Love, Money & Toxic Relationships |Girls Must Watch | Life Coach Pooja Racha Reveals the Truth

Love, Money & Toxic Relationships |Girls Must Watch | Life Coach Pooja Racha Reveals the Truth

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(00:06) Most of the cases relationship relationship eager to do it and about lust but it's not true. It's about dominance relenience. So two things one is love and other
(00:56) thing is money you can so which one do you support? I don't think it makes any sense >> in your point of view. What is so how can you define it will be I will be controlling. >> Hi Puja. Hi, >> welcome to Anandra Media. >> Thank you.
(01:38) >> And it's pleasure to have you here. Same. >> So first you being a life coach to be honest. So after starting your journey in this particular people I think just life I guess psychologist therapist everybody% people still think like but it's not about that and people capable enough to make my own decisions.
(02:23) It's true. Number one is doctors. >> Okay. >> Number two is lawyers. Number three, CA. >> Four entrepreneurs. weak and problem. So
(03:13) slowly yes it's going better than I actually expected. Got it. Perfect. Got it. And in your point of view marriage what's your point on it. >> So I feel like marriage is just a label. Got it. If you're not committed towards each other, they're having their own lives. They're not thinking about the partner. So is just a label and it's not 100% needed.
(03:56) commitment is more important. Let us take example not yet married. Let us take example. So first time she accepted repeated again second time. So ideor Both are wrong. So treatment towards us all these days for
(04:43) example it's definitely not okay. So intention behind it is very important for it not multiple times. Got it. But usually things relenience. So definitely not relationship.
(05:39) See you owe each other few things not like complete control not right not before marriage before marriage I support it different in the same way every day. Highs and lows, good moments, bad moments is completely different
(06:30) feeling. But it may not be practically right all the time. So definitely that is definitely a good option but >> so it will help. Yes, it will definitely help but I don't think we are all of us are ready at the moment on that note before going ahead with marriage how important thing because people
(07:16) okay we own him we'll do with him but sometimes parents do tell us like before marriage They not encourage if you really committed if you are really fond of each other and see that's an expression of love it is fine it is not right. So when you see a future with the opposite person I don't think it's wrong you do often tell like at the end please do approach me
(08:02) if you need something I'm here to talk so that particular line people you are telling it on a positive note but some will be taking in a negative note starting being a woman is difficult Being a woman on internet is more difficult. Being a woman on internet with opinions is even more difficult.
(08:26) And I'm welcoming people to talk to me. intentions. Okay. And in your point of view, so what tips you can give to someone? [laughter] They're paying each other's bills. They're cooking for each other. Everything. people are still doing it. So
(09:15) we just have to be and unfortunately we are in the place where we have to be cautious even about our partners. Got it. So rather than picking up all these signs and signals no there are no tips or signs like that. Okay. But it happens very rarely. Sometimes intentions will be different, actions will be different.
(10:01) All the time we will be confused. True. True. Got it. Mhm. And why most of the time attention than men and supportility is more even from our own homes also. It is the very same. Nobody owned like okay she's
(10:53) we feel happy about it [snorts] we are not getting it from the outside very easily that is why they expect more >> got it and on that note so meet and relationships Why most of the people see men and women are built differently and psychologically also. So as women we tend to acknowledge the emotional factors of it.
(11:46) solution. But I think that is how they are built all the time. But they are built like that. We are emotional. They are logical. So okay most of the times this happens very rare but I want genuine review like answer from you after certain time or certain age like most of the
(12:34) multiple reasons. So all the times I'm missing something. We have to change this and that and we all the time it will be very easy all the time it might not be possible to leave a relationship whatever is missing in that this is 100% wrong not walk away. Correct.
