Vedic Laws Of Masculine & Feminine: Cursed Money, Argument Law & Feminine Wealth Law!

Vedic Laws Of Masculine & Feminine: Cursed Money, Argument Law & Feminine Wealth Law!

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(00:00) The masculine men never argue with women. Here's what I want you to do the next time you're in an argument with the feminine. First thing, shut up and listen. If you disrespect the feminine, you will block all of your money. You can have a pile of money and a cursed life. In my relationship, I used to be the worst boyfriend you could ever think of.
(00:17) I would cheat, I would call her names, I would disrespect her, I would belittle her, I would make her feel insecure. That was the exact time that I was actually the lowest point in my life. Then one day, I came across what the ancient Vedas had to say about relationships. And suddenly, everything made sense. How you treat your woman basically dictates the success of your entire life, whether you want to admit it or not.
(00:36) Even Prophet Muhammad, he said the best of men are those who are best to their women. Look at King David, his kingdom starts to collapse over time from that moment. She is ultimately still that little girl inside. So, when you come at dominating her and attacking her and trying to win this, you were just scaring that little girl.
(00:49) By the end of this, you're going to actually understand the mechanism behind how all this works, and it runs very deep. If you've ever sworn at your girl, called them names, disrespected her, belittled her, made her feel insecure in any way, controlled her finances, just basically wasn't the best boyfriend or husband, this podcast is probably going to be the thing that shifts everything in your life.
(01:10) Because that's exactly what happened to me almost a decade ago now. In my relationship, I used to be the worst boyfriend you could ever think of. Now, it was nothing physically abusive, but it was everything else. I would cheat, I would call her names, I would disrespect her, I would belittle her, I would make her feel insecure.
(01:24) But my relationship was largely governed by what I saw from the media. That whole treat them mean, keep them keen philosophy was everything I was living by. The idea that if I could just make her feel insecure enough, she would stick around. And it wasn't just relationships, to be honest with you. It was actually all feminine personalities in my life.
(01:40) I was not the best brother to my sister. I would never be there for her. I would happily argue with her. And funnily enough, that was the exact time that I was actually the lowest point in my life. My businesses at the time were a mess. My health wasn't in the best position. My mental health was not in a great place.
(01:54) My emotional state was absolutely at its lowest. I was literally underweight because of everything that was going on. Now, why am I sharing this? I'm sharing this because there are so many men today who are going through this because no one sat us down as men and taught us how to be. We have music, movies, TV shows, but it's all about keeping your woman in check. It's not about anything else.
(02:11) Then one day, I came across what the ancient Vedas had to say about relationships, about how men should be, about how women should be, and suddenly everything made sense. Like, I genuinely got goosebumps when I remember listening to this. I was running a print media business at the time and I was walking around the print factory floor and I was manning the machines and I had my headphones in and I was listening to a podcast by a monk who was explaining relationships from an ancient Vedic lens about how to be in a conscious
(02:36) relationship, how to attain a sacred union, the dharma of a man, the purpose of a man, the dharma of a woman, the purpose of a woman. Guys, I kid you not, I got goosebumps in that moment thinking, "Why did I not know this sooner?" Like, I just wish I knew this sooner. Everything about relationships today in that moment suddenly just clicked.
(02:56) See, what we don't get as men is how you treat your woman basically dictates the success of your entire life, whether you want to admit it or not. All the ancient texts for thousands of years have made it so clear across all faiths, across all parts, the universe works on higher alignment where everything is connected. And if you break one spiritual law out of alignment, it can impact other areas of your life.
(03:16) I'm not trying to create a fear-mongering podcast here. This is called Relearn for a reason. It's an opportunity for you to shift your perspective so it can actually start to unlock more abundance and happiness into your life. Yeah, there are all tons of successful people out there who cheat on their wives and who uh don't respect their partners.
