them. They have a perception that relationship is just nice to have in their already comfortable life. Okay. They feel like you know it's just like icing. I rarely came across women who are really ready to invest time and attention to try to make it happen. Men can't do everything in a relationship or make it work all the time. So he Yeah. What do you say? It's I It's on his I can find 10 different girls who have the same opinion about men. It's like they're just confused like he's not finding the right girl. Aren't they? I like because this is the majority of the complaint that girls have that men don't put effort in relationship in relationship. Yeah. So there and also you know uh so it's always the opposite sides that they meet or get attracted to like people who are ready to invest in relationship and be more into it will attract the person who is like more distant. Yeah. And people who are like more distant they will attract people who are like more. It's never that okay two different people. Exactly. So in nature also opposites attract. So he's always attracting those kind of girls who are not putting in relationship and in nature it's like that is like very common. Yeah. It's his perception and yeah it's difficult to like meet but I think with the right effort he'll be able to Yes. Yeah. get there. Okay. Now we'll go into our next segment where would you date someone who earns less? Okay. Would you date someone who earns significantly less? Okay. Response. This this shocked me really. Yes. If vibe is good then 71% of men said okay. Okay. 71% of men said that women um who earn less than them, they're okay with it. They're okay with it. 83% of women said that they're okay. And 83% of women said that even if the guy is Yeah, that exactly. So now if it's vibing see first first they said that uh they want they want to they want that emotional connect connect. Yeah. Second even though he's earning less than me it's okay. Yeah. So this is your answer. This is your answer. Okay. First three answer. It might be important for their parents who might be stopping your profile from going to that girl. Girl minimum expect money is not important at least they'll expect. Yeah. It's it should be all a little less not like you know completely I'm not earning. Yeah. You take care of me at least. Uh be with a guy who's responsible. Exactly. Or he's ambitious. Correct. So uh second maybe if he's ambitious. So 11 22% of men said that you know maybe if she Yeah. If she is ambitious and men said that 11% of women say that if he is ambitious. I'm surprised they'll date that men uh even consider like men rate takundi. Would you date someone who earns significantly less? That's generally the case because the girls most of them most of them most of the cases like that and just 71% said yes. Yeah. Yeah. I mean like not judging but you know you have to be open mind like 42% as per stats 2024 okay this is a real stat 42% of this is a real stat from outside 42% of women earn more than 20 lakhs INR peranom 42% of women uh earnest nar reported yeah intermediate So because of their salary. No, they are thinking that salary is important. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So they're not approaching or they're not even talking to woman who's earning more. She's out of our league on they're intimidated. Yeah. based on they'll think that you know they think like that but after some point they'll realize that it's not the case and Okay. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. So, that gets us to the confession. Confession. Yeah. And she's from Atlanta. I tried dating a musician while I worked tech. Mhm. loved him but the pressure of being the only one financially responsible ruined us. Uh that 83% of women said that money is not important but she's the only person who's earning correct. So it's like yeah money important but you have to be responsible enough to provide provide. Yeah. Next confession. Another confession from a male and he's from Pune. Every date felt like a pitch. I wasn't a product with a 10 year growth plan. That's true. Some 83% of women said that you know money is not important in in our case yet this is happening. Yeah, but you know I think she was just trying to get to know him. Is he ambitious or not? Because 10 years ambitious. Yeah. So she was just trying but that's not that's not the way I mean that's not because feel like that point of view it'll touch their value. Yeah, you you cannot say that you know you'll be successful. Correct. Any day you're gone. So that's what guys will look for. If she supports, he'll be very happy. Yeah. Yeah. He felt like you know when she asked for something when people ask for something like 10 years growth plan that's yeah I think how like how do girls get to know about this like important Don't ask like you know even it's not the case. It's not the case. So that's the suggestion that you would want to give. But do you know any example like personal example where this happened where the boy was grilled? Yeah, I