(13:28) In some cases, in some cases, it's purely out of boredom and craving for the thrilling. We feel more and more comfortable with each other. They will get attracted. So these are the two broad categories. We think it's about it's rarely about it's about that attention that validation. What's your opinion? modern relationship whatever situationship whatever you can no judgments but until and unless
(14:13) partners same anything is okay for me personally because if you're looking for a short-term relationship whatever it Whatever it is at least then it is fine in your life because as being a life coaches reason most of the times
(15:03) >> because of my impulsive decisions I was at my lowest. So I was very impulsive back then. consequences okay then go for it I lagged it at that point and most of the times Indian parents actually
(16:05) We feel like it is normal. Whatever is happening at our homes is normal. So okay but situations were like that. So We have to process it. We have to work
(16:50) on it and we should move on. Coming to Zenzi. So first what's your opinion on likeologistity whatever it is everything. So yes that is what is lacking in millennials and which is high in Gen Z >> and relationships who is the best and like ever on that note so they are being so clarity they're not giving false like hopes so
(17:36) who are doing best in their relationships so they're very clear and at the same time They prioritize themselves. sometimes coming to the millennials. Exactly. Opposite being honest about your feelings but at the same time relationships will be better. Got it.
(18:20) Got it. And coming to social media is very negative. influencers. Why do you have to approach a stranger to talk? True.
(19:07) pres. People are more interested to watch it. Exactly. True. social med.
(20:02) So disconnection more happening than connection they're not spending time with each other we are busy in our phones. So on this note so they're famous couple traveling couple the same question someone has like host they were openly telling This is what happening. Yes, that is
(20:53) true actually. Prioritize it only at the same couples. So will you encrage diverse or everything will be okay? Uh first I think first preference would
(21:38) be chance because marriage is a very big thing. Divorce is even bigger thing than marriage. It is not easy especially in India it's not easy. So it is what it is. I will suggest them to definitely walk away. Divorce is easier, safer. Mhm. If someone watching this podcast
(22:30) whatever it might be what would you suggest them >> most of the time see all of us are adults we just don't want to believe ourselves So my only suggestion is to believe yourself that is most of the times right answer you have to take that step then only
(23:14) your life will get better quitting my job because I want peace in my life. Does it really giving their mental pressure this all? Uh it also depends on the individual all the time. Most of the times but incessencely quit it But next
(24:15) please be patient. I'll just tell you a situation. So money two things. One is love and other thing is money. So we'll be playing with two things. you can survive. So which one do you support or money? I don't think it makes any sense. Both are very important.
(25:04) only you have to be ambitious we are able to see what they are Got it. Both are equally important. physical attention most of the time. So why married
(25:59) about lust? >> But it's not true. It's about dominance. Got it. See there are sex workers there. Does your wife is there so many other good options when you're forcing someone? Yes, definitely you can show your superiority and dominance in any way. But to gain that superiority [snorts] so it's about dominance short-term
(26:53) hookups. See as I said earlier I don't suggest it because emot Got it. Soor
(27:40) I wouldn't suggest it most of the time and they leave a statement telling like What's your call on this point in 100% good right? Good doesn't always mean right for you. Exactly. right
(28:29) parents and kids it will be better not right as being a life coach. So how you will help him or her to sort out that thing? Uh so the thing is you would have been okay
(29:39) when a client comes to I feel okay. Same. So I suggest openation. In your point of view, what is love? So,
(30:25) how can you define it? [snorts] It doesn't even know what love means. >> [laughter] >> I believe in that and it means Love is specific to each individual. But opposite definition of love then you will love that person.
(31:17) That happens most of the cases. Why do people will not give respect to others opinion? respectively. But instead of that people do judgement but instead of that people will not tell likeing controlling partner. Okay. partner controlling partner intention is to protect the partner. True, true, true. You will be caring.
(32:33) I will be controlling obviously. If somebody says that because definitely See true selfishness.
(33:45) selfresect basic selfresect. So it's not true% most of the cases. Maybeminist as being a womanffecting
(34:39) Yes. I think positive things relative. So they start believing that
(35:36) positive They are feeling like this. So feed is automating. Exactly. Exactly. More as being you as a career coach. Okay.