(03:30) Their money may be great, but maybe they're heavily addicted to drugs or maybe they're, you know, constantly in an anxiety state or constantly in a depressed state or they're not happy with their children or maybe they're they're underlying health conditions, etc. The point I'm trying to make here is that's money success you're looking at, not life success.
(03:45) I'm talking about life success, financial, physical, mental, everything ultimately leading up to a happy state because that's exactly what we're chasing here. We're all chasing happiness. And so what I'm talking about is optimizing for life or happiness success. Now how a man treats the woman beside him pretty much determines that.
(04:04) His peace, his clarity, his purpose, whether he rises or whether he quietly just falls apart. See the ancient stages, they understood this with precision. They literally left a set of laws for us to understand how we should be about how a woman should be towards a man, how a man should be towards a woman, and how a relationship should look.
(04:19) What love is versus what attachment really is. What aligned relationships look like versus what misaligned relationships look like. And actually what misalignment can even do to your life versus what alignment can do to your life. When you start to break these laws, life starts to get heavier than it should because you're playing with forces beyond the human body.
(04:34) But when you live in alignment with these laws, everything starts to compound in the right direction for the better. So the first law is masculine men never argue with women. And it has nothing to do with dismissing her or thinking that he's superior. See according to Vedic philosophy, the masculine and the feminine, they operate completely differently.
(04:52) The feminine is like water, fluid, expressive, flowing. When she's upset, she needs to move that energy through expression. The masculine, he's like a mountain, steady, unmoved, grounding. His role isn't to match her storm with another storm. When a masculine man argues with a woman, he's meeting water with more water. So he's creating a flood.
(05:11) He's abandoning his role as a stable foundation. He's being reactive instead of actually responsive. He's operating from surface emotions rather than from stillness. Now when a masculine man stays steady, he becomes the mountain rock that guides her flow. He provides safety for her to express without chaos.
(05:27) He doesn't take her emotions personally. He remains the anchor whilst the storm passes. Now this isn't about being passive or dismissive. It's about understanding that arguing doesn't solve emotional situations. Presence does. Stillness does. Safety does. A masculine man knows her emotions aren't an attack on him. It's just energy moving through her.
(05:48) His job is to hold space, stay conscious, and understand the root, and definitely not to fight it. When she's in chaos, his calm is the thing that gives her something solid to come back to. That's the job. That is what the masculine is meant for in that moment. I mean, isn't it interesting how even our biologies show this? Her hormones are cyclical each month.
(06:07) Literally every week she feels and operates differently depending on the phase that she's in her menstrual cycle. But us men, we have steady hormones throughout the whole month. Now, if I said to you, "Hey, there are these alien species where one type changes every day and the other is the same. They both are attracted to each other, you would naturally assume the one that stays the same is going to be the grounding force for the one that's changing.
(06:28) " And this isn't just one tradition's insight, by the way. This isn't just Vedic philosophy. Even in Hebrew scriptures, there's a line that literally indicates the same thing. "A man who is slow to anger is greater than a warrior, and the man who rules his own spirit is greater than the one who conquers a city." Essentially saying that if you can rule yourself, you are better than anyone else.
(06:44) In the Islamic text, too, the strong man is described as not the one who overcomes others by force, but the one who controls himself while in anger. So, literally again, restraint. Ram, Krishna, Moses, Jesus, Buddha, greatest personalities or God, depending on how you see it, what did they all preach? Restraint, safety, assurance, calm, care, not anger, ego, winning, or humiliation.
(07:09) Even stoicism, too, Marcus Aurelius, essentially when you argue, you're only losing your own state. The Vedic sages made it so clear. The real strength was never out there in the fight. It was always inside you, in whether you can rule yourself. That's the masculine lesson to learn. That's the core dharmic principle of a man.
(07:25) Now, you're probably wondering at this point, "Sure, sounds great. I can be a grounding force, but firstly, if she's being unreasonable, when do I get my point across? And secondly, why should me even caring about my dharma even matter?" See, firstly, what you need to understand is when you're not following your dharma, everything starts to fall apart in your life.