I know one example. So he he was like you know okay so daddy she she is born in USA I heard his questions he was like father he asked him questions like of a CEO green card holder. So he did not even talk to that woman and this father grilled him for so long. Oh my family really 20 years back that's really bad even I don't know that's not the way I told them like thank you like you know. Yeah. So they should be they should figure out their life next 20 years. Most of them they think that you know they have to be nice to each other. Yeah. So, next thing, same thing. Uh, next confession. So, this is by a woman and she says, "Well, it was a tough ride for me as a woman living in the US to find someone through arranged marriage. Almost every other guy was either looking at my profile as a business deal or they expected more dowy. I got lucky after 3 years. Found the man of my dreams though. So, be patient and trust the process. To all the girlies out there, never stop looking. There is someone out there for you. A little adjustment and patience is a must when you are in an arranged marriage scenario. Wow. Very well put. Honestly, very well. This is this is a She literally stole your words. Exactly. You were about to say this. She crossed that barrier. She said that and I don't think when she says that you know I got lucky I don't think it was luck but it was just her way of um learning about herself and learning about how to what to look for in a guy. Yeah. So it's not entirely luck. I mean luck is different is also there but yeah they lose the interest. Give everything a chance. Everything a chance. Yeah. Even this woman said that be open-minded. A little adjustment and patience. Patience is a must when you are in an arranged marriage scenario. Very well put and patience is must. Yeah. So that's the segment. Now we'll go to dating apps. Okay. Very interesting. Mating parents involve how do you feel about dating apps? Okay. 44% of men says that you know they don't use dating apps. Correct. Okay. M and then 47% of men say that it's exhausting and ghosting and 8% fun and useful and so uh 47% they're saying that it's exhausting and then most of them feeling 44% is not using it not using whereas women that 44% is wasting their time on mater women is not using are not using dating apps. 25% women say that you know it's exhausting. Yeah. And 8% fun and useful. So fun and useful 8% both are 8%. 60% of women are not using dating apps. It's exhausting for men because yeah text they'll swipe it will not work out 60% of the women are not then how are these 66% women finding maybe like through matrimony they'll meet someone outside they'll meet someone so are you saying in general for women it's easy to get a date and it's easy to get into a relationship compared to a guy Yeah, it's subject to age group if they are below 25 to 26. Correct. So, uh it's okay. After 26, they'll be like very matured. They'll think about marriage, they'll think about future and everything. because they'll think that you know if they'll reach their 30s they'll have they'll be more stubbornic so it's a cycle for in olden days I don't think they let girls cross 23 without getting married yeah so age button and no so 66% of the women they'll they'll meet Are you saying that boys are more loyal compared to girls? It's not about loyalty, but if they like someone Yeah. Uh even though they have like six girlfriends, okay, sixth girlfriend, they'll if they're if they like a girl, they'll dedicate. Okay. Okay. It'll change. They'll try. They'll try. They'll try. They'll try and So are you saying depends if understanding they'll be nice if they're not supporting each other. Yeah. So dating app burnout uh 2024 report suggests that 64% of men feel emotionally drained using dating apps. One in in four dating apps lasted 6 months. Okay. Like you know one in four deleted apps in six month less than 6 months. Okay. until one in four people are like you know just deleting the app in 6 months feeling that it has no use because women are not there because dating most of them they'll not look for marriage they'll be looking to date date yes so it's not for marriage so maybe dating apps are not doing exactly a great job in finding them a good match No algorithm needs some work. It's not about algorithm. So if she's in dating app, they'll think she's desperate or she's looking for a guy because she's trying to be out there. They talk in a different way. Correct. And women it'll be very like irritating or juicy. alternative. Why is he so straightforward? Why is he talking like this, honey? Yeah. Yeah. Stop using it. So, it's about the preference. It's about the preference. You have to communicate your preference very well ahead in the beginning. Okay. Preference. So, confession. You'll get the idea. Yeah. This is from a female and she's from Toronto. Toronto. Toronto. Toronto. Not Toronto. Yeah. Toronto. I deleted Bumble. I'd rather meet someone in grocery store rather than start another dry conversation. See