(36:26) question whatever we can call it can't do anything at the same time being apart from money we can as being a coach so what would you suggest important important. True. So,
(37:22) but most of the cases at the same don't do it. Got it. If you're okay for example but he's been not satisfied with the thing which he's doing first panic.
(38:40) So first of mind but coming to success Maybe due to the content or whatever it might be exact
(39:25) with that situations. So social media colorful place it's a very very darkest place to be in. mentally true. So before getting in you have to question yourself because social media is place where you are ready to take all those
(40:09) challenges. because they being real audience can sense it. So whatever it is, authentation. helped you.
(41:12) How did you overcome it? So me content creation starting outfits. The only thing stopped me was my voice. Got it. But I was very insecure of my voice. True.
(42:10) Compulsion compulsion. [laughter] Okay. weakness people liking it or they're not caring% of the people. Okay. For them they will watch you like few seconds and they will scroll away. But social meds
(43:15) I want you to tell few things what would you suggest them and adise So basic that is not right. Definitely you're grieving.
(44:19) Work on yourself. Please plan a future. So relationship people do often think most of the accountability. Mhm. Victim blaming victim shaming
(45:38) accountability. Okay. Basic minimum concept. I'm not that kind of person as a life person.
(46:27) I don't like it. Okay. You should not label it as bare minimum. True. along with I personally don't like this wordare minimum Okay. I'm happy for it. I feel very happy. Don't say
(47:25) coming to like misunderstandings. So kids then explain It's purely out of ego or lack of
(48:17) exposure. don't have to obey them. So few people. So which one do you accept it? every rules and restrictions.
(49:23) True. to restrict parents. Most important thing would be If something is stopping you, what is that
(50:07) already? But what is it? And when are you going to work on it? Questions? What is stopping us? What can I do about it? And when are you working on it? So generality it's very very common than we know I think toxic positivity somebody telling you to be positive in bad situations also most of the times problem.
(50:59) Everyday life but opposite healthy positivity. Okay. It's okay. It's okay to be sad. It's okay to cry. It's okay to feel bad. Even they don't know that they are doing
(51:48) it. Weakest moment for example unexpected moment where will puja go whom will she address? Uh I will always run to my husband no matter what. [laughter and gasps] Whatever it is, career, personal life, whatever anything I will share it with him. So it is only because of him. All the credit goes to him.
(52:26) And I'm a very difficult person to handle. [laughter] I'm very difficult. I'm very gracefully. He will tell me all those things at the same time. No matter what I will have that hope in my head that okay he will take care of it. Okay. So yeah that is where I go for anything everything I think
(53:33) because I don't think clients will care. They will care. See, I have done it. It doesn't mean that is why I know what is right, what is not right. experiences person I'm able to share with people also experienc
(54:22) It is working out of you accept that everybody is different. Okay. Now let's get into rapid fire questions. So we'll go with all funny emotional everything. Okay. Love or selfrespect? Selfresect. So
(55:09) coming to your personal life and also suggest better. Forgive or forget? >> You can do both. Morg important. No contact. No contact. Absolute zero contact. >> Marriage or living in personal preference? [laughter] I say live in. >> First live in. >> First live in then marriage. Like one habit that every Zenzi should stop it now.
(55:48) >> Thinking too much about themselves. >> Okay. >> Only one habit that every parent should change. >> Comparison. >> In your opinion, one word to describe today's relationships. >> Unpredictable. [laughter] One biggest mistake that youngsters are doing rapidly like being very impulsive. Mhm. impulsiveness and one advice that people usually give often but that you will not give everitive thinkitive positive I will always think negative
(56:33) scenario I can be prepared Mhm.% at the same time only I will say think little negative. [laughter] If you could change one thing in society as being a life coach, what it would be? I would like to ban arranged marriages.
(57:30) [snorts] Thank you so much for coming here and thank you so much for spending lots of time here. >> Thank you. My pleasure. because I know still they are doing it better but anyway the worst but definitely it is not we can clearly know by talking to you and you can contact So in whatever it might be
(58:17) problems, you can definitely contact her. She's open and she's definitely going to help you a lot.