(07:43) Now, Dharma is one of the most profound concepts in the Vedas. It can be simple and it can also be very, very complicated. So, I'm going to define it in a very simple way. It's essentially defined as your highest, most authentic, most aligned self following your most aligned duties and purpose according to your soul. Now, to find your Dharma is to find your a most aligned self and path.
(08:03) Now, the Vedas explain that when you protect your Dharma, your Dharma protects you. Meaning, when you follow your Dharma, your highest, unique self and purpose, you're aligning with what the universe intends for your soul. Meaning, you have the backing of the universe. So, when you have the backing of the universe, you don't face the same kind of blockages or challenges because you're in alignment.
(08:22) Now, when you're misaligned with your Dharma, meaning you're not following your Dharma, that is where problems start to arise left, right, and center. You're essentially in that moment outside of alignment with your soul, who you are, and where you what you're meant to be doing, and where you're meant to be going.
(08:36) It's why you see majorly successful men or women, especially in corporate because it's very common, so much money, but other parts of their life a mess because they're not in alignment with who they are or what they're meant to be doing. They're optimizing their life for money, not Dharma or alignment. You see, the Vedas, they speak about the Dharma of a man, the purpose, the duty, the sacred role, and aligned state of a man.
(08:56) As a man, you should be following your Dharma. And the act of following your Dharma as a man aligns you to universal order. Now, I keep speaking about Dharma of a man, so what exactly does that mean in this context? The Dharma of the masculine in this context specifically is to take care of the feminine through structure and safety.
(09:14) A man's Dharma is described throughout all the stories in the Vedic text and the all the sages' interpretations as the grounding force for the women beside him. Not her ruler, not her child, her grounding force. The steady earth that she can storm against and not be swept away because he doesn't move.
(09:32) He guides with safety, with stillness, with structure. You're literally designed as a man biologically and spiritually to give her steadiness and safety. You don't have a monthly cycle. You have a steady state. You don't live in constant anxiety about your safety as a man. You can easily give it to yourself. In order to align with the universal order and then basically unlock all the blessings that come with that, you need to be practicing your Dharma as a man, which is ensuring that she can trust you, she feels safe around you, and she feels
(09:56) respected by you. Emotional safety is just as important as physical safety for her. So, when you follow your Dharma and you take care of the feminine and you provide her safety and care, and you don't get into this ego battle against her, but rather follow your duty of being a grounding force, providing safety, and actually learning your dharmic lesson as a man to control your own emotions, you're essentially entering purpose and duty of alignment, and the universe works with you.
(10:19) You will naturally start to find success in other areas of your life because you're becoming more aligned with your soul's lessons, purpose, and duties. You're following Dharma. And the Vedas go even clearer on this, where Dharma is being followed, abundance and blessings flow through alignment. This is how it goes.
(10:35) When you argue with her, you stop making her feel safe. When you stop making her feel safe, you fall away from your dharmic duties as a man. You enter misalignment. You block everything, all the blessings, all the abundance, all the protection. Now, let me be clear about what this looks like in practice because it gets misunderstood constantly. This is not stonewalling.
(10:55) This is not going silent. This is not walking off, giving her the cold shoulder. And it's also not ignoring your own emotions, either. That is not dharmic because you're not giving her safety in that moment. If anything, you're just fueling more anxiety. The dharmic principle is to give her safety through a grounding force, meaning you need to be able to understand your own emotions just as much as give space for hers.
(11:14) This isn't a crazy woo-woo principle, by the way. There are literally studies on this. In the year 2000, psychologist Shelley Taylor argued that women, on average, they respond to stress differently than men. So, according to biology, when men get stressed, they behave very differently to versus when women get stressed. According to the studies, is we get stressed as men, we go into fight, flight, action dominance.
(11:35) Women on the other hand, they go into seeking connection. And it's all to do with how our hormones operate. So, when men and women are stressed, they both release adrenaline and cortisol, which is basically the hormone that keeps you alert and the hormone that keeps you stressed. They both also release oxytocin, which is the hormone for bonding and connection.