that's what they feel. Yeah. Meet cute. Yes. So there is another confession and it's from a male and he's from Hyderabad, Hyderabbad. I swipe I match then nothing. These apps are more about ego than connection. Exactly. So he's That is very true. Yeah. Because there's no one over there. Obviously it's it's not any reply. Yeah. They'll just be there to see what what the fuss is about. They'll not even open it. Yeah. I think he Nobody should take anything so personal. It's not about he's an introvert. Okay. He cannot go out and talk to anyone. Yeah. Okay. It's very hard. Correct. dating apps because of certain number of people they're losing hope on this thing. So there's no other way dating app they have to go out meet people outside and they're introverts so they cannot meet anyone. Yeah. Yeah. So these apps are more about ego than connection. Connection. Yeah. So next thing is segment five question. What makes someone more attractive beyond looks? Okay. Okay. So, family values. 38% of men say that family values are beyond looks and japer. Okay. 36% kindness and intelligence is more important than looks. Same thing confidence 13%. 13% of men think that confidence is more important. Okay. Mhm. And then coming to women, family values. 58% of women think that beyond a guy's looks, family values are important and 36% think that kindness and intelligence is important. Correct. And 2% confidence. That's that's exactly opposite of what I thought. Uh family values looks family values important options the question itself is saying that what what makes someone more attractive beyond looks beyond looks. Okay. Okay. Sorry. Okay. So beyond looks family values important. that only looks. Yeah. Yeah. So, confessions. But I like how uh kindness and intelligence is like exactly preferred by preferred by both 36% and 36. Let there be more kindness in the world. Yeah. More intelligence. Let's hope for that evolution. Yeah. So the confession um I used to chase chemistry now I crave consistency. A woman or a man? I don't know. Huh? I So the second uh confession is uh I want peace not passion. I've had enough of shortterm drama. Both are saying the same. I want peace not passion. Okay. Next to the I used to chase chemistry. I think both of them are above 25 years old. Yes. After a you'll be like okay I want stability more than chemistry. I want to Yeah. Yeah. And this is another uh interesting confession. I beg you to share my feelings that no one should ever ever ever ever Okay. Seven times better date someone without confirming with their parents. Chapandi facing all the trauma as we both are 27 years old. That girl is trying uh trying hard to stop matches whereas my parents are refusing uh her in every topic. Let's spread some sense in people please. Yeah. Because it's not about people gi. What's their particular uh scenario? Scenario. Yeah. Uh intercast intercastate podcast relations and how to navigate it in US. In US is very important is the number one driven factor driving factor. I'm feeling very sad for that yet. Yeah, that is still very evident. Yes, correct. But yeah, good luck to this couple. Yeah, hopefully they'll get married and and to spread some sense in people longterm. Mhm. This will never reach them. This will never reach them nor their Yeah. But you know like thinking wise it's the it's the couple we have to wish for it. It'll never happen. M we have to just wish for it. Yeah. Even though they listen, it'll go above because important they're just 27. Okay. So, this segment is why aren't men approaching anymore? Okay. approach now. Why don't men approach fear of being misjudged? 31% men say that they have a fear of being misjudged. Mhm. Okay. Don't know how anymore. 25% of men say so men approach. Whereas women, okay, how do you feel when men approach you? Okay. 37% of women say that they're okay if someone approach them. Mhm. Okay. They're cautious but they're open. They're still open. Okay. And then 32% are flattered if respectful. See, so 32% and 37% of people say that, you know, they're okay if men approach them. Yeah. If they're respectful enough, they're okay. They're okay. Yeah. Take your chances. Take your chances. 31% they think that they're misjudged and 25% they don't want to like you know be out there asking for this fear of being misjudged again I think is coming from movies. I honestly feel like if they want to go and ask her they'll think that you know if she creates a big deal I have a boyfriend how can you ask me how can you ask he came here and ah by 30 they'll not approach correct but certain number of people say that you If they are respectful, it's okay. Correct. So, but be respectful and try but read your surroundings. Yeah. So, another interesting survey. M so 23 in 2023 a APA survey 48 uh% of men aged 24 to 34 said they feel social anxiety when um initiating in-person conversation with women so 48% of men 24 to 34 years Okay. I think what do you think is like the biggest fear they have? Fear of being misjudged. Misjudged. Fear of rejection. Rejection and fear of being hit by everyone. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. So, another confection related to that uh it's from a male and he's from Boston. One time I complimented a woman and got told off never again. And uh another confession that's a clear sign. One bad experience. That explains everything. Yeah. Yeah. Next. So another confession from a female and she's from Weisac. I wish more men had the guts to say hi. Not every approach is creepy. So women are okay with that. Okay. But we cannot say based on this one one but 37% 32% that you know it's okay. So read your surroundings. What do you say as a woman? cousins like you know if someone approaches so I think I agree with the 32.9% of the women that have answered the survey flattered if respectful or like you know sh but you know the way they ask the way they ask and also I think women. So, okay, he he comes with a good intention even if I'm committed or if even if my friend is committed like if a person is coming and talking to me in a nice way like I would respectfully talk to him if I'm single and then respectfully reject if I'm taken. So, take your chance. Okay, next thing. Another interesting confession and he it's from a guy. He's from Piscataway NJ for me. I don't have a proper communication skills to flirt with the girl and don't have enough courage to talk with a girl. Me being an introvert introvert. He's an introvert. dating. So yeah that's what he has to be more uh it's difficult he's an arranged marriage that is the main reason if he wants to meet a girl outside he has to not be an introvert and go approach a woman woman. Yeah. And another interesting confession, I'm from Canada and generally feel that most families are not interested in Canada alliances compared to USA. Also, people who have never been abroad feels like it's a bed of roses and expectations are over the roof. It's really hard to find someone without having to think if they're actually genuine in a relationship and not marrying you for money or cheating paly and will get rid of you after the wedding. Yeah. So Canada alliances. So compared to US compared to US Yeah. It'll change right now. Exactly. If you are comfortable in Canada, I don't think like you should thinking of you should be like really worried about that aspect. Yeah. Should work on something else. But uh Idimatram are true girls. Mhm. Especially I think uh who are uh what do you say abroad they feel like you know it's bed of roses in abroad it's like bed of roses and expectations are over the roof. This is very true. I have seen so many cases like so many divorce cases. The girl comes here, she sees everything. She thinks okay 6 months like literally six to 3 to 6 months they want to because they get divorced silence. Silence and parents reality and expectation reality. Exactly. Especially girls who have not been on their own ever before. Yeah. That is very difficult for them. So it should be like expectation. Whoever is thinking that you know I think 200 times freedom everything is uh much better much better. So yeah, so this is our show. We covered as much as we can. Sorry. And next thing. Okay. Uh we'll host some show uh like you know parties where you can meet singles. Perfect. In a way that this is for the introvert guys. Introvert guys. Mapi nights. Okay, this is map talks nights events. What we'll do is we'll give them tags. Correct. Okay. Red tag for our parties. Everyone is uh welcome. Correct. For singles, we'll give them a separate tag. Correct. We'll write uh like you know a hero name and hero in name or something like that. Okay. They can go and they can start their conversation. Whoever is wearing the tag is single. single and he's uh willing to uh yeah is open to talk not about mingling is open to talk open to talk correct correct not going to put the pressure off you have to set it up no no no as long as they're respectful they're open to talk so if someone is approaching them and if they're not comfortable bouncers they'll not have any issue they should they can be very happy we did this already in Dallas And it was a huge success. It was good. People people were talking and it was all good. So we'll start hosting more and more events like that. Yeah. So we'll give them a separate tag. Open to talk tag. But guys be very respectful also. Be very respectful. And this is not limited to just Telu people. Not Telu people. It's for everyone. You spread awareness to everyone. All your friends. Yes. who h who is finding it hard to find a partner or who is finding it hard to find a date in 2025 2025 2026 2027 if you feel like please bring it on so thank you so much for being here so much for having me Yeah. So, yeah, we completed it like I didn't know this. Yes. But yeah, if it's good, we'll do another show based on this. Okay. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So, subscribe and thank you so much. Yeah. Subscribe. Please subscribe. Yes. Yeah. Thank you.
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