(11:53) Now, in men, because of their higher testosterone levels, that bonding hormone has a very little effect. The testosterone overpowers and they want to solve, they want to fight, they want to dominate, they want to take action, they want to process internally, whatever it is, that's how they respond. Women on the other hand, because of the higher estrogen, the oxytocin, the bonding hormone, has a larger effect, meaning they want to seek more connection and bonding when they're stressed.
(12:15) So, you need to really get it through your head as a man that our bodies are just different, which means our hormonal functions are different, which governs how we feel, how we behave, how we operate. So, literally, biologically speaking, men's stress response is act and dominance, women's stress response is connect and nurture.
(12:31) Now, what does that tell you? That tells you the game is not to argue. The game is to make her feel safe as per ancient philosophy, as per biology. This act is literally how you can align yourself to universal order. If she feels safe, she can feel honored and she can trust you. If she feels that you're aligning with the divine universal order.
(12:49) Let's move into practicalities. Here's what I want you to do the next time you're in an argument with the feminine. First thing, shut up and listen. You will have your chance to speak, but that moment is not the time. When she's expressing, she is seeking safety in that moment, even if it is subconsciously.
(13:04) She is not seeking conflict. She wants your safety. So, do not speak. Women are more expressive. It's literally how they deal with their emotions. They just need to get it out. That's why they speak to their friends so much when they're going through something. Men, we don't operate like that. For us, it's get in the gym.
(13:17) For us, it's like meditate in a cave for 100 years. It's a different game for us. So, remember that. This is exactly how she deals with conflict. It is not a personal attack on you. And if you do think it's a personal act, you need to remember that that's just your ego getting in the way. This is your moment to practice removal of ego.
(13:33) That is the lesson to learn as a man to align to your dharma. I want you to imagine as a man that in that moment, you're essentially holding this giant container for her to just let it all out. Now, I really want to be clear here. This is not letting her speak just so you can speak. That's not the game here. That is not conscious behavior.
(13:49) That is ego because you're just letting her do what she wants just so you can go next. That's not how you deal with this. If anything, that's just you trying to win still. I need you to really understand this because what you're trying to do here is listen to what she's saying, remove your ego, get to the root, and understand exactly what she is seeking from you.
(14:05) Now, you get to the root by doing number two, question. So, asking questions, go deeper into what she's feeling and why. Show her that you care. Show her that you're listening. Show her that you're present, and it's you and her versus the problem rather than her versus you. Questions are the easiest way to navigate conflict.
(14:22) You're going deeper into helping solve things without your ego making attacking statements. Listen for the need underneath the words. The surface is never really the thing. Now, remember she can feel your energy. Women are sensitive beings, so you really need to be questioning from a pure place, a no ego place where you actually want to lead, and you actually want to serve her in that moment to help navigate things.
(14:42) If it's a question coming from ego, she's just going to sense it. The next one, you need to hold her. Like keep touch in the moment. When you're arguing, your nervous system starts treating your partner like a threat. So, she's okay with touch, something as simple as holding hands can send the opposite signal to her nervous system that this person is still safe.
(14:59) Studies have literally found that it can reduce physiological stress, improve the communication, and help couples recover after conflict. It's not that touch is a magic potion here, and it's going to solve everything. It just helps calm the nervous system enough that you can actually have a conversation.
(15:12) Number four, get your side across with gentle love and care. I don't want to go into details here of exactly how to speak because every person's different, and every situation's different. But, I'm going to say I strongly recommend studying nonviolent communication frameworks. And if you want me to make another video on this, I'm happy to make another video on this.
(15:28) But principally speaking here, here's what I want you to do. I want you to respond to her, not react to her. Meaning everything that you listen to, I need you to genuinely process it. Understand where both parties are coming from, where both can change. Show her that you're leading both you and her out of this conflict and making your relationship stronger.
(15:46) Show her nervous system that you're on her side. A way that you can do this is that you can sandwich everything that you want to say with how much you value each other. Everything lands better when someone fundamentally understands that you're not coming with malicious intent. So, if I repeatedly told you how amazing you are, how much I value you, how much I respect you, and I I actually showed it, it's going to land way better if I address something that was bugging me versus if I just went straight to telling you that you're the problem. I
(16:11) also really want you to see her in a child. Now, let me be clear. I'm not saying see her like a child, but I'm saying speak to her in a child. So, the same way that if it was your daughter in front of you, or your niece, or your younger sister, or your little cousin, and they're upset, what are you going to do? You're going to hug them.
(16:28) You're going to tell them that it's going to be okay. You're going to make her feel safe. You're going to make it clear that we're going to solve this. She is ultimately still that little girl inside. You have to remember that. So, when you come at dominating her and attacking her and trying to win this, you were just scaring that little girl.
(16:43) That's That's what's happening right there. So, you need to if you want to navigate the conflict, you need to make sure that little girl is feel safe, feels protected. Then you can communicate with her. This is how you hold steady as a man when she's going through her storm. You have to see it like you're not just managing her.
(16:57) You're giving her system something stable to lock onto and settle against, so her nervous system can regulate. So, understand this. Arguing doesn't solve emotional situations. Presence does. Stillness does. Safety does. So, the next time you feel that pull to win, to fire back, to prove your point, recognize what it is.
(17:17) That pull is just your ego. It's just a part of you that's not found a center yet. Now, the truth is is that if you master this, it shows up in other areas of your life. Yes, from an energetic lens, you found alignment in what you're doing with your relationship, and therefore you're aligning with universal order, and that shows up in other areas of your life.
(17:32) But, equally, if you are training yourself to be able to not react, not respond with ego, that is going to show up in your businesses, in your work relationships, in other aspects of your life. That's going to see positive results in your life. Speaking of positive results in your life, the next law is that if you disrespect the feminine, you will block all of your money.
(17:53) Now, I know how that sounds, and it sounds like superstition, or it sounds like a threat, like one of those lines that people throw out to scare you just into being nice. It's not that. That's not what I'm trying to do here. By the end of this, you're going to actually understand the mechanism behind how all this works, and it runs very deep.
(18:07) And I also want to say, when I say the feminine, I mean all feminine. I mean your wife. I mean your mother. I mean your sister. I mean any other female personalities in your life. Now, before I explain how it all works, let me just show you it working. So, if you look at all the most ancient stories there are across the entire Vedic philosophy, you will see that the men who disrespect the feminine, no matter how at the peak of their game that they are, they lose.
(18:31) Now, in the Vedas, there's this one story which perfectly depicts how when you disrespect the feminine, everything starts to fall apart. Now, in the Mahabharata, you can find out every other detail in your own time. But, what you need to know, there are two opposing families. You got the Pandavas, you got the Kauravas. The Pandavas are the good guys.
(18:46) These guys are aligned to integrity, higher order. They are aligned to purpose. They want to serve their people. The Kauravas, on the other hand, they want to take from their kingdom. They are misaligned. They are all about, "How can I not be integrous? How can I take from as much as I can? How can I achieve as much material success as possible?" The Kauravas have immense amounts of wealth.
(19:05) They have a large, large kingdom. Pandavas, on the other hand, have a very small kingdom. Now, the Kauravas overpowered the Pandavas in every way, which meant that the Pandavas were couldn't really get much. However, there was one particular moment that changed the entire trajectory of what happened between both families.
(19:21) When the Kauravas, basically the bad guys, took the wife of the Pandavas and humiliated her by disrobing her in public. That one single moment is the moment that everything started to fall apart for the Kauravas. Because what had happened in that moment is they had disrespected the feminine.
(19:41) And in response of her feeling unsafe and feeling disrespected and dishonored and humiliated, the forces that took place because of doing such a thing meant that the entire Kauravas lost everything by the end of it all. It basically started the unraveling of them losing and losing and losing. Eventually to the point where the Pandavas had way more than the Kauravas.
(20:02) That's just one example. Even if you look at another text from the Vedas called the Ramayan, which is basically another war, again, similar principle. You've got Ram on one side who is aligned to integrity, to purpose, to Dharma. You can see him as God, you can see him as a spiritual teacher, however you want to see him. But for this particular scenario, he is basically your ideal high conscious man.
(20:22) And Ravana is essentially your high value man today. He has all the wealth in the world. He is very intelligent. He is very powerful. He has massive armies, a massive kingdom, very built, has all the most beautiful women in the world. This guy can basically get whatever he wants.
(20:39) And they're both opposing each other. Ravana could keep going because he actually was a spiritual guy. He was just optimizing his life for material success. That was the situation. And he could have actually just kept going and doing that. He was very, very comfortable doing that. The moment things stopped, the moment he started to lose it all, was when he decided to disrespect Ram's wife, Sita.
(21:01) When he chose to take her away from Ram and he treated her poorly and he took her back to his kingdom and left her alone in a corner and just disrespect her, that is when everything in his fortune, in his luck, in his money, everything started to shift and unravel and that for the worst.
(21:19) Because what had happened was he had disrespected the feminine. Yes, he was technically operating from a place of ego already because he was optimizing his life for material success, but there's nothing bad per se about that. What really forced fate to change was because he had disrespected the feminine. That is where everything started to go for the worst.
(21:36) So, despite all of his wealth, all of his intelligence, massive amounts of armies versus Ram who really didn't have much at the time, Ram still won because Ram was following Dharma. Ravana had disrespected the feminine and when you disrespect the feminine, you are playing with forces that you can't control. I'm going to give you another story because this is not even Vedic philosophy here.
(21:52) If you look at King David, after he takes Bathsheba and orchestrates the death of her husband, his kingdom, it doesn't collapse overnight, but it starts to collapse over time from that moment. It literally is a slow unraveling the same way. First, his own family fractures and the son goes against the other son, then violence enters his home, then the civil war, etc.
(22:11) Slowly, the kingdom basically just collapses. When you disrespect the feminine, it's not the end of the story, but it's the crack that starts to impact everything else. Now, what's the actual mechanism here because it's easy just to say this law and just hope for the best, but it actually runs way deeper and it's actually quite logical.
(22:25) It's said in the Vedas that wealth and abundance will leave where women are dishonored. So, as a man who desires to build wealth and achieve big goals, it's quite literally your duty to respect and honor if you want to receive the full blessings of what the universe can provide. So, that means keeping her safe, keeping her respected, honoring her in every way, emotionally, spiritually, physically, and in return, her shakti, her divine feminine energy, can expand and thus the channel of abundance and wealth into the house. Honor her and her energy will
(22:53) multiply everything for you. It's literally cosmic law. Abundance, real money, real prosperity, real flow, it's all feminine energy in motion. It's Lakshmi. Lakshmi is a divine personification of wealth and prosperity according to the Vedas. She's seen as a divine feminine personality. And so, the way you treat the feminine in your life is the way that you're treating the very channel that wealth flows through.
(23:13) When you disrespect the feminine, you're insulting the very principle that manifests abundance. You're pushing the divine personality Lakshmi out of the home. She doesn't want to stay where she's being dishonored. You're basically cutting yourself off from the Shakti, from the power itself that's giving you everything.
(23:29) But, when you honor the feminine, you and your place becomes a place where Lakshmi actually wants to stay. You keep the channel of abundance flowing. You're aligning yourself with creative force of the universe. You almost have to see it like the feminine is the fertile ground of your life, your home, your relationships. It's essentially the receptive nourishing field where everything you're trying to build actually takes root.
(23:47) Treat that ground with contempt and you've sabotaged the harvest before you even planted a single seed. Honoring the feminine doesn't mean that you become a doormat. It doesn't mean people pleasing. It doesn't mean walking on eggshells. It doesn't mean abandoning your standards. And it doesn't mean just handing over your spine to keep people happy. I'm not saying that.
(24:02) That's not honor. That's fear wearing a costume of respect, and she can feel the difference. She will sense that you are still unstable in that scenario. Honor is not weakness. A man can hold a firm boundary and still be deeply respectful, and if anything, more respectful because of the boundary.
(24:17) Real respect actually requires a spine because respect given out of fear isn't respect, it's submission. And submission is actually a form of disrespect. You're not honoring her in that case, you're managing her. What I'm actually talking about is deep service from a place of security. You can lead, hold your frame, disagree, and still treat the feminine as sacred.
(24:36) Those things are not in conflict. The strongest men hold all of them at once. How does this all connect to dharma? See, what we're talking about here is that dharma is about your most authentic, most aligned self living in your most aligned duties. Part of the dharma of the masculine is to protect and honor the feminine, not to dominate her, not to diminish her, to honor her.
(24:54) When you do that, you're in alignment and abundance flows through alignment. When you disrespect her, you commit something called adharma, which is basically saying that you're going against dharma. You fall out of alignment with the universe. Now, remember what we said, when you protect your dharma, your dharma protects you.
(25:07) So, the reverse is also true. When you violate it, you lose the protection. You step outside the order that was carrying you. And now you're on your own, pushing against the current instead of riding it. There's literally a line from the Vedas that says that when women are honored, the divine is present.
(25:20) Where the feminine is revered, the gods themselves rejoice. And where she is dishonored, all actions, all rituals, all efforts, they bear no fruit. So, think about that last part there. Where the feminine is dishonored, all efforts bear no fruit. You can work, you can hustle, you can grind, and it comes to nothing.
(25:36) You probably seen this before in, I don't know, your own or other people's businesses that their wife's not happy and their business is also not successful. And this isn't just one tradition, by the way. Even Prophet Muhammad, he said the best of men are those who are best to their women. Hebrew scriptures, same thing. Proverbs literally says that the man who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor.
(25:55) Favor, blessing, flowing directly from how he holds her. Across the traditions, the same thread keeps surfacing. Honor the feminine and blessings follow. Dishonor her and it withdraws. Now, you're probably sitting there with this obvious objection, but I see disrespectful men with money all the time. I know guys who treat women like trash and they're successful.
(26:09) So, how does this hold up? So, let's firstly deal with that. Money is not the same as abundance, and it's not the same as blessings. You can have a pile of money and a cursed life. Rich, unable to sleep. Rich, surrounded by people who vanished the second the money did. Rich, hollow. That's not Lakshmi in your home.
(26:23) That's not divine feminine abundance in your home. That's money squeezed out at the expense of everything that makes money worth having. These people are optimized for money, not for alignment. Secondly, the law never promised the consequences arrive tomorrow. That's exactly why people don't consider it seriously.
(26:38) The disrespect and the collapse, they don't happen next by each other. You know, the stories I just mentioned, Ravana, the Kauravas, King David, it didn't happen overnight. It started the unraveling. And by which point you end up losing it all, you're not even thinking about what actually started it in the first place. So, you can never really trace it back to what happened.
(26:53) And here's the part that's not even spiritual. If you take a man who's continuously disrespecting his wife, the research literally finds that in months down the line, he's going to have poor sleep. He's going to have chronic stress. He's going to have elevated cortisol. He's going to have worse decision-making. And then obviously that's going to have an impact on his work.
(27:08) Now, you could argue, "Well, that's his work. It's the spreadsheets causing the problem." Well, is it really the spreadsheets or is it him? And is it really him or is it really the situation of how he's leading his wife at home? Now, let's get practical here because respect the feminine is pretty much useless if you don't know what it actually looks like.
(27:21) Well, first thing I want you to understand is what exactly is disrespect because a lot of it's very quiet. It's not just yelling or cheating. It's the contempt. It's the arrow. It's the dismissive tone. It's the way you half listen with your phone and you don't really treat her like a person that you care about. It's mocking her in front of your friends and calling it a joke.
(27:38) It's making her feel like the words don't really land even though her feelings are actually real. Most men who disrespect the feminine would swear that they don't actually disrespect because it's actually always quiet stuff. So, honor is the exact opposite of all that. So, here's what I want you to do. First things first, be conscious of what makes her feel unsafe.
(27:53) The highest form of respect is to actively be conscious of what makes someone feel safe versus unsafe. So, if she wants you to unfollow a girl because it makes her feel insecure or sad or emotionally upset, your priority is her safety. Meaning, you unfollow the girl. Or she feels uncomfortable about how you speak to girls when she's not there, you need to essentially be conscious of the little things.
(28:12) Safety is built through consistent micro actions and that safety is what makes her feel respected. Secondly, express appreciation regularly. Acknowledge the qualities, not just the appearance. So, I love how thoughtful you are. You make people feel welcome. I admire how you handled that. Give her her freaking love language. Whatever it is, figure it out, be a man, lead her, give her the love language.
(28:32) Number three, create emotional safety for her. Don't mock vulnerability. Don't weaponize what she confides in you. Don't shame her for her emotions. You can disagree, but you can still be respectful. The same way if there was a public person out there who didn't know you personally, you wouldn't be rude to them.
(28:49) Even if you disagreed, you'd be respectful. It's the same principle applies. Why does it not apply to the person who actually loves you and cares for you and wants to be with you? Number four, never let her feel humiliated or questioning where she stands. So, I'm not talking about dating here. I'm talking about when you're actually committed with this person.
(29:03) She needs to know that she can trust you. She needs to know that you're a reliable rock for her. The next thing is you want to make her feel chosen, not tolerated. A lot of men make their woman feel tolerated. Do not do that. There is a world of difference between feeling like you were tolerated, things are happening out of obligation, versus feeling chosen.
(29:20) A woman who feels honored becomes a generative force in your life. She pours back everything you pour in and then more. And a woman who feels merely tolerated slowly withdraws her energy and you're going to watch the lights dim across the whole house without understanding why. So, make her feel chosen.
(29:36) Number five is I want you to mean it. This is the one thing that ties everything together. Respect just for the sake of performance is not going to get you what you want. Just for the sake of trying to get money and unlock your abundance and whatever, that's not how this law works. The honor has to be real.
(29:49) You're not honoring her to get something. You're honoring her because the feminine is genuinely sacred and the abundance is what flows when you actually live that, not when you fake it for the reward. So, the mentality that you need is your dharma as a man is to lead and care for her and that means honoring and respecting her and making her feel safe.
(30:05) Let duty to your higher moral aligned self, let that be your motivation, not the money or the abundance. Those are just ways to understand it. Even if you look at Vedic astrology, the planet that governs the feminine, love, relationships, the wife, that's Venus. And Venus also governs luxury, comfort, beauty. So, the good things about your material life.
(30:23) It's the same planet. In some sense, according to some Vedic astrologers, when you disrespect the feminine, you're also creating conflict with the very planet that controls your material success. But when you honor the feminine, you're also strengthening your Venus, which in turn leads to more material success.
(30:37) And finally, I really want you to understand not to treat her like just a second person next to you. She is your partner. Treat her as an equal. Treat her as [snorts] someone with you, not behind you. Not someone that you just tag along for the journey. So, to close this off, I really want you to understand that wealth is not just something that you chase.
(30:54) It's something that you can attract when you follow the right principles and you follow the right laws. The divine feminine principle of wealth, Lakshmi, she enters your home when you are following the right higher order. Thank you so much for watching, listening, and engaging with this. Please, please, please comment your thoughts.
(31:08) Comment anything, any of your realizations from this. And do let me know if you want a part two on this because I have plenty of more laws to go through. And feel free to comment any other things that you want me to